Favorite versus ONLY

So this post was brought on by this new Day 26 song that I'm feeling

some lyrics that stuck out to me :

Girl I know you feel insecure
and wish that I was all yours

uuummm... duh... you done told the chick she's your favorite but that she ain't good enough to be your only and so she cut you off. Then you have the nerve to be so stuck on yourself that you tell her well you'll most likely be together later on. Like she's suppose to be just sitting around waiting on your arse to be ready to commit.

Your my favorite girl
We dont have a title
Every night I am think bout the times we spend
Why does it have to end so soon
Bottom line is I believe
Down the road that we can be
We'll see if your future includes me
Baby you gotta know

Is that suppose to make a chick feel better about herself or less insecure. Yo boo, I got like 3 other chicks but you're my favorite. You can't tell a person that. You have favorite foods, favorite underwear, favorite book or song or city. But you can't have a favorite person. Just like you can't have a favorite child...you can't have a favorite breezy unless there is no relationship involved and your just sexin'. Even then make this ish specific, she's my favorite at giving head, or she's my favorite for taking it from the back, or she's my favorite when I want to be rode. You dont hear people walking around talking about they have a favorite friend... NO... they say they have a best friend, a best man, etc. There can only be 1. There ain't a phrase for the best of the chicks you talking to...so don't go around telling chicks their your favorite unless the ultimate result is how Marques Houston meant it.

If he/she is special enough to be your favorite, 
than he/she should be special enough to be your only!


A.M. December 15, 2008 at 12:15 AM

gurl...you sure speak the truth. Guys be trippin n the sad part is, people walk around in their real life doing this craziness,
"you're my favorite girl, but just not good enough to be wifey."

I love the neg and postive fav girl songs though :) Very cute.

aeriin December 15, 2008 at 1:34 AM

yeaa those lyrics are pretty odd.

just stoppin by to say hi, haven't been around for a while :)

Shy December 15, 2008 at 1:46 AM

WORD!!! This song hurt my feelings because I relate to it so much...Damn, I want to be THE ONLY...f the favorite ish!

Jada December 15, 2008 at 9:32 AM

I sure feel you on this. Have you noticed the VAST difference in the love songs of our parents day vs. the nonsense they release today. Shit is kinda sad and super disheartening to know how far man/woman relationships have deteriorated over the years. Being a favorite just ain't good enough...but if enough women felt like that...we wouldn't have half the problems we do dealing with the opposite sex. Nice post.

CurvyGurl December 15, 2008 at 10:02 AM

I don't get it either, Eb. I think it's a mind game. The plethora of successful, beautiful, available women has to play a big part in this type of commitment phobia. What I wouldn't give to be a guy for a week to get a better understanding of how this whole thing works. Hope you're feeling better today.

Ms. Minnie December 15, 2008 at 11:54 AM


I'm mad that some guys think this is ok

And that some women just settle for that

Great post Eb =)

clnmike December 15, 2008 at 12:56 PM

Lol, I liked to see the gurl that believes that weak game.

Sha Boogie December 15, 2008 at 1:53 PM

I tell my oldest nephew that he is my 'favorite' all the time, LOL!

I am so mad @ u for thinking that was my tree, HAHA!

Anonymous December 15, 2008 at 2:01 PM

When I first heard this song, I liked it. The next time I sat down and listened to the lyrics. I haven't liked it since.

Monique December 15, 2008 at 2:49 PM

Gotdayum Eb! You done hit the nail on the head, girl! This explains alot about my situation!

Bella December 15, 2008 at 3:15 PM


A couple months ago when i found out my man cheated on me, he had the nerve to say "But you're the only one I cook for, you're the only one who's kids I watch, you're the only one this and the only one that."

I said "I shoulda been the only one period."

He shut up.

Great post!

Lovely and Lively December 15, 2008 at 3:48 PM

wow..that is crazy....i like day 26 alot but that is just a stupid song...i love love love this marques houston song...he is the truth and he look good too. but yeah i can definitely see the difference between these songs...one is sayin yeah i like you but you aint the only one. and the other is sayin yeah i like you and i want you to be the only one.. thats crazy though...

Eb the Celeb December 15, 2008 at 4:32 PM

@AM - yeah despite the dumb logic, I like both songs too

Heeeeeyyy aeriin

@shy - too many of my lovely RBW's relate to it

@jada - in a time where courting and chivalry is dead... I'm not surprised at all how the context of "love songs" have changed

@curvygurl - definitely a mind game to see if you're going to put up with their bull

@minnie - yes girl... to many of us settle... I cant stand girls that run around screaming you may have had him once but I have him all the time... are you serious?

@clnmike - I dont think its about believing game, I think its about a woman not feeling like she can do better or deserves better

@bella - exactly!

@lovely - ewe... you think marques is cute? I have no attraction to the man but I like the song...lol

1/3 December 15, 2008 at 4:44 PM

preach!! I had some guy tell me once I was number 1 on his starting 5. WTF? this isnt basketball!!!

I feel your frustration eb. whoever does this needs to be cut off asap!

Kryssy December 15, 2008 at 7:10 PM

*high five*

"music is my crutch. It gets me
through everything..."

PREACHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!! I am the same way. I will put the same some on repeat.. repeat... repeat!!! It just helps me deal.

and sorry about Semi-pro... unless you aren't.. then I'm definately not. LOL

Jackie E. December 15, 2008 at 7:24 PM

AMEN, AMEN, AMEN and AMEN!!! I need say no more!

Oh yeah and LOL at 1/3...

K@LiENTe December 16, 2008 at 12:41 AM


I'm glad u made this post...

crazy shyt huh?

n thanx for stoppin thru mamaz, keep up the music! music has gotten me thru many nights!

ill;kinda December 16, 2008 at 9:27 PM

I love that song by Marques, you're taking me back ! :)

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