Jealous, There's a jealous girl in our town!

"Jealousy in romance is like salt in food. A little can enhance the savor, but too much can spoil the pleasure and, under certain circumstances, can be life-threatening."
-Maya AngelouNot going to go in extreme detail, but I realized I'm a jealous chick. I thought I was over it, that I had grown out of it, and that the typical Taurus jealous gene was no longer bestowed on me. I had to cuss out many of chicks and even fight a couple in college in the club because they were all up in my BF at the time's face, but since then, all men I've been involved with, I've held my composure. I thought it was because I had grown but it was revealed to me tonight that maybe I just didn't care about them enough. Well tonight, I wanted to rock a couple heads... whew lawd I had to go to the bathroom to woooossaaahhh.Especially because he was doing it to piss me off, staring at me while acting like the pimp of the club with random chicks all in his face... and I hate to admit it but I was jealous. Didn't say anything to him about it, had cordial conversation. He even called me when I was on my way home, hinting at the fact that he could have dropped me off at home instead of taking a cab but hell to the no. Why are you calling me anyway... call one of them tricks whose number you got tonight. Damn damn damn damn I hate being the jealous girl, whether or not I showed it and he knows or not. Inside I hate feeling jealous. Ugh... that is all....cue music and on repeat.

19 comments

Lina March 13, 2009 at 8:16 AM

First, that title almost made me go youtube that video from your title. Second, every person in love experiences some jealousy. Even I, the mofoshonuff that has self-proclaimed a million times that, "I don't get jealous." So yea, it happens...signal to let you know you really do care. Sucks, right?

ErynMyisha March 13, 2009 at 8:20 AM

Nah, if a dude was doing some ish like that, the side eyes were well deserved! Don't feel bad, girl friend!

Keith March 13, 2009 at 9:01 AM

You did the right thing. Don't let him know you were jealous and act as if you didn't notice him and all of the other women in the club. Cause if you let him know you were jealous..you just gassed his head up.

(I sure hope he doesn't read your blog!)

LusciousRon March 13, 2009 at 9:55 AM

Its called the 'green eyed monster' for a reason. I am a Taurus too.

Thoughts of a Southern gal March 13, 2009 at 10:09 AM

Sounds like dude is playing games.

We all got a bit of a jealous streak in us. Don't feel bad about feeling that way. You might not be over him as much as you think. Maybe it's time to cut off all communication. Just a thought.

Oh I'm loving that Chrisette Michelle song!

Smarty Jones March 13, 2009 at 10:24 AM

To quote ABC, "Hey girl, why you so jealous?"
If you know he was doing it to piss you off, I say reciprocate. Had you been doing your own thing in the club, you wouldn't have had time to watch him do his while he watched you to see your reaction.
Dudes are juvenile, these are the games they play. You can't change that. What you can change is how you react to it.
Instead of having to remove yourself from the dance floor to go "woo-sah" some stuff, you should have given him a smile with a "fuck you" laugh that all women perfect by age 25.
You're my girl and all, but YOU are why you are pissed off in this situtation. That dude shouldn't have this much power over your mood.
So, your task now is to walk it off, shake it off, brush it off your shoulders. When the smoke clears, you'll be more than pissed with yourself that you let him get to you like that when you realize that he's pissing you off for sheer entertainment.
Now I need you to do what Martin said. "Put on your dress, go to the club and do your 'Fuck 'em' dance! Fuck 'em, girl, Fuck 'em!"
Now, copy this, because I may need you to tell me this in a couple of weeks. :-D

Kayos March 13, 2009 at 10:31 AM

Jealousy can be a bitch I know. I was back in the day but I learned one thing about jealousy and how a man reacts to it. If he knows you can be jealous then he'll fix it to where you won't be. If he knows and doesn't care then you let that bastid go because he doesn't care and wants strife stirred up in his name so he can feel like he's the man.

Eb the Celeb March 13, 2009 at 10:43 AM

@Southern Gal - Girl i try and everywhere I go there he go

@Smarty - Girl we were both working in the club last nite. he was bouncing and I'm working production on this new reality show. So I couldn't do my own thing because I was working. It did not show off on my face at all that I was pissed. We even spoke several times that night so he feels as if I dont give 2 shits. Plus I would have never deliverately holla'd at dude anyway even if I wasn't working hoping that he sees it. I hate having to do dumb ish even though a couple dudes I know were hanging on me just b/c I was working to be funny, and I know he saw one of them. truth be told i know it comes with the territory and his job. Chicks are always all over him, mostly drunk, but a couple time he blatantly let it go on because I was right there.

Monie March 13, 2009 at 11:05 AM

Ugh. Niggas. I agree with Smarty up there.

Lady C. March 13, 2009 at 12:45 PM

Most of the time it's just the attitude the dude has that makes us want "punch through solid objects". That whole 'let me act like a pimp cuz her eyes are on me' is what gets us heated because we already know what's really going on.

& then you two are constantly in the same spots? I'll woooosahhhh for you.

A.Smith March 13, 2009 at 1:09 PM

If this is the extent of what makes you jealous, I can't blame you. We all do it, who wouldn't? It's not about insecurity, I think it's about respect... why do people like to provoke jealousy in other people? I don't know what it is that makes people think that jealousy is a sign of caring (and so they provoke it) but that's gotta stop.

Ms. Lovely March 13, 2009 at 3:04 PM

omg Eb! you are not alone. I have come to the realization that I can be a jealous bitch. Most of the time I hide it with sarcasm or let it eat me up until I absolutely have to say something. I'm not the confrontational type so you won't catch me whoopin tricks in the club (lol)but yea....it sucks. And guys know exactly how to push your jealous button. The best thing you can do is be aware and laugh it off..ignore his ass until he realizes he's made a fool of himself..(easier said than done) but it works most times...

Eb the Celeb March 13, 2009 at 4:07 PM

@lady C - exactly... just when i get to the point where I'm over it, I see him out. It sucks sooooooo bad.

@A. Smith - Exactly... respect... respect the fact that we have a past... I dont do that to you and wouldn't do that to you so why be childish. Its obvious looking at them they are no one you would even consider talking to so why be extra to piss me off.

dearly beloved. March 13, 2009 at 5:18 PM

I gotta lightweight co-sign with BossMack. its just a tool, use it to your advantage tho. Never let em' see you sweat! You did the right thing...

ps. that song had me screaming "AINT THAT THE TRUTH" LOVE IT!

Rich Fitzgerald March 13, 2009 at 9:12 PM

U sure he hasn't elevated his game to PRO?

Dope Fiend March 14, 2009 at 4:47 AM

i kno how you feel. I had some AMAZING jealous infused temper tantrum in my head theother day.

I have decided that I do NOT like husband anymore because he talks to too many females that arent me! Its annoying, i hate the feeling because i feel like evryone else can seei t too. URGH!


Lol at you going to the toilet to woosaah. i think I should start doing this.
Honestly tho i'd be MAD if my dude was oding it on purpose! In fact I'd start doing the smae thing....but that would probably start a fight in the club...


ladies never lose composure Eb. stay cool.


xoxo

Just Jasmine March 16, 2009 at 11:40 AM

Hello, My name is Jasmine. I am a taurus. Yes my eyes are green. God saw it fit to give you a warning sign. I come with extreme jealousy

Eb the Celeb March 17, 2009 at 2:51 PM

@Rich - NO... he is still very amateur. Called me last night at 1am talking bout being in the neighborhood. I am sooooooo proud of myself for putting him in his place and not letting him come over because that would have been a problem. He would have definitely got the booty.

He pissed me off and I cussed him out, then he tried to smooth it over. We were on the phone way to damn long. I was extremely aggravated. Then he had the nerve to tell me that he wishes I would just go with the flow. Whatever the hell that means... more amateur game that aint going to work on me. He's trying to get back in good and he's just digging a huge hole for himself because his cockiness and thinking I should be waiting around for him is really starting to turn me off.

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