MEME - If I were... and random questions
And a question of the day for MEN

jacked from Kay*

a month: I would be May because it means spring is in full bloom and summer is right around the corner. Plus its my birthday month.
a day of the week: Friday because its the last day of the work week and 2 days of rest are to come.
a direction: up, because the sky is the limit
a historical figure: I have always been a fan of Sojourner Truth
a kind of weather: 70's - 80's with a nice breeze... and clear skies. Any weather where you don't need a jacket at night, but wont die if you have anything more than a bikini on during the day
an animal: any wild cat (tiger or leopard)
a flower: purple orchid or pansy
a color: chocolate
a sound: saxophone because its so sexy
an element: carbon because diamonds are a form of it
a song: This constantly changes but right now it would be that new Teedra Moses So Kool
a book: Inside a Thug's Heart by Angela Ardis because I truly envy the relationship she had with 2pac and the letters he used to write her.
a food: macaroni and cheese
a place: Turks & Caicos
a material: Satin, because that's what I go to sleep on every night and because they never stay in place and I am the type of person that cannot be tamed just like them
a taste: thirst-quenching...lol, IDK that just sounds good
a scent: anything soft
a word: complex
an object: crackberry
a body part: legs
a facial expression: side eye
a time of day: When the sun next leaves footprints across the sky!



jacked from myspace

How many people have you kissed in 2008 that actually meant something?
2

Were you happy when you woke up today?
Always happy that God woke me up another morning

Do you hate the last person you kissed?
No

What are you listening to right now?
Janelle Monae Metropolis EP especially the new joint she added Smile for the official Bad Boy release on August 12th

Have you ever liked somebody and never told them?
Yes

What would I find if I looked UNDER your bed?
I have a sleigh bed so nothing is under there except probably some dust

What are you wearing?
tank and boy shorts

Are you texting anyone right now?
I just stopped

Do you like anyone right now?
That's still up in the air

Have you ever kissed someone and never saw them again?
No

Have you ever thought about getting your nose pierced?
When it first came out I wanted a tiny tiny tiny diamond that you could barely see

What can't you wait for?
To be 30... I just have a good feeling that is going to be my year

Have your parents ever smoked?
No

Do you want someone back in your life?
Yes, my grandpa JW... everything seemed to go so much smoother when he was alive.

Who was the last person who called you?
Some lady looking for Jr. I cant believe I have had this number for over 3 years now and I still have people calling me talking in Spanish. If I answered the phone Hello... and not Hola... then why do you think that I'm spanish... and I am a woman... so obviously this is not Jr's cell phone. It gets really bad around tax season... I guess that's what he did for a living because it really gets out of control.

Are you good at giving directions?
Yes

Would your parents be mad if you got pregnant /got someone pregnant?
No, both my sisters had babies and when I went home mom was pressing when I was going to give her some grandchildren... I told her she need to chillax with all that mess.

Rent a movie or go to movies?
Go to the movies

What did you eat last?
At 5 in the morn I was sitting in Westway diner with my peoples eating some scrambled eggs with cheese, Pancakes, and hot chocolate with whipped cream

Has anyone told you they missed you lately?
Nope (sigh)

Is your ex still in your life as a friend?
No as of late... we used to talk regularly but ever since he proposed to his new girlfriend he has been ghost.

Are you wearing any clothes that don't belong to you?
No

Would you ever steal someones boyfriend or girlfriend?
No, I believe in karma too much... unless it was Idris Elba

Mountains or the beach?
beach

When was the last time you cried?
Can't remember

Who's someone you miss?
I miss living in the same city as my family and being able to see them whenever I want

How many times have you been in love?
I have loved a couple but I have only been "in love" with 1

How many times have you had your heart broken?
Once

Do you hate people who are obsessed with things like High School Musical, Hannah Montana, and The Jonas Brothers?
Hate is such a strong word... and I know as a child I was into New Kids on the Block or whatever the equivalent would be so no.

Have you ever spread a rumor about someone?
Never started one but I sho did spread the word

Did you French kiss before you were 16?
I think I was 15

Who is the first person you think of when someone asks you who you like?
The forbidden one, but Semipro is a close second

Have you ever liked someone who all your friends hate?
Nope... I usually don't have them around my friends enough for them to dislike them

Do you prefer to call or text someone?
I prefer to receive a call if its someone I'm feeling, I prefer a text if its someone I aint

Were you bad in high school?
I wouldn't say "bad"

Would you take any of your ex's back?
No

Do you cry over girls/boys?
I don't but I have in the privacy of my own room

At what age did you start noticing the opposite gender?
Probably 3rd grade

Are you happy with your love situation?
Masterpiece of minimalism... so that's a no, I need me a summer love before the summer is over... ya'll know NYC summers are short... I got less than a month left.. dang!

Last boy/girl to hurt you?
The hick man

Would you fail your drug and alcohol test?
No on the drugs... and I'm not driving so I wouldn't have to take an alcohol test

Who's your favorite person to cuddle with?
If Semipro was acting right it would be him... and ugh and me knowing he is going to be at this party I am going to tonight. Will be interesting to see how we act after not speaking for over a week. I already got the "I'm too sexy and you can't deny me" outfit all in place... and will be with a group of my homeboys that he doesn't know so I know he's gone be looking...lol! The games we have to play.

_______________________________________________________

Sidenote - I met this cutie at the club last night. Caramel, had to be like 6'4. Has locks though... they were neat... but that's not my thing... But he was sexy so maybe he can get me to like them.

So the question for the day is :

What does it mean when a man asks you to take his number instead of asking for yours?
I have a complex about calling dudes first... so when he asked me to put his number in my phone, I told him to just take mine. I want you to show the initiative first. So he handed me his phone and I put my number in his. He had a raggedy old school cell phone btw too which was kinda a turn off which I didn't even realize until I saw it that I could be turned off by the type phone someone has. Anyway, what is the psyche behind taking someone's number versus giving yours men?

42 comments

RealHustla August 6, 2008 at 2:22 PM

It means that he has issues just like you do.

Stew August 6, 2008 at 2:26 PM

wow, you are turned off by a person's phone? didn't know that could happen.

anyhow, i give my number out ALL the time. you said that you want him to show initiative, well that is him showing that he is interested in you. you know as well as anyone else that you do not want just ANYBODY having you phone number. the fact that he does not have an issue about giving you his number should speak volumes. the was i see it, if i approach you and talk to you, then the least you can do is show me that you are interested by calling me.

clnmike August 6, 2008 at 2:40 PM

What does it mean when a man asks you to take his number instead of asking for yours?

He was trying to put the ball in your court, that way he knows how serious you are.

Ive done it before but usually with women that I am not really interested after their first impression.

Kinda like "well maybe there is something there but I am not going to waist time effort on it, trying to find out."

Super Dave Van Buren August 6, 2008 at 3:17 PM

I would say he wants to gauge your interest just as much as you want to gauge his. I've done both but there was no great reason behind it. That's just how it happened. We not that deep.. lol

Eb the Celeb August 6, 2008 at 4:13 PM

lol @ realhustla

@Stew - usually I am not... like I will joke on dudes for having a sidekick... which I hate... a grown man should not have a sidekick... kicks are for kids... and I am a bit of a digital junkie... and his phone was dumb old skool... looked like the first ever flip phone released... or something that you would get from one of those pre-paid cell phone services... and if you have a pre-paid cell phone that means you have bad credit... I mean they give out phones for free now that look a helluva lot better than the one he had...

@Dave - so I guess I'm just over analyzing again... I keep forgetting ya'll aren't that deep Dave...lol

Mr.Slish August 6, 2008 at 4:20 PM

I agree with Clnmike

Dude probably finds you interesting but isn't hard pressed.

Call and leave a message inviting him to Brunch this Sunday..G.Bar in the bronx has Fantastic Brunch.

Nothing wrong with making the first move. You are The Renaissance Woman right?

Eb the Celeb August 6, 2008 at 4:33 PM

@Slish - He has my number duh... I can't call him!

UnKnownDiva August 6, 2008 at 4:39 PM

my bad but i had to lol @ slish wit that smart a$$ mouth!!! lol

1980 August 6, 2008 at 5:25 PM

lol @ his phone being dumb old school!!!

and i agree with the fellas, its usually a good way to gauge a females interest. that way the ball is in the females court and it takes the pressure off us.

Pajnstl August 6, 2008 at 5:38 PM

lol I give people the side eye if their phone is current. I'm saying it needs to do more then make and receive calls. lol

Ticia August 6, 2008 at 5:46 PM

@LOLOLOLOLOLOLOL - I am so laughing right now -

I am turned off by OLD phones too - I had that happen to me-- I wanted to turn around -

At any rate - I love dreads...if neat .. they can be so sexy - at any

I believe a man should call you first....

Trina August 6, 2008 at 7:37 PM

Hello! There's nothin' "dread-ful" about LOCS!!! %)

Lovebabz August 6, 2008 at 8:10 PM

There is power in being in charge of the asking! I do not mean to manipulate...but power in being A GROWN WOMAN who can certainly ask a man out, call him or not, see him or not.

If you are intrigued then by all means call him and as Mr. Slish suggested perhaps brunch.

Eb the Celeb August 6, 2008 at 9:12 PM

@unknown - I know right... and look who done added a damn pic to they profile... you aint unknown anymore miss diva

@trina - I just prefer men that dont have more hair than me... so that leaves very little on top of their head

OG, The Original Glamazon August 6, 2008 at 10:40 PM

I'm not fond of hair on men either, I think it may be a southern gal thing, cause up here on Boston the men LOVE there hair!!

*lol*

I smell what you cooking Eb, but rules are made to be BROKEN!!

-OG

Qucifer August 6, 2008 at 10:51 PM

I prefer to have a number given to me,so that I call on MY own time, Only I don't call, A text should suffice

The Second Sixty-Eight August 6, 2008 at 11:15 PM

Okay Eb. I am gonna go ahead and tell you the ugly truth that the rest won't.

You need to work on that elitist attitude regarding his damn phone! You ain't ready to deal with a person with that kinda hang up! WTH? Call? SMDH...

And I have no idea what it means either way regarding exchanging phone numbers. I am way too pragmatic to worry about that stuff. But you knew that right?

12kyle August 6, 2008 at 11:19 PM

sorry i'm late with this one lil sis

if he gave you his number then i don't think he's that interested. back in my day (lol)...if i gave a female my number it was b/c i really wasn't interested and i thought..."if she calls, i might talk to her...or i might not."

i agree with the fellas. he was testing your interest but i think he probably wasn't that interested to begin with. maybe he just gave it...just b/c he felt it was the thing to do.

you aren't gonna "chase" this dude so i dunno about this one.

good post...

btw...i like the hard knock show on the cowboys. pretty damn good!

Melyssa Ganache August 7, 2008 at 1:40 AM

Hey Eb, I nominated you for a Brillante Premio Weblog Award! :)

Emeritus August 7, 2008 at 1:44 AM

a dude gives you his number... he's lazy and wants you to do all the work. a man will chase if he's interested.

doncha just love those myspace quizzes?

Keisha "Kitten" Isaacs August 7, 2008 at 1:48 AM

Hey Sistah!

I enjoyed reading this post...one of my things to do is have a top notch child care center and the name would be Skies the Limit! I almost forgot that was one of my dreams...thanks for choosing that as your direction!

G-Sweet August 7, 2008 at 2:12 AM

from my experience i do that to change it up a bit... it would be nice for a woman to feel what i feel and call me 1st... and it also shows that she is genuinely interested!... and it shows something in her character that i like.

good ques... and lmao @ 'turned off by a cell phone'

LovexHate August 7, 2008 at 8:39 AM

Interesting post.
I agree with you though, I prefer giving out my number rather than receiving theirs. Turns out the guy who gave me his number instead wasn't that interested in me.. so i guess it's true! lol but na.. i dunno because it was more complicated than that.

Thic Flair August 7, 2008 at 8:48 AM

I never have had a problem with giving my number out....not that I have had that many ops either.

The phone thing...that will be a new blog...coming soon.

UnKnownDiva August 7, 2008 at 9:23 AM

dang eb u right now i gotta go change my name & stuff when it took me 4eva to come up with that one! lol

K. August 7, 2008 at 9:38 AM

i tend agree w/ 12kyle & emeritus. when a guy is really interested he just isn't gonna be so laid-back and nonchalant. keep in mind u met him @ the club though...take everything & everyone @ the club w/ a grain of salt.

E2Deep August 7, 2008 at 10:13 AM

@Age- You want to be 30? Don’t rush your years!!!!

@Mysterious Phone Call- I have a similar problem...This guy has almost the same # as me; the last 4 digits 3718 his is 3817...that’s not the bad part...His NAME is the same as mine?!! WTF But he's African and has an Accent so when people accidentally call me...they say my name and I'm like "yeah"...than they say this is not _____ I'm like yes it is! lol Vice Verse people call him and think it's me playing around on the phone.

@ Question of the day- Sometimes guys don’t know if the girl is really interested in him, so he gives his # out. A girl can always give a number out and not really be interested, just to get rid of the guy.

Torrance Stephens - All-Mi-T August 7, 2008 at 10:34 AM

go with the heart and not the surface
too many men and women already look at the surface of a person and not at their character, home training or content

very insightful

Eb the Celeb August 7, 2008 at 10:52 AM

@Q - I wish a nig might text me as our first phone encounter... I definitely would not respond

@2nd 68 - If you saw it your would know what I'm talking about... My grandma has a more up to date phone then what he had

@kyle - I feel you because that was my reason for not taking his num... I prolly would have never called... I was really pressed... and I was a bit taken back by his initial approach in the first place which was the stare at me for 15 minutes and not turn away... I thought he was kinda crazy. My roomie was like dang... dude all in your grill... and I was like... I know right... so her cray drunk tail walks over and is like why you staring at my friend... and he tells her well I think she kinda fly can you introduce me... So she comes over with him and is like this is Eb, Eb this is ______________ . He seemed a little shy... but him staring was NOT a good look...

@Melyssa - IDK what that is but thx!

@G- sweet - where the heck have you been and when are you and the boys making that trip to NYC

@thic - ooohhhh lawd... I guess I opened a big can of worms with that one huh... I look forward to the post

@k. - it wasnt really the "club-club" I rarely go to the club for the sake of clubbing... it was an industry party... so everyone in there is somebody or a friend of someone who works in music/entertainment... he was actually with a dude I know that works at Jive so that's the only reason I was nice to him because any other dude that was just staring at me that long would have gotten told off.

@e2deep - OK, I wont complain anymore about my wrong number problems because yours is 10times worse than mine... that would irk the crap out of me

Qucifer August 7, 2008 at 11:32 AM

e2deep: that's exactly what I mean!!!I mean I don't know if this is everywhere but guys here in Fl have upgraded their Phone asking game and I kid you not for the last 3 times I've been put on the "let me call you" corner, THEY TRY THE NUMBER RIGHT THERE in front of me!!!!!!Is like, DAMN!! now I have no recourse other than save your name and never pick up!

But if a dude give me his number is on my terms and then if I'm interested I will shoot you a text with my real number which I will pick up and you can take it from there (yeah Eb I won't necessarily reply to a first date text thing but that's just me letting him know: " ok I called, here is my number Use It!"

THE PRINCESS "CC" August 7, 2008 at 12:14 PM

love the questionaire, makes you really think! and if a guy gave me his number that's great, as long as I didn't approach him..I"m good.

I agree with the blogger that said, "puts the ball in your court."

McLovin August 7, 2008 at 12:26 PM

Whats with the sidekick hate? Lol.

Mr.Slish August 7, 2008 at 12:53 PM

Eb You know I can't read....lol

Eb the Celeb August 7, 2008 at 1:07 PM

@Q - yeah... the whack dudes done stepped they game up... I cant stand when they do that mess - call me right now... ugh!

@mclovin - KICKS R 4 KIDS...lol

@slish - obviously...lol; now when you gon hook me up... mr. matchmaker

thee modern isis August 7, 2008 at 1:41 PM

Cute questions.

I'd rather have a dude call me first. It just shows me that he is really interested.

Sweet KeiKei August 7, 2008 at 1:58 PM

i know i'm probly alil late on this one but u keep up THREE blogs & still have time to work, party, look FAB and take pics of it all?!?!? uh uh what type a juice UUUU drinkin?

CocaColaCutie August 7, 2008 at 2:47 PM

could it have been his club phone? i met a dude once that had a raggedy phone and he said he was tired of losing his nicer phones in the club...

kay* August 7, 2008 at 4:08 PM

thanks for the acknowledgement :o) your answers were interesting!

anonymousnupe August 7, 2008 at 10:34 PM

I've only ever offered one woman my number first, and I'm still married to her 20 years later. With me it was that I was so head over heels for her that I wanted to demonstrate that to her without putting her on the spot by asking for her number. The fact that it was a very public and busy business setting (a big 8 accounting firm), and the fact that opportunities to talk to her were fleeting and rare may have had something to do with it, as well. I already had the number written as to be prepared in case our next encounter was as brief, out in-the-open and disjointed as the previous ones were. Fortunately, after I handed it to her and was prepared to jump right back into the rat race she rejoined with, "Next time you're able to stop by my desk I'll have mine to give to you, too." Needless to say, I got back with alacrity!!!

Ms. Behaving August 8, 2008 at 6:35 PM

FYI, You can consider that meme jacked!! :-)

LOL @ you being rubbed the wrong way by dude with the older model cell phone.

I ain't even gone front...it bothers me too!!
Sad thing is I got the nerve to be have ill feelings when I don't even have a cell phone myself.

AIn't that about some bullish?!?!?!

Few Redeeming Qualities.... August 10, 2008 at 1:14 PM

well, sounds like you wont be contacting the dread, with bad credit, who lacked initiative. lol. dont be so harsh. he just trying to skip the run around.

tobenna August 12, 2008 at 11:36 AM

As a man, I would be ultra confident and really could do without the lady if I asked her to take my number.
OR
I'm not confident enough to ask a seemingly confident chic for her number.

Either way, I'm really not into her.

Help keep this site up and running


and be sure to follow @thegirthpodcast instagram for hilarious sex memes and on twitter episode highlights and daily sex articles.

My Renaissance People aka Blog Subscribers