Letter to myself : September Detox
and men update


Yo Eb,

Fo' real though... you're feeling real jiggly... like Buddy Love when he was turning back to Sherman Clump in the Nutty Professor. We gotta get this ish under control... so for the rest of the month of September we are going to vow to be in the gym at least 3 days a week, we will NOT drink not a sip of alcohol for the entire month, and we will only eat red meat on the weekends if that. How are you going to continue to bring sexy back if you can't knock off these 12-15 pounds that you need to get rid of. So seriously... by Halloween... you are going to have the sexiest costume ever in Halloween history because you are going to be that damn fly by that date.

We are going to keep this sexy body up too... no toning for the sake of toning and then letting everything fall apart again. We gotta start being consistent with these work outs, slowing down on the amount of happy hours we indulge in, making it a priority that I take these vitamins everyday, and stop eating any and every bad thing in front of me just because I know its going to be hella good. You have to drink more water too... we have struggled with that all our life. And I'm not talking about that Vitamin Water mess...I know that's all you drink anyway on the daily... I'm talking about you starting to drink some real water more regularly.

So operation Super sexy is in effect. PEACE!
*** Don't laugh at my cropping skills... I don't have photoshop over round these parts!


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On to the men...

Young'n boo has gotten old already, he annoys me now bigtime. I feel like I just want to bop him upside his head every time he opens his mouth just like I used to do my lil brother... who will be 21 in December by the way. And please keep him in your prayers everybody. He's getting shipped off to Iraq in a couple weeks. Love you Deuce!

Thuggin' Boo keeps saying he wants to chill but lives in Jersey and doesn't make appoints to be in the city too much. Eb doesn't make appoints to be in Jersey too much... so who knows when/if that 2nd meeting will ever happen.

Bugaboo is actually not as bad anymore. Granted he calls me "babe" a lil too much for my taste, but he's a country boy so I'll give him a pass. It's like he read my blog or something because he didn't call for about 4 days after that post last week. Since, I explained to him how I'm not the type of chick that likes to sit on the phone and talk everyday, especially to someone I just met and I think he gets it now. When he does call now and I see his name pop up on the caller ID, I kinda smirk a lil. We do have a vibe. He'll be back and officially moved from NC on Wed so we'll see how that goes when he's here. I'm hoping he acts right so I can change his name from Bugaboo to something else.

Me and Homie, Lover, Friend aka Mr. NoNoNo have been chilling a lil more than usual. Its kinda weird but I'm not gonna let it freak me out. I'm just letting it be and not overanalyzing like so many say I do. We enjoy each other's company, so for right now nothing needs to be said about why the situation has shifted slightly.

Then there's Semipro. Thought you would never hear his name on here again huh? Why when your content and not lonely anymore does a nig want to pop back in your life and make you reevaluate a situation that should have been 6 feet under.

So he hits me last week that he might come to my happy hour but doesn't show. Then hits me after saying he was there. I knew damn well he wasn't there... the spot it NOT that big... but I played along and told him to prove it. He said something about DJ Enuff and some other mess. Idiot just told on himself because DJ Enuff never showed. I didn't even say anything about that... I entertained his shenanigans and then said well why didn't you come over and speak to me then. He had no response. Then a text message relay eludes:

Eb - I dont even know why I entertain your fuckery. U R sooooooo lame! Does any of this shit work on chicks

Semipro - Dont do this wit other chicks

Eb - Then y do u insist on fuckin wit me then... I have been nothin but a sweetie pie (lol..wink) and u cant get enough of trying 2 aggravate me

Semipro - Maybe I like u the most...maybe I want u 2 be my girl

NOW RIGHT HERE, I ALMOST CHOKED ON MY OWN SPIT. YOU DONT UNDERSTAND... THIS MAN SHOWS ABSOLUTELY NO EMOTION, NONE, AT ALL, UNLESS IT CONSISTS OF AGGRESSION, EGO, CONFIDENCE, COMPETITIVENESS... NO MOOSHY EMOTIONAL I LIKE YOU TYPE OF MESS. SO I DONT EVEN KNOW HOW TO RESPOND BACK TO THIS TEXT. I SAT THERE AND LOOKED AT THAT TEXT FOR ABOUT 30MIN NOT KNOWING HOW THE HELL TO RESPOND. FIRST INSTINCT IS TO GET ON THE DEFENSIVE. I AINT FALLING FOR THIS ISH. YOUR JUST TRYING TO GAS ME TO SEE IF YOU COULD STILL GET ME BACK IF YOU WANTED TO... OTHERWISE WHY WOULD YOU PUT THEM "MAYBE'S" IN THERE.

Eb - Maybe??? Your funny... that definitely aint it

Semipro - O well, if that's how u see... besides u cut me off

Eb - No u pushed me away. Big difference! U like playing games, I dont. & u got a fucked up way of showing a chick u like her if that's even genuine.

Semipro - :-(

(THAT'S A FROWN/SADFACE FOR THOSE THAT DON'T KNOW)

Eb - What is up wit u? Did someone die or something, y r u being all sensitive & y cant u jus say what u mean instead of all this maybe mess

SEMIPRO NEVER RETURNS A TEXT. AND I KNOW WHY. HE GAVE A LIL AND I WAS TRYING TO GET TOO MUCH ALL AT ONCE. NO DUDE WHO'S TAKEN A GREAT LEAP FROM NO EMOTION TO GIVING A LIL IS GOING TO KEEP ASSURING YOU THAT IT IS GENUINE, BUT HONESTLY I DON'T BELIEVE HIM AND DON'T KNOW WHERE ITS COMING FROM. WHY ARE WE AS FEMALES SUPPOSE TO JUST JUMP BECAUSE NOW ALL OF A SUDDEN YOU WANT TO DO WHAT YOU SHOULD HAVE ALREADY BEEN DOING ALL ALONG? RIGHT NOW, I HONESTLY CANT TAKE HIM SERIOUSLY, AND I'M KINDA PISSED AT MYSELF FOR EVEN LEAVING A CRACK IN THE DOOR FOR HIM TO SLIP BACK IN. I DO LIKE HIM THOUGH, AND I DO MISS HIM, BUT I GOTTA BE SMART ABOUT THIS AND NOT LET THAT EFFECT ME GETTING BACK INTO THE SAME OLD BULLSHIT SITUATION.

We've talked since and he said the same thing on the phone... with the damn MAYBE's... WTH! I'm skeptical... and damn sure gon make him work to get back in good with me... so I guess time will tell.

43 comments

Pajnstl September 2, 2008 at 8:31 AM

good morning eb!

love the rotation this morning.

smh at the foolishness with semipro.

Mr.Slish September 2, 2008 at 8:49 AM

Its just game...He only wants you when you don't show any interest, but you know that already...lol...Should call his bluff and said "Alright be my man" Wondr how he would reacted to that...lol...

Ms. Jones September 2, 2008 at 9:00 AM

Semi-pro is still up to the games to see if he still has you open, you need to make it crystal clear that you cannot and will not be his puppet and continue to work on his time whenever he feels like being sentimental.

The pics gave me a good laugh...you can do it though!!!

BB September 2, 2008 at 9:02 AM

I'm back...

And that ish with semi pro is exactly what the ones before me have said....foolishness!

The Diva's Thoughts September 2, 2008 at 9:17 AM

I'll kkep your brother in my prayers girl.

Why do men have a way of coming back and making us rethink that kicking them to the curb was a good idea? Stay strong girl!! lol

Kayos September 2, 2008 at 9:21 AM

Girl, where you find semipro at?! He sound like he on that other shish!

Girl, You ain't lookin like Rasputia... Exercise is always a good idea though.

I will pray for your brother that he comes back stateside safely.

Mel September 2, 2008 at 9:24 AM

When you hit the gym, give me a heads up. I need to get on my gym grind as well.

Semipro... Girl you know SOMETHING always comes up when everything is going well and good. It wouldn't be life if something didn't.

Sweet KeiKei September 2, 2008 at 9:57 AM

girl bye, i'm on the same page as u tryna get my ish RIGHT! lol

i think that when the right man comes along you will know it deep down inside. he may put you thru some nonsense or vice versa but you will hold strong (w/o being played 4 da fool) because your woman's intuition will kick in.

& i pray that your brother comes home safely.

Super Dave Van Buren September 2, 2008 at 10:11 AM

lol@the photoshopish pics

You meet some funny ass dudes, funny how immature we act when we try and show emotion.

queenbee September 2, 2008 at 10:22 AM

its all a game, call his bluff...

SistaSocialite September 2, 2008 at 10:29 AM

Semipro needs to lay off the crack pipe seriously lol

You are so hilarious with them pictures though! haha

IntrospectiveGoddess September 2, 2008 at 10:37 AM

I'm trying to get on the working out thing too and girl please...im closer to looking like rasputia then you...

Ugh semipro why is it always the assholes that us women seem to gravitate towards....he needs to step...clearly he is not ready for you! He play too many damn games that shit gets old quick.....

Dope Fiend September 2, 2008 at 10:38 AM

Girl, that dude aint about but fucking with your head and your emotions just to give hiself an ego boost. Chances are he's got a main chick, and whole lotta sides that he keeps on rotation to keep himself entertained.

Until he can give u something SOLID, as in no maybe, halfway bullsh*t...CUT HIM OFF. He is NOT on your level, let him play games somewhere else, u heart is NOT a playground

MP September 2, 2008 at 10:42 AM

So I hate that you put that first picture up! LMAO!

Martinis are too bad on carbs and calories... you know, in case you need a drink.

Make Semipro prove it. I might be hard for him to talk about but he is a grown man and actions speak louder than words.

MP September 2, 2008 at 10:42 AM

Oh and your brother is definitely in my prayers. My brother is done with the Marines in November and I couldn't be happier!

Dope Fiend September 2, 2008 at 10:54 AM

p.s
"you are going to have the sexiest costume ever in Halloween history because you are going to be that damn fly by that date."

U flyy ALREADY. U just gonna get flyyer lol.

And as an ArtKid...i digg ur cropping skills. haha

Keli September 2, 2008 at 11:34 AM

Nooooo! Don't fall for it...you called it right the first time...Semipro is full of ish...

Lol @ your mag cover...that's the hotness! I need to write a letter to myself as well...you only want to loose 12 lbs, right now, I could probably drop about 20...more than anything, I need to control this jiggle, lol...I mean, jiggle is good in some places, but right now, I am making jello jealous.

Caesar Cannon September 2, 2008 at 11:58 AM

I'm cheering for semipro so that he comes out of his shell to keep it real with you... it seems he's sincere, but doesn't know how to display it properly... and... mag covers are hawt... I'd put em on a news stand... your cropping skills are the bomb diggity

Monique September 2, 2008 at 12:04 PM

I could have wrote the same letter to myself. Thanks for saving me some work.

About Semipro - charget that ish to game and keep moving. Obviously dude doesn't know what's up or what he wants to keep moving.

RealHustla September 2, 2008 at 12:40 PM

Your pictures scared me a little. October, that's a good deadline, maybe I'll try to make it with you.

Man, I don't know what to say about Semipro. Back in the day, it didn't matter how much emotion a man showed. He just had to be a good provider. I don't know why I just said that, it was just a thought that popped in my head. I have no advice for you regarding him. Good luck.

contagiouslyCRANKY September 2, 2008 at 2:27 PM

I actually am pulling for Mr. NOnoNO... I have no clue why but from what ive heard i like him...As far as semipro...i tend to fall for guys like him all the time but because they're so guarded with their emotion it never works out. But Maybe he is sincere. Once when I asked my "semipro" why he suddenly wanted to do a 360 and wanted to be so nice and in touch with his feelings...he responded with "Ever do something wrong the first time you had the chance?....Ever get the chance to redo the situation? Imma do it right this time"

Ms. Lovely September 2, 2008 at 2:47 PM

lmao@ the cut and paste. Get it girl!

Ok on with the mens..

I knew YoungNBoo was gonna get old.. He's cute though!

Thuggin Boo--meh

Bugaboo- glad he fell back. Keep him around

Mr.YesYesYess- don't ask questions..live in the moment chile

Semipro- WTF?! I hate when negroes lie and play games for the sake of playing games. He sounds like he doesn't know what he wants. I know you like him and its hard to quell the "what ifs" but man i'd slam that door right on his damn foot!

Keith September 2, 2008 at 2:54 PM

Drop that Zero (Semi-Pro)
Find yourself a Hero...
but if I know what I think I know about females...You probably dig Semi-Pro the most don't you? Women always love the cat that brings the most drama...I've never seen it fail.. He's gonna break your heart darlin, I'm serious..I see it comin...You deserve better than that.

Oh yeah, I love the photo you did of you on the cover of KING Magazine...I had to do a double take..I almost thought it really was you...That was the best of all of the photo cropping you did.-lololol.

Cherish September 2, 2008 at 3:50 PM

wow i finally stumble across a blog wit more drama than mine. i'll be lurkin for a min so i can get some backround

1/3 September 2, 2008 at 4:44 PM

LMAO at those pics!!! I feel you cause I have some weight I need to lose too lol

Urgghhh to sempi pro. why dont guys know how to express their emotions. Irritating!! I hope he does get his act together before he misses out.

dessex September 2, 2008 at 5:55 PM

my goodness those pics made my day lol. D. Woods lol

clnmike September 2, 2008 at 7:17 PM

My prayers to your little bro.

The True Urban Queen aka Sharon September 2, 2008 at 7:53 PM

I am postive your little brother will be just fine.

I am thinking of joining the gym near my job. So at lucnh time instead of eating I can starve myself while working out. My body needs a serious toning.

When you talk about bugaboo reading your blog it gave me the idea. I need to infrom every guy that steps to me and gets my number that he also needs to read my blog. Older post a must. That way he knows what I want andain't putting up with.

It is always the guy who is emotionally void that I want the most. "Just say you want me. Just say you need me."
It never comes so I leave knowing all he got to do is call.

K. September 2, 2008 at 8:55 PM

all these games from a n*@##! who hasn't even taken you on a date? delete his number and pretend he died.

when you excuse his mess by blaming it on his expression of emotion or lack thereof, you set the bar low. some of these dudes will go out of their way to give you as little as you expect.

Stew September 2, 2008 at 8:57 PM

you gotta keep that guy around he seems like he is a damn fool. seems like everything he says it reminds me of the shit that i would say

The F$%K it List September 2, 2008 at 9:28 PM

This is just more game courtesy of Semi-Pro. You are unavailable to him so now you are worth the fight. Yeah No.

Men that play games are 100% not worth it

AroundHarlem.com September 2, 2008 at 10:39 PM

Hey Eb,

I definitely need to hit the gym too. I DO look like Rasputia and I need to be Fabulous and Fit by next year.

Anyway, on to Semi Pro. Didn't he leave NYC?

Here's my suggestion. You know you like him and while his actions are not ideal, I think he likes you. More than he's letting on.

However, the BS and games must stop. You don't need the drama.

If he actually did go away, I would say send him an e-mail saying you would be interested in seriously dating him to see if you could eventually become a couple. IN THE FUTURE.

Tell him to hit you up the next time he's in NYC and if you're single, you can date and see what happens.

Don't do this whole texting/visiting thing for the next year. Do YOU and if someone else comes along, so be it. His loss.

Sending the e-mail should force him to get more serious and do something. He will either step up and treat you like you want to be treated or he'll move on.

Either way, there should be no drama.

If he is in NYC, then whatever is gonna happen will happen quicker.

(Send an e-mail so that he can think about things and respond on his own time without the pressure of you waiting on an immediate response via text.)

Real Talk September 2, 2008 at 11:00 PM

stick to ya guns sista...in every aspect.

...they always come around when you play nonchalant anyway :) works everytime...even when you're not tryna do that ;)

Eb the Celeb September 2, 2008 at 11:07 PM

@aroundharlem - its funny how you always pop up when me and semipro are at odds... yes he is back in nyc...

he has been back since the first week in july... we saw each other when he first got back and then he started acting a damn fool so I told him to kicks rocks...

then he started playing on my phone... which by the way I didn't update everyone on... its funny how as soon as I acknowledged him again that the calling and hanging up calls stopped so now I know it was him.

but anyway.. so we have been on speaking terms for the last week...
and that's how this conversation started

thing is his coaching season just started... we caught up about that... so he wont be in town much when the team travels for games on the weekend... we also talked about his goals and ish... and that he wants to go to grad school...

so I know he is trying to be a better person... the only reason why I am trying to give him another chance... I just dont completely trust that its genuine...

I dont even know that right now... in the mindframe that I am in that I want a serious relationship with him so writing a letter is out of the question in that I wouldnt even know what to say... I care about him... I like him... he already knows that... so there is nothing else I could say to him in the letter

I am exhausted with taking the initiative with him... sometimes you have to go after what you want...and I feel like its his turn to really step up... and until he gets out of maybe mode... I am not taking any leaps towards making something happen with him... its all on him... I am seriously tired!

Ms. Minnie September 2, 2008 at 11:13 PM

Your bro is my prayers..and so are u

And I'm also on a mission to get my sexy back...so wish me good luck

And I wish you good look and becoming more fabulous!...maybe we can grace a cover of King together in the future..lol

Emeritus September 3, 2008 at 12:37 AM

aww ur brother is too cute.

btw, if you want to loose weight, keep it simple:
remember that the body burns about 1200 cals a day just to perform all the necessary processes. Eat less than that a day and even with light to moderate exercise, you'll lose weight.

also, to keep track of how much weight you would like to be say by December check out this site:
http://www.losertown.org/eats/cal.php

No more entertaining Semipro. Waste of your time. Unless of course you like the suspense

karrie b. September 3, 2008 at 12:29 PM

u need ur ass beat and photoshop removed from ur PC.

-KB

kay* September 3, 2008 at 1:42 PM

oh gosh - i don't even know what to say about semipro because saying something is one thing but i know being in the situation is a whole other deal...geez. i don't get why men just don't say what they mean - i hate that 'maybe' stuff!

oh and best of luck with the weight thing - i hate water too so i feel your pain..but you can do it! think of the fly-ass bunny costume you can wear to your hallowe'en party! cause i'm sure you're going to one!

kay* September 3, 2008 at 1:43 PM

...and your brother is definitely in my thoughts.

Melyssa Ganache September 3, 2008 at 2:24 PM

Eb, I'm with your girl on the sexy by Halloween regimen. It makes no sense for me to continue lettin Billy Blanks kick my ass for two weeks straight just to let it all go to hell on a four-day cocktails pizza and fried chicken vacay.

And you've got Semipro pegged. I'm dealing with a dude juuuust like that. Shows no emotion ever, and then the one time in a million years when he does, if I don't jump at the seeming opportunity, then it's my fault our relationship hasn't progressed. Such bullshit. Woo me, damnit!

I am a new fan of your blog. btw. Love it.

Carmen Renee September 3, 2008 at 7:17 PM

Amen for you and your blog, Eb. I just came on recently, and you have officially become one of my favorite bloggers of all time. Preciate the realness sista.

Been reading for a while and thought I should let you know... plus I couldn't resist commenting on this one because that Semipro mess sounds like a scene right out of my life!! DAMN! No good advice for you, bein in the middle of it too, but keep ya head up! I'm tryin to... :)

Soulstress September 4, 2008 at 3:02 PM

*sigh*..when will bruthas man up and stop playin games...they dont kno a good thing til its gone and still be actin up when they tryin to get bak. Stay strong Eb..if he really wants to be w/ u he'll put in that work!

PreciousGem-Refinement in Progress September 6, 2008 at 7:05 PM

Girl, you have to try the ABS Diet it really works....fast. My boo told me last night that I look like I lost some weight but the assets are still there...even more noticeable from all the lunges!!<:) As far as ol' dude, I thin that "nonchalance" is in their DNA but they find some way to care when they find someone worthy. If he's real, time will tell.

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