Thoughts to Ponder : Being cynical about love

I wish I smoked cigarettes because than it would make sense for me to have this track on repeat

I've shut down... I am officially in cynical mode after last night
A couple quotes that I am choosing to live by at the moment

Love is only a dirty trick played on us to achieve continuation of the species.
~W. Somerset Maugham


Love is a sweet tyranny, because the lover endureth his torments willingly. ~Proverb

Forget love - I'd rather fall in chocolate! ~Sandra J. Dykes

Hate leaves ugly scars, love leaves beautiful ones. ~Mignon McLaughlin

If I love you, what business is it of yours? ~Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

Love is an ocean of emotions entirely surrounded by expenses. ~Lord Dewar

People who are sensible about love are incapable of it. ~Douglas Yates

The excesses of love soon pass, but its insufficiencies torment us forever.
~Mignon McLaughlin

True love comes quietly, without banners or flashing lights. If you hear bells, get your ears checked. ~Erich Segal

Love is being stupid together. ~Paul Valery

Lust fades, so you'd better be with someone who can stand you.
~Alan Zweibel and Jessie Nelson

We are all a little weird and life's a little weird, and when we find someone whose weirdness is compatible with ours, we join up with them and fall in mutual weirdness and call it love. ~Author Unknown

Love is a smoke made with the fume of sighs. ~William Shakespeare

Love is the self-delusion we manufacture to justify the trouble we take to have sex.
~Dan Greenburg

When one is in love, one always begins by deceiving oneself, and one always ends by deceiving others. That is what the world calls a romance. ~Oscar Wilde

Love isn't blind, it's retarded. ~Don Foster and Susan Beavers

All love is probationary, a fact which frightens women and exhilarates men. ~Mignon McLaughlin

Love is a gross exaggeration of the difference between one person and everybody else.
~George Bernard Shaw



Kim Fields said it better than I ever could

40 comments

Ma'at December 18, 2008 at 1:36 PM

*hugs* I put that song on repeat when I'm feeling up in arms about love and it's counterparts. Even though I don't smoke, it seems to do the job. Shall I bring you some chocolate and a book full of fine brothers to distract you?

Amber-Alert December 18, 2008 at 1:57 PM

love stinks lol (in just in that type of funky mood)

Monique December 18, 2008 at 2:06 PM

Whew chile! that song. Hphm! Story of my life. That's how I felt last Friday night. Wanting to chain smoke while wondering - Lawd ham mercy! But you know what, eventually it will pass. that's one thing about us women, we are resilient. ;)

Super Dave Van Buren December 18, 2008 at 2:07 PM

Kim Fields poem was hot. Take care babe.

contagiouslyCRANKY December 18, 2008 at 2:28 PM

I feel you on all of the above... p.s. i just stole that picture!!

Ms. Minnie December 18, 2008 at 2:58 PM

Forget love - I'd rather fall in chocolate! ~Sandra J. Dykes

THIS ONE IS MY FAVORITE!!

but love when pure can be the most beautiful thing in the world...it'll happen for us in due time Eb

*smile and eat LOTS OF CHOCOLATE..LOL*

Jane December 18, 2008 at 3:29 PM

Thank you so much for reminding me how wonderful Tweet's first album was ...I just added to my Amazon Christmas Order....

clnmike December 18, 2008 at 3:31 PM

Lol, I love the quotes.

BTW you are primed for a semipro relapse bet money.

Keith December 18, 2008 at 3:46 PM

Kim Fields Poem was Hot..I'm sorry I missed that when it originally aired. (I loved me some Def Poetry
jam)..

Don't give up Eb, Don't get cynical.. Mister Right Now is probably closer than you know..and you want to be in the right frame of mind when you cross paths..

Tuotierugif >^..^<© December 18, 2008 at 4:01 PM

I love all those quotes! <3 and Kim fields says it best!!!

Ms. Lovely December 18, 2008 at 4:08 PM

"We are all a little weird and life's a little weird, and when we find someone whose weirdness is compatible with ours, we join up with them and fall in mutual weirdness and call it love." ~Author Unknown

my favorite one

Awww Eb...dontchu wish you could just turn off your emotions like a switch?..*sigh*. Yes, please take care lovely *hugs*

Creative1k December 18, 2008 at 4:18 PM

How about this one? I jam it on the regular!!!


I'm Done by Tweet

Stretched this sista more than a mile!!!!

Thoughts of a Southern gal December 18, 2008 at 4:25 PM

When I first heard that song, I played it out. I don't smoke cigarettes but I understand. Tweet did the damn thing on that song.

I hope you get to feeling better. Love is a mf!

Eb the Celeb December 18, 2008 at 5:39 PM

@Ma'at - No need for the book of brothers... I am rejecting my pussy... but a tall bottle of Moscato will do



@clnmike - I'm mad you got bets going... you'll prolly lose your money on this one though

@creative1k- OMG... I forgot about that song... have it on right now and just changed my myspace profile song to that... thx for the reminder

Tima And Nasha December 18, 2008 at 6:57 PM

Kims poem was right on POINT!
Tima

CurvyGurl December 18, 2008 at 7:26 PM

Wow, I didn't know Tootie had the fiyah!

I definitely can relate to where you are right now. Sometimes ish doesn't make sense until you've had a chance to step back for a while. Hang in there, sis!

Kryssy December 18, 2008 at 7:28 PM

Yo... why did I read the second quote too fast, and I thought it said "Love is a sweet tranny..."
I was like.. Huh????
Damn shame. LOL

Charles December 18, 2008 at 7:44 PM

I'm mad that Clnmike is bettin money on you though.

I don't think you should be getting all cynical and thinking that love is for the birds and such because of one, relatively bad experience. You shouldn't shut yourself off to possibilities because you never know when that perfect person for you is going to cross paths with yours. Sometimes you can have love with your chocolate, or enjoy chocolate with the one you love. Or if you're into that sort of thing, chocolate on you and the one you love...if you're into that sort of thing that is...

-Charles

Jewelry Rockstar December 18, 2008 at 8:47 PM

I agree with Creative 1K "I'm Done" is a good Tweet song for this time in your life. Also, "Small Change" is a good one if he tries to come back on his knees.

MzInspiredMind81 December 18, 2008 at 8:50 PM

I agree w/ each and every quote or thought. I have to say...'love' is a true four letter word...SIGH

The Man December 18, 2008 at 9:48 PM

There is nothing wrong with being cynical about love, you can't trust what you can't control, You can't believe in something that's let you down too many times. Every once in a while cynicism brings you back to reality.....

but i love the Shakespeare quote:

Love is a smoke made with the fume of sighs. ~William Shakespeare

i know Ive fogged it up in my Time

Miss BB is... December 18, 2008 at 10:46 PM

Can I just tell you, and I KNOW this wasn't necessarily the point of this post, that IN MY OPINION you're not going to be able to be "just friends" with Semipro b/c there are still MANY feelings (I can only speak about yours b/c I don't know his) sitting right out in the open. I think its POSSIBLE to be cool with him later on but this soon? I really don't see it.

As for the cynicism, I haven't been in love yet but I do trust that when its RIGHT and when its FOR YOU, there will be no cynicism. In due time, babes...IN DUE TIME.

Eb the Celeb December 18, 2008 at 11:09 PM

@Miss BB - Do you have a tap on my phone? He called me this afternoon... I didn't want to answer, but I did... I'm like I can be a big girl about this... Talking about absolutely nothing... I ended the convo with we cant be friends right now so the small talk isn't going to work anymore. I know I can't be his friend and quite frankly dont think I have to... hell I can't get what I want out of the situation so he can't get what he want. i"ll be cordial, but I cant be his friend.

Ma'at December 19, 2008 at 1:03 AM

okay I'll still bring the book I can look at it while you eat the chocolate and drink lmao. Actually on second thought, looking at my own blog perhaps I should join you in the pussy rejection. All that heffa does is get me into trouble.

MzTeeJaye December 19, 2008 at 1:27 AM

All I can say is..wow!
And you've been tagged

Darius T. Williams December 19, 2008 at 8:13 AM

I love all these...and that Tweet song is probably one of my faves by her!

Lovely and Lively December 19, 2008 at 1:33 PM

those quotes are so true!! and kim definitely set the record straight!!! she was preachin!! LOL

Urban Thought December 19, 2008 at 1:37 PM

I'm not one for cigs but Tweet did a mighty fine song about it. Yo... I feel where you are coming from right now. I'll leave it at that.... Just know you aren't alone.

TravelDiva December 19, 2008 at 1:50 PM

Well, hopefully, you're just in that space right now. You're too young to give up!

CapCity December 19, 2008 at 3:02 PM

DAYUUUMMMM I needed to HEAR that Kim Fields piece! Thanx Li'l Blog-Sis! & thanx 4 coming by to let me know 'bout the nyc-blog-sistahs nite out, but I gotta get things done before I head to DC for the holidays! Take care & have a drink 4 the sistah who ain't there;-).

Jackie E. December 19, 2008 at 9:48 PM

i don't even know which quote i like best cause i think i liked them all!! one way or another they all speak the truth at one time or another in our lives...

loved the kim fields poem too!

but you know, love, or whatever you want to call it, often comes when we least expect it, so who knows eb, it might be just around the corner for real! keep the faith!!

Miss Toya December 19, 2008 at 11:38 PM

Love isn't blind, it's retarded. ~Don Foster and Susan Beavers


I like that one! LOL

Miss Definitely Maybe December 20, 2008 at 10:12 AM

love can be the most wonderful feeling in the world until some guy f*cks it up lol

Oyin December 22, 2008 at 1:00 AM

I just stole your pic...I need this one


thanks, Kim was telling it for real...

Fluff The Artist December 22, 2008 at 10:43 PM

Have a seat, and a drink with me Miss Eb.

I think allot of people are saying, exactly that this year. I'm even starting to think that love, is something more fickle then fact. How long, can people stay interested in each other. Or more important, how do you end up not ending up, like an ass at the end. I'll share my secrets, as soon as I find the answers to them. Until then, the bar is open until 4a.m. Just make sure, you've got cab fare and an escort.

suga December 23, 2008 at 11:33 PM

Girl, I feel you. I definitely do.

And that poem was the shit!! lol

ill;kinda December 26, 2008 at 11:24 AM

man that was deep . I didn't even know she was a poet . I loved that .

SimpleGirl December 30, 2008 at 4:49 PM

I loved that poem from Kim Fields.
Why not live your life the way you want to. Without letting what happens to others affect you right?

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