Five love languages

Five love languages

Labels: RBW Relationship Talk

Thanks to Princess Dominique, I was directed to this love quiz that determines which of the 5 languages of love are most important to you. Here are my results:

I feel love when...

My Primary Love Language is Quality Time

My Detailed Results:
Quality Time:	11
Physical Touch:	8
Acts of Service:	5
Receiving Gifts:	3
Words of Affirmation:	3

About this quiz

Unhappiness in relationships is often due to the fact that we speak different love languages. It can be helpful to know what language you speak and what language those around you speak.

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I think it was right on point for me. Quality time is definitely most important to me. I am a busy body, I do a lot of things, and I like to date men that have a lot going on too so their not nagging me all the time. The problem is finding those that have a balance, that will still make time to squeeze you in where they can, like I do. Not many men know how to balance that, especially if the little bit of time they have is usually spent with the boys, and they now have to still be cool to them, all while fitting in a new love interest.

Also I can see how receiving gifts and words of affirmation are the least important to me. Every chick loves to get gifts, but I have always been the person that didn't wait on someone to buy me something when I want it. I go get it myself. When it comes to affirmation, I have a problem with telling men my feelings so I never expect it to be easy for them to express there's to me either. When it comes to love, actions definitely speak louder than them just saying it to me.

Here is an explanation of the 5 languages:

Aside from verbal compliments, another way to communicate through “Words of Affirmation” is to offer encouragement. Here are some examples: reinforcing a difficult decision; calling attention to progress made on a current project; acknowledging a person’s unique perspective on an important topic. If a loved one listens for “Words of Affirmation,” offering encouragement will help him or her to overcome insecurities and develop greater confidence.

Quality time is more than mere proximity. It’s about focusing all your energy on your mate. A husband watching sports while talking to his wife is NOT quality time. Unless all of your attention is focused on your mate, even an intimate dinner for two can come and go without a minute of quality time being shared. Quality conversation is very important in a healthy relationship. It involves sharing experiences, thoughts, feelings and desires in a friendly, uninterrupted context. A good mate will not only listen, but offer advice and respond to assure their mate they are truly listening. Many mates don’t expect you to solve their problems. They need a sympathetic listener. An important aspect of quality conversation is self-revelation. In order for you to communicate with your mate, you must also be in tune with your inner emotions. It is only when you understand your emotions and inner feelings will you then be able to share quality conversation, and quality time with your mate. Quality activities are a very important part of quality time. Many mates feel most loved when they spend physical time together, doing activities that they love to do. Spending time together will bring a couple closer, and, in the years to come, will fill up a memory bank that you can reminisce about in the future.

Receiving Gifts. Some mates respond well to visual symbols of love. If you speak this love language, you are more likely to treasure any gift as an expression of love and devotion. People who speak this love language often feel that a lack of gifts represents a lack of love from their mate.

Acts of Service. Sometimes simple chores around the house can be an undeniable expression of love. Even simple things like laundry and taking out the trash require some form of planning, time, effort, and energy. It is important to do these acts of service out of love and not obligation. A mate who does chores and helps out around the house out of guilt or fear will inevitably not be speaking a language of love, but a language of resentment. It’s important to perform these acts out of the kindness of your heart. Demonstrating the acts of service can mean stepping out of the stereotypes. Acts of service require both mates to humble themselves into doing some chores and services that aren’t usually expected from their gender. However, these little sacrifices will mean the world to your mate, and will ensure a happy relationship.

Physical Touch. Many mates feel the most loved when they receive physical contact from their partner. For a mate who speaks this love language loudly, physical touch can make or break the relationship. Sexual intercourse makes many mates feel secure and loved. However, it is only one dialect of physical touch. Many parts of the body are extremely sensitive to stimulation. It is important to discover how your partner not only physically responds but also psychologically responds to these touches. It is important to learn how your mate speaks the physical touch language. Some touches are irritating and uncomfortable for your mate. Take the time to learn the touches your mate likes. They can be big acts, such as back massages or lovemaking, or little acts such as touches on the cheek or a hand on the shoulder. It’s important to learn how your mate responds to touch. That is how you will make the most of hugging, kissing, and other physical contacts.