What is my future husband doing right now?

This whole post was brought on by RealHustla. In one of her posts she had a line that went something like:

I wonder what my man is doing right now and why he's taking so long to find me.

(I switched it up a little from what she originally wrote.)

This stuck out with me because do we ever sit back and think about that as single men and women. We are so hung up in finding him or her but never really sit back and wonder who that person is before we meet them. I put together a little poem based on the things that I wonder from time to time.

My future husband...I wonder

Not suppose to look for him.
It is said that he will find me.
But I cant help but sit back and wonder.
What he's doing at this very moment.
Is he reading a book or writing a poem?
Is he at work?
I wonder what he does for a living.
Does he have a blog?
Did he graduate from a HBCU?
I wonder how we will meet.
Have I already met him and just don't know that he's the one?
Is he even in NYC?

My future husband...I wonder

Is he in the gym working out?
So that I immediately fall in love with his physique.
Will he be as tall as I like them.
Or as chocolate as I've imagined.
Will he have those heart-shaped lips that make me melt
Will he have taco-meat chest hair that I will have to convince him to shave.
And a chest that is big enough that I can bury my head in.
How many tattoos does he have?
Does he embody unique style and swag.

My future husband...I wonder

If he wants to have daughters or sons or a combination.
What will we name our children.
Wait, I wonder what his name is.
Does it have 3 syllables like mine.
How will he propose.
What will my ring look like?
Will we write our own vows?
Will I like my new last name.
Will he cry at the wedding?
When will the first time be that I see him cry?
Will my mother like him?
Will his parents like me?

My future husband...I wonder

If he likes to travel.
And wants to make it his mission to show me the world.
Does he like to go out or is he a homebody?
Can he dance?
Is he athletic?
Will we share the same musical tastes?
Will he love taking pictures as much as I do?
What sweet things he will do for me when its not a holiday?

My future husband...I wonder

How long will it take for him to fall in love with me?
What about him will make me drop my guard and allow him in?
What will it be about me that he loves the most?
What about him will intrigue me most?
Will he bless me with this mental orgasm thing that everyone talks about that I have yet to experience?
Where will we be when we kiss for the first time?
What about him will have my panties wet every time he walks in the room.
What will our first intimate moment be like?

My future husband...I wonder, how much longer before he finds me.

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Brittany_83 March 30, 2008 at 3:09 PM

I did this same exact thing when I was in middle school. Let's just say back then I was all about dreaming of my wedding and a perfect man. Now I'm just like...whatever...for now.
But I did write a poem and list things just like you.

Xcentric Pryncess March 30, 2008 at 3:09 PM

oh God Eb...I hope that mine does NOT have that taco meat chest hair..lol

I do wonder who he is, if I know him, or will meet him...I wish he would hurry up though..

Anonymous March 30, 2008 at 3:13 PM

Will he have taco-meat chest hair that I will have to convince him to shave.

LMAo.. shit that killed me.. couldn't help but laugh.. girl i'm still dying from laughter....

I ain't feeling no taco-chest hair.. Lol.. girl what a name...

woooooooo i like this poem...

I done know i haven't met him yet.

Divine Blackness March 30, 2008 at 4:29 PM

LOL!!! Taco meat chest hair.....I knowwww what you are talking about. *gags* Not sexy at'all. Awww, I'm lovin' this.

I think about "what he's doing all the time". Like...does he think about me the way I think about him?

Damn, I'm a hopeless romantic cornball.

AkaniZZle March 30, 2008 at 5:54 PM

HILARIOUS,,,well it doesnt hurt to think..i must not lie i used to do that when i wa slittle, very little, planning my wedding..

Anonymous March 30, 2008 at 7:29 PM

I think I know who my future husband is, and with that said id rather be gay lol. (joking) (not really)

1/3 of what I used to be March 30, 2008 at 7:48 PM

I wonder some of these things too.

LMAO @ taco meat. Yea my future husband better not have none of that lol

dc_speaks March 30, 2008 at 8:20 PM


im sure that whoever he is, will read your blogs and be like "whoa"!!!

nice piece ma'am.

I Am Fabulous!!! Deal With It... March 30, 2008 at 9:34 PM

Loved it! LOL!! I wonder what my future hubby is doing? HHMMMM?

All I know is, I wish he would hurry. LOL!!!

FREEDOM March 30, 2008 at 9:59 PM

This piece was very thought provoking. I think you might have had that "mental orgasm thing" with this one lol!

The mind is a beautiful tool to draw the mental picture of our future husband. However, we must be ready when he comes because is coming! We may not know when but as it is written, "Be ye ready at all times". And "He that findth a wife findth a good thing"!

That's the beauty of the mind we draw into lives the very things that we want and need.

Desy March 30, 2008 at 11:58 PM

taco meat hair eb??... lol... of all things to imagine about your husband

definately had some of those thoughts run through my mind from time to time

JayBee March 31, 2008 at 6:03 AM

if a dude was interested in being your future husband i wonder if he stumbled upon this if he'd alter some of his behavior to match what he thinks you want based on the poem. just a thought.

Anonymous March 31, 2008 at 6:45 AM

Yeah, I be wondering what homeboy is up to as well. I wonder if I knew what he was up to, would I want him to be my husband???

Ms. Wright (Hunnie) March 31, 2008 at 7:46 AM

the taco meat chest hair...i hope mine doesn't have it! he would DEFINITELY have to shave! LOL

I love this! I'll have to do my own version sometime if I don't start being lazy!

12kyle March 31, 2008 at 8:03 AM

I wonder if your future husband is standing in front of a mirror...marveling at his taco meat! LMAO

Good post, Eb

Princess March 31, 2008 at 8:19 AM

I like the template.And what I've seen of your blog so far. :-)

Miss B March 31, 2008 at 10:17 AM

Very nice post Eb!!!

I've thought like this before...still do sometimes.

LOL@taco meat!!!

Lady Cameleon March 31, 2008 at 11:35 AM

This is a good one....this usrely inspired the blog im about to write about right now titles " So untill Then....". Thanks Eb for writing about stuff that really cross my mind :)

Anonymous March 31, 2008 at 11:38 AM

Interesting post. I was thinking about this recently and wondering the same thing. I reasoned that maybe he's getting prepared for me like I'm preparing now. I am so in the process right now.....SO Not Ready!


RealHustla March 31, 2008 at 12:14 PM

Eb, I'm so honored that my ramblings would inspire you so. And, like a little girl, I still think about all these things regularly. The wedding in my head is awesome, so is his physique, our house, the kids. But you know, I don't need all those other things, just him, taco meat chest hair, pot belly and all, LOL.

dejanae March 31, 2008 at 12:44 PM

y u hating?
that taco meat hair is sexy i tell you

My dude is taking his sweet time getting to me
he's got 25 years to get his shit together

soumynona March 31, 2008 at 2:04 PM

You ever get on that M.A.S.H.(Mansion, apartment, house, shack)? That's 'ol school for ya. I used to love that game. This post reminds me of that game.

PCD (Pretty Circle Drawer) March 31, 2008 at 3:01 PM

i will be directing someone to read this....NIIIIIIIIIIIIICE!!!

anonymousnupe March 31, 2008 at 3:27 PM

He proly packin' his gear and movin'! He don't know that resistance is futile, I guess.

the old me March 31, 2008 at 4:21 PM

"Will he have taco-meat chest hair that I will have to convince him to shave" - I really hope not and if he does please force him to shave it.

One Man’s Opinion March 31, 2008 at 4:58 PM

You know, this was very thought provoking. It really had my mind pondering....You should elaborate on this topic a little more.

Ticia March 31, 2008 at 5:04 PM

I pray for my husband - children - their children - I pray for my generations to come -

eclectik March 31, 2008 at 5:23 PM

That's bangin
I dig it...

The future Husband might not want to get married LOL


MsRoxy March 31, 2008 at 7:10 PM

Niice post.

Must steal your thoughts changing some locations of course
(NYC to FLA)
and so on, lol.

Mizrepresent March 31, 2008 at 8:30 PM

I loved this Eb...i wonder too...mostly where is he, and will he hurry up already!

The Diva's Thoughts March 31, 2008 at 8:48 PM

Girl!! I loved that. It was very creative.

Anonymous April 1, 2008 at 1:29 AM

not bad... i wonder where and what my wife is doing... but o well... its just thoughts... for now

THE 78' MS. J April 1, 2008 at 1:36 AM

I am glad you came by and dropped me a comment on my blog, thank you. Now your blogs are fire I like them all (I glanced over them) but you are so accomplished and still keep it all the way 100 thats what's up. I'll be checking in on the regular.

BTW that taco meat chest hair thing killed me I feel exactly the same way, taco meat hair is not the business hit the nair then come holla!

karrie b. April 1, 2008 at 8:57 PM

BAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA @ taco meat chest hair. you guys are so shallow.

i love it.

your man will come. patience sistah, patience.


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