Five love languages

Thanks to Princess Dominique, I was directed to this love quiz that determines which of the 5 languages of love are most important to you. Here are my results:

I feel love when...

My Primary Love Language is Quality Time

My Detailed Results:
Quality Time: 11
Physical Touch: 8
Acts of Service: 5
Receiving Gifts: 3
Words of Affirmation: 3

About this quiz

Unhappiness in relationships is often due to the fact that we speak different love languages. It can be helpful to know what language you speak and what language those around you speak.

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I think it was right on point for me. Quality time is definitely most important to me. I am a busy body, I do a lot of things, and I like to date men that have a lot going on too so their not nagging me all the time. The problem is finding those that have a balance, that will still make time to squeeze you in where they can, like I do. Not many men know how to balance that, especially if the little bit of time they have is usually spent with the boys, and they now have to still be cool to them, all while fitting in a new love interest.

Also I can see how receiving gifts and words of affirmation are the least important to me. Every chick loves to get gifts, but I have always been the person that didn't wait on someone to buy me something when I want it. I go get it myself. When it comes to affirmation, I have a problem with telling men my feelings so I never expect it to be easy for them to express there's to me either. When it comes to love, actions definitely speak louder than them just saying it to me.

Here is an explanation of the 5 languages:

Aside from verbal compliments, another way to communicate through “Words of Affirmation” is to offer encouragement. Here are some examples: reinforcing a difficult decision; calling attention to progress made on a current project; acknowledging a person’s unique perspective on an important topic. If a loved one listens for “Words of Affirmation,” offering encouragement will help him or her to overcome insecurities and develop greater confidence.

Quality time is more than mere proximity. It’s about focusing all your energy on your mate. A husband watching sports while talking to his wife is NOT quality time. Unless all of your attention is focused on your mate, even an intimate dinner for two can come and go without a minute of quality time being shared. Quality conversation is very important in a healthy relationship. It involves sharing experiences, thoughts, feelings and desires in a friendly, uninterrupted context. A good mate will not only listen, but offer advice and respond to assure their mate they are truly listening. Many mates don’t expect you to solve their problems. They need a sympathetic listener. An important aspect of quality conversation is self-revelation. In order for you to communicate with your mate, you must also be in tune with your inner emotions. It is only when you understand your emotions and inner feelings will you then be able to share quality conversation, and quality time with your mate. Quality activities are a very important part of quality time. Many mates feel most loved when they spend physical time together, doing activities that they love to do. Spending time together will bring a couple closer, and, in the years to come, will fill up a memory bank that you can reminisce about in the future.

Receiving Gifts. Some mates respond well to visual symbols of love. If you speak this love language, you are more likely to treasure any gift as an expression of love and devotion. People who speak this love language often feel that a lack of gifts represents a lack of love from their mate.

Acts of Service. Sometimes simple chores around the house can be an undeniable expression of love. Even simple things like laundry and taking out the trash require some form of planning, time, effort, and energy. It is important to do these acts of service out of love and not obligation. A mate who does chores and helps out around the house out of guilt or fear will inevitably not be speaking a language of love, but a language of resentment. It’s important to perform these acts out of the kindness of your heart. Demonstrating the acts of service can mean stepping out of the stereotypes. Acts of service require both mates to humble themselves into doing some chores and services that aren’t usually expected from their gender. However, these little sacrifices will mean the world to your mate, and will ensure a happy relationship.

Physical Touch. Many mates feel the most loved when they receive physical contact from their partner. For a mate who speaks this love language loudly, physical touch can make or break the relationship. Sexual intercourse makes many mates feel secure and loved. However, it is only one dialect of physical touch. Many parts of the body are extremely sensitive to stimulation. It is important to discover how your partner not only physically responds but also psychologically responds to these touches. It is important to learn how your mate speaks the physical touch language. Some touches are irritating and uncomfortable for your mate. Take the time to learn the touches your mate likes. They can be big acts, such as back massages or lovemaking, or little acts such as touches on the cheek or a hand on the shoulder. It’s important to learn how your mate responds to touch. That is how you will make the most of hugging, kissing, and other physical contacts.

18 comments

(fŭng'kē) [blak] [chik] December 8, 2008 at 9:25 AM

Your Primary Love Language is probably Words of Affirmation

Your Detailed Results:
Words of Affirmation: 10
Quality Time: 9
Physical Touch: 6
Acts of Service: 5
Receiving Gifts: 0

It's funny that in my last relationship, I had a man who would buy me anything, I didn't even have to ask. If I mentioned I saw something, within the next day or two it was mine. He felt in order to keep me happy was to shower me with gifts, but he was also doing that to over compensate for his 'ways', and to attempt to take the attention off of the fact that he was being unfaithful, but eventually I saw through it.

The one thing any man can ever do for me is to listen and not just hear what I'm saying. Quality time goes a lot farther with me than quantity ($) time as well.

Miss Mika December 8, 2008 at 10:21 AM

I found this book to be pretty insightful... my only thing is that as I was reading it, I noticed that more than one language really applied to me. I can't just say that one would make me the most happy because a couple of them went hand and hand in my opinion.

Good post Eb!

Kayos December 8, 2008 at 10:56 AM

This is an awesome quiz.

I'm a physical person. I must be the exact opposite of most females. I don't need gifts. Just Physical touch and quality time.

Tee aka The Diva's Thoughts December 8, 2008 at 12:14 PM

Very interesting! I'm going to take the quiz myself!

Sexxy Luv December 8, 2008 at 12:19 PM

i found this to be right for me, i tied with Words of Affirmation and Physical Touch i couldn't agree more! :)

clnmike December 8, 2008 at 1:43 PM

Now this seems fitting of what I think about you, heavy on time spent and hugs and kisses.

DFitz December 8, 2008 at 5:43 PM

I speak "gifts" visual reminders of I LOVE YOUS

R. Fitzgerald December 8, 2008 at 7:37 PM

I've always been a fan of this book. I recommend it to a lot of married couples who find that they just can't get it together. Usually it is because they are trying to give their love language to the other person as opposed to the one the other person wants. I hope that makes sense.

CurvyGurl December 8, 2008 at 11:55 PM

What a cowinkydink...I just picked up a copy of the book because I realized that I didn't pick up on my last friend's love language. Haven't read the whole book yet, but it made sense to me when I thought about how we missed the mark. Wish I had of read this a year ago...

Ms. Bar B: December 9, 2008 at 12:07 AM

Cool quiz, I'll have to try it out.

Darius T. Williams December 9, 2008 at 8:39 AM

I'm doing this when I get to work...ya know - during my down time - lol!

I just saw the Obama vid...I love those people!

ToshaRenelle December 9, 2008 at 10:21 AM

I did a post on this back in June.

http://tosharenelle.blogspot.com/2008/06/5-love-languages.html

The 5 Love Languages book and quiz are such eye openers!

Real Talk December 9, 2008 at 10:46 AM

that quiz was too hard...lol
i couldn't decide between one or the other with the OR questions...

CJ December 9, 2008 at 12:01 PM

I planned to post but still laughing at your parents:) Comedy!

Mizrepresent December 9, 2008 at 2:52 PM

I'm not surprised i scored really high on physical touch...

Physical touch = 10
Quality time = 9
Words of affirmation = 8

Brothers Blog December 9, 2008 at 4:19 PM

quality time 11
physical touch 7
words of affirmation 5

interesting.

blackwomenblowthetrumpet.blogspot.com December 9, 2008 at 10:58 PM

Hey there!!

This is a great quiz!

Can I link to your post on my blog?

Peace, blessings and DUNAMIS!
Lisa

Eb the Celeb December 10, 2008 at 2:02 AM

@(fŭng'kē) [blak] [chik] - its funny because the women that mostly want gifts are usually the ones that go after the ball players and CEO's... and then they still are incomplete

@Mika - I didn't read the book... maybe I will pick it up

@clnmike - did you take the quiz? I want to see what it says about you

@Rich - makes perfect sense... I think...lol

@Curvygurl - It would be interesting to see though if you had read the book and he knew what your languages were, if he would then try to enforce using them or if he would still go by what he is comfortable with... its easy not to compromise when your not married

@brothers blog - seems as if we speak the same love languages...we may have to hook up...lol

blackwomenblowthetrumpet - of course you can link... thx in advance

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