The hold he has is gone and its about to be a prob

I don't know if it was the couple of 60 degree days we had last week that let me know that spring is not to far away and time to regain my pimp status, or if I revived the old playa in me, or if I'm finally getting over the situation but I feel brand new after a conversation me and Semipro had yesterday. Maybe its the fact that I have a new crush, or maybe the fact that I went to the Tyra show yesterday and instantly fell in love with one of her security guards cuz got damn he was fine. He looked like a big and brolic Morris Chestnut. He had the sexiest lips and the goofiest laugh, but it worked. Prolly shouldn't be saying this just in case someone who works on the show reads my blog. Go back telling all my biz. Actually that may not be a bad thing since I didn't get his number. My other new crush is an industry cat. Don't usually go that route but he seems to be far from the typical. We'll see how that goes.

Either way, I came to this recollection yesterday evening when I was about to head out. 5 minutes before I'm about to walk out of my house Semipro calls. Yo, I'm in the neighborhood and about to stop by to pick up that spa coupon you have for me.

Backstory : I got a giftbag from an event I attended that had a whole bunch of stuff in it. One of the things was a spa treatment at a male grooming salon. So I offered it to Semipro since he's going on vacation at the end of the month, to get all snazzy before he leaves. Ain't I such a good friend. After reading Steve's book, I told him, yo you'll get the gift certificate after we go to the Sex Museum. I have had tix for us to go to the sex museum for months, at least 6, and we still haven't went. His trip is the last week in March... so on the last week in Feb, I told him he had until before his trip to take me or I was taking someone else.

He gave me some bull ish about not liking me putting him on deadlines and telling him what to do. I explained to him it wasn't a deadline, that I told him what I was going to do and he could do whatever the hell he wanted to do with it, and how the hell was it a deadline when it has been months since I've had the tix. He was like OK OK I'll let you know when we can go.

Now back to yesterday. So I'm like, I dont know wth you think this is. What did I tell you, you will get the spa certificate the night we go to the museum. He puts on the puppy dog voice, c'mon Eb don't be like... I'm right here at your crib. So I alert him that I have plans and am about to walk out the house. He's like, well just bring it out with you on your way out. I went in on this fool... literally... Why do you think this is blah blah blah, hell to the no I'm not bringing it out... and so on and so forth. I won't go heavy into everything I said but I really let him have it.

Afterwards I felt so brand new, so alive. I've been letting this full run a muck and have his way for the past year and that period is no longer. He laughed and was like , you're really acting like this huh? So obviously he thinks this is a game.

Cue Music - R. Kelly "When a woman's fed up"

Hate to have to quote Kels but this song is so true. I knew the time would come soon and I'm so happy its here. I am so tired of putting up with his bull. With him thinking that his schedule is more hectic than mine, that his time is more important than mine, that every time he decides to make himself available I'm suppose to be waiting with open arms. I had already explained to him that he no longer has the privilege to just show up at my crib unannounced anyway, and yet again he just pops up. Well its a wrap for all that....and just in time for spring.

Eb is about to be a prob!

I'm looking forward to mingling with some new cuties while this fool is sweating me trying to get back in. Because you know he will ladies! Shame you got a treat a nig like shit in order to get some damn attention and affection, but I'm ready for it!


Kayos March 12, 2009 at 12:02 PM

Good for you! It's awesome you took a stand and didn't back down.

If he want a spa day I guess he'll do what he needs to do to get it, hunh?!?

You go Girl!

Tee aka The Diva's Thoughts March 12, 2009 at 12:04 PM

It is a shame you have to treat dudes like crap for them to come around. Geesh! Good for you though girl.

Super Dave Van Buren March 12, 2009 at 12:18 PM

Steve Harvey's book strikes again!!!

Ms_Slim March 12, 2009 at 12:34 PM

"Shame you got a treat a nig like shit in order to get some damn attention and affection..."

I love you for that quote! That is SO TRUE! Some men dont appreciate anything......until they realize that it can be snatched away from their grasp just as quickly.

"You don't know what you've got til it's gone"

NannDimples March 12, 2009 at 12:50 PM

Good for you, girl!!! I am going through the same shyt with someone and I let him have it last Friday. It's been 6 days and he keeps on calling trying to get me under his spell again. HELL NAH! Nann is bout to be a prob too! *high fives Eb*

YoungBlackBeauty March 12, 2009 at 1:04 PM

I would like to quote a hood song in reference to your situation:

"You actin' like a hoe, actin' like a bytch. So that's what imma call you. A p**y azz nicca that ain't neva gonna change, stuck being lame!"-Plies


PreciousGem-Refinement in Progress March 12, 2009 at 1:09 PM

Awww..shucks! Scared of you. But I understand. I saw one my favorite "guilty pleasures" movies '2 Can Play that Game' the other night and as Shante Smith said..."men only understand strength". Seen this movie a gazillion'd I miss that gem until now? But it's soo true.

MzInspiredMind81 March 12, 2009 at 1:15 PM

I think we all have been in a rut during the winter months(seasonal depression is real!) Spring is upon us and we're all coming 'out of it'. Kells ain't NEVER lied w/ that song. I'm kinda to that point w/ the Barber. Since I've been acting like I don't care and treat him how he treated me, I've noticed quite the change.

Soulstress March 12, 2009 at 1:23 PM

ur rite grrrl...let a ni$$a kno and he'll be tryin to get bak in them good graces....smdh. Glad u told him bout himself!

Blu Jewel March 12, 2009 at 1:28 PM

Save the coupon for one of the new cuties *wink*

I ain't mad atcha cause sometimes they just bring out those latent feelings and you gotta let it rip. ^5

I had to take it there with Mr. Toolbelt a month ago and it sure as hell felt real good.

Love to live; live to love!

IntrospectiveGoddess March 12, 2009 at 2:54 PM

I'm glad you put him in his place, but I have a feeling that we havent heard the last of him, I dont know you have said you have been fed up before and he is still around in some form....I'll just wait for you to announce who you are booed up with next, but like I have said before with Semi you have to cut him off and out completely or he will always find a way back in....

Girl go to the sex musuem and give that spa treatment to someone who deserves your time and generosity cuz it sure aint him!

kay* March 12, 2009 at 3:20 PM

your last line: "Shame you got a treat a nig like shit in order to get some damn attention and affection.."

immediately reminded me of that monica song Raw where she sings "get in line when i lose my mind-i found out i gotta get you mad for you to make me glad...soft sweet aint working no mo' no - i'm fixin' to give it to you raw so..."

(that is my jam. love that song.)

good for you girl. you're giving it to him raw and showing him that you are not gonna take his BS no more.

*clap and standing ovation here*

Eb the Celeb March 12, 2009 at 3:28 PM

LMAO @ Super Dave

YBB - I hatchu soooo much for quoting Plies over at RBW... lol... but I can dig it.

@PreciousGem - Definitely a good one

@Blu - The only reason I was offering it to him is because it expires the first week in April. If he don't end up acting right... it will just go to one of my homeboys

@Intro - LMAO.. yes I've said it before... but my fed up-ness has been in stages. Last time I was fed up he was put on pussy punishment and still hasnt gotten any from me. So I stick to my guns when I'm fed up. But best believe if we dont go to that museum this month, it will be a complete wrap for him...and that's why I cued the music because when Eb gets to that point, no matter what you do, I am over the situation and will never go back. It may take a minute for me to completely shake you lose but when I finally get there... you have no hope of getting back in.

@Kay- I 4got bout that song... that is my jizzam too... gon go play it now!

Nola.Divine March 12, 2009 at 4:07 PM

They ALWAYS come back! Start the countdown...

Anonymous March 12, 2009 at 4:24 PM

Go head Eb! It's almost recruiting season anyway.

The Jaded NYer March 12, 2009 at 4:56 PM

I would have crumbled up the coupon and thrown it in his face on the way out, then I'd never have to see or hear from him again... but that's just me.

And with my luck, he would have proposed, because that's how my life has been going lately! (the last line in your post is too true for comfort, know what I mean?)

Now, because you said he can only have it after y'all go to the museum, you'll have to hear more foolishness from him.

I'll be here waiting on the details!! lol

Eb the Celeb March 12, 2009 at 5:23 PM

@jaded - I hate that I said that too because now I dont know if he's going to go just to get what he wants (spa coupon) or if he's being genuine. He actually said we would go this month before I told him about the coupon, but after yesterday its like now I'm dangling a treat in front of a dog in order to teach him how to do a trick. I hate it having to be that way.

Charles March 12, 2009 at 6:23 PM

See, we had a semi convo about this on twitter earlier with my twittin' hatin ass...but the real good dudes...the brothas you need and deserve...don't need that treating like shit thing to persuade them. They're not all taken, but maybe you're not looking for them in the right places...or he just hasn't bumped into you yet.

Angel March 12, 2009 at 6:53 PM

I need that Steve harvey book!!! anyway good going hun, you dont need any foolish guys in your life :)

Scorned Woman March 12, 2009 at 10:00 PM

Good on you girlfriend. Take it from someone who knows, if you give a nig an inch he'll run a marathon on your ass.

{Diamond} March 12, 2009 at 10:47 PM

Isn't that always the case? Sad, but true.

Keith March 12, 2009 at 10:57 PM


You Still love him!

Naomi March 13, 2009 at 12:34 AM

me thinks he wants u back like u were before, but i'm sooo glad u ain't gon let it go down like that.

how i need some new spring crushes!!

Eb the Celeb March 13, 2009 at 5:02 AM

@Keith - What Love Got to do with it?

@Naomi - He definitely does. You should have seen him in the club tonight letting random chicks rub all on him just so I can see somebody wants his raggedy ass. He's a buster.

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