Are you really as good as you seem?

Are you really as good as you seem?

Labels: RBW Perspective / Renaissance Black Man

The above are images that represent 8 of my favorite blog men. I tried to be creative and add pics instead of the usual link to their blog (mad at soumy for not having a REAL pic for me to jack, and James Tubman doesn't have anything so I had to improvise); the blog world is small anyway so we all know who they are. They have spit a lot of knowledge on their blogs and my day truly wouldn't be complete if I didn't stop by everyday to see if they've written something new. A lot of what these men talk about is relationships. If not on their own blogs they comment on mine and other RBW's with their 2 sense when we write about them.
They always "seem" to have all the answers. Saying they would never lie in that situation, or that they always keep it real, or the way that they whine and dine their lovers, or the fact that they can lay the pipe and are truly uncomfortable unless they have on a magnum XL condom because any other size would be far too tight on their man-part.

They know what to say to get our blog personalities racing. They know what to write to ensure a certain type of comment. Let's face it fellow ladies... We are like putty in their hands, or should I say blogs. We are at work and every free moment we get we are checking for them to see if they have a new post, or if they commented on a post of ours, wanting their insight on everything that is life.
So I ask again, are they really as good as they seem? Would they be that charming if we went out on a date. Are they really as good in bed as their sexual experiences are professed. If we ask the girl on the other end of that stick, would she maybe say "he should have rocked the Lifestyles snugger fit because that XL was slipping off."

In the blog world these men seem perfect. Actually, one of them has even professed to be:
"I was the perfect man...Sheeeeetttt, I was even cooking and helping clean that person's crib."

They have us wishing we had a man that wanted to experience us in this way:
"I felt I would experience a woman in the following way: Meet an attractive woman. Be charming. Treat her like a lady. Take her out. Show her a great time. Exchange pleasant and romantic conversation. Carefully listen to her when she spoke ... and every now and then, do something special for her like shower her with flowers, cards, poems, roses, perfume, and of course, pay a bill for her or something. Yeah, I cannot lie, I have paid a bill here and there."

These men are smart, cultured, suave, debonairre, love the music that we do, write eloquently, and some of them have opened up to us in a way that they would never open up to their significant others. So why again are you single? Why hasn't some special RBW snatched you up yet? I know your going to answer that you had one and let her get away because you weren't as deep as you are now, and now only freaks of nature approach you right???

Nah, I beg to differ. I challenge my blog brothers to come out and tell us their faults, tell us your insecurities and things that scare you about life. We are tired of the buttercup posts that put you on a pedestal far beyond any men we have met in real life. I want to know your flaws and all. Tell us when you've done a chick dirty on a date, or if you let a chick go down on you knowing damn well you aint shower that day. We promise we'll still love you! Maybe its something as simple as you snore ridiculously and uncontrollably loud. Or maybe you lost ya damn mind for a second in your life and brought yourself to raise a hand at a female.

Now I am not at all trying to belittle you. I know you guys are wonderful in all your dimensions. I have a complex with a couple of your heights but for the most part your not bad looking men either (Cant speak for Soumy and James -ugh!) But it would be nice to get some comments and posts that are not what you think we women want to hear. Because you know women make the world go round and your not blogging for yourself, your blogging for us.

Remember that line in Love Jones when Nina said to Darius "You have all the answers don't you?" And he replies all suave, "Nah, just all the questions!" These men embody that same swagger that Darius had when he said this.

So blog men, are you really as good as you seem?