How the hell does an athlete get trapped into having a baby?

Yes I understand that you have a plethora of a$$ and titties floating your way.

Yes I understand that the majority of you are awkward looking and/or just straight ugly and probably didn't even get any play growing up and now that you have money you're being swarmed with options.

But whether someone you were dating for a while, or a groupie chick... I can't understand how you can be trapped into having a baby.

Did she rip your dick off your torso in your sleep and stick it up in her?

Did she tie you up and pin you down and force you to have sex with her without using a condom?

I don't want to hear no ish about her poking a hole in a condom because you should have came prepared with your own stash of condoms if you were really interested in protecting your assets, rather than only having coochie on the brain.

***Granted there are a handful of circumstances where a condom could have broke, but c'mon now. Watch this mess that aired on ESPN's Outside the Lines yesterday.

Yes... Travis Henry has 8 different confirmed children, by 8 different baby momma's; and a possibility of 11 when the paternity results come back on twins. This is just straight craziness. I don't believe in the dumb jock theory. YOU WERE NOT TRAPPED INTO ANYTHING HERE BRUH, you're just dumb as hell. I can't even imagine how many bumps you must have on your dick. There is no way you boned that many chicks raw (since we all know it was waaaaaaaayyyy over 8 or 9, that's just the number of chicks that happened to get pregnant in the process) without getting a STD. There is NO possible way. Eeewwe, that's just nasty.

Former NBA player Jason Caffey has 10 kids with 8 different baby mommas.

The list goes on with athletes that have multiple children with multiple baby momma's that they aren't with. Evander Holyfield, Chad Johnson...wait my bad... Ocho Cinco, Shawn Kemp, Larry Johnson (NBA), Ray Lewis, Marshall Faulk, Santonia Holmes (that reportedly had 3 kids by 2 women before even getting out of college), and the list goes on.

71% of African American children are raised by a single mother. We tend to think this happens in the ghetto and lower to middle-class neighborhoods, but no... a lot of these women have money from the $20,000 child support payments per month, but the athlete father isn't there. Still equals a single parent situation.

As you saw from the video, one of Jason Caffey's sons is 15 years old and has only seen his father 1 time in his entire life. C'mon ya'll, we gotta do better than this.

But I want to say that this is an extreme. I am not saying its every athlete. I have friends that have A baby out of wedlock... that equals 1, and they learned their lesson, that are in the league and they do everything possible to do right by their baby mother... similar to the situation that Dwight Howard is in. Some even try to work the relationship out with the baby mother for the sake of the child. Now I don't believe in being in a relationship with someone you don't love just because you think it's best for the baby, because in essence it's not. A baby deserves to be raised by two loving parents, and that doesn't always mean they have to be in love with each other, but at least their heart is in the right place. That's a helluva lot more than I can say for these fools that can't even take time in the off season to see their kids.

OK, my rant is over on this subject, someone please help me out if I am missing something here and I should be pitying any of these athletes who have several children by several different women.


Sidebar - The Game finally came back to the CW last Friday night. Mad as hell that we missed it in NY because they aired a damn Knicks game, but they re-aired the episode on Saturday. If not I would have been watching it on youtube where a fan posts the full episodes (http://www.youtube.com/user/TheGameFanatic) anyway but its just common courtesy. The Knicks game could have been aired on MSG Network or something.
Anyway, everyone who watches knows that Derwin, the young star Wide Receiver, is having a baby out of wedlock. Him and Girl Melanie have been doing the little playing the field mess, and on last week's show, Derwin and his baby mama Janay got back together. What ya'll think about that? Hit me up in the comments!

The Game also touched on Malik's dad visiting after never being apart of his life. I can see this playing out in so many of these athlete children's lives in 10-20 years and its so sad!

30 comments

Kayos March 18, 2009 at 9:49 AM

I'm glad someone put this out there.

You know good and damn well if a man doesn't want to have kids, you'd think he'll do what he needs to do to make sure the woman doesn't get pregnant. You ain't gonna make me believe that the sex is soooooooooooo damn good you can't pull out or you can't practice wearing a condom. If you don't do the latter then we at even bigger odds because you an athlete and I know the amount of pussy being throwed at you ain't strapping something!!!

Hell naw! Find a whole nother excuse.

Blu Jewel March 18, 2009 at 10:08 AM

Ditto what Kayos said for real. I got brothers and told them I would kick them straight in their jawns if they told me some dumb ish about being "trapped" into having a baby. Das some boolyshyt right there.

With pregnancy being something "manageable" these jokers aren't even thinking about their STD potential being raised. Nasty; just effin nasty. And why the hell would you want to blow your hard earned $$ on paying child support for that many damn kids? Sheot! I sometimes grudge buy the necessaties for the ONE kid I have.

I'm the youngest of my father's 8 kids with 6 women and I know the bs and drama that came with that, so I can truly imagine what the kids of these athletes will go through. *ugh*

Great post Eb.

love to live; live to love!

D.Reese March 18, 2009 at 10:11 AM

You know what? I feel the same way as you. Nobody has trapped you here, the things you chose to do are your decision and considered an option. Not to use a condom is an option. I recently had a beautiful baby girl, and I remember not using a condom...my personal choice. I don't regret it and certainly won't act like my girlfriend forced me into any position. And if I WERE to feel like that, I have to realize that it was MY decision not to protect myself. It's not a woman's obligation to use birth control, condoms protect against a lot more anyway.

As a black man at the age of 21, I realize that my actions (all of them) come with some type of consequence, negative or positive. But there will always be some sort of reprecussion following a decision. Some you just have to live with.

Tee aka The Diva's Thoughts March 18, 2009 at 10:32 AM

To me, its a weak, insecure, amoral man that does not know how to show his manhood in any other way then to spread children all over the place with different women.

lyfesimplified March 18, 2009 at 10:37 AM

I don't really have a comment about this one hun..I guess they are being live everyone else CARELESS!

But do you remember the true love post you did. Well the guy I was talking about is performing Thursday at this club out here. I'm thinking about going to support. I'll let you know how it goes!

Go.

T.C. March 18, 2009 at 10:54 AM

This is totally insane and we definitely have to have these conversations in our community...everyone has to take responsiblity...here is my issue with the woman...what in THE HELL makes you think that you are that much more special that you will be alright if you have baby # 4, 5, or in this case 10 & 11...COME ON!

When you do your research on a man (or woman) you learn certain things INCLUDING how many kids you they have, or more importantly how many BMs they have...come on now...this dude got all these different kids by different women...

everybody is out here wildin out and its crazy because in the END the people that truly suffer are the CHILDREN

K. March 18, 2009 at 11:49 AM

Oh Lord Derwin is back w/ that chick? I hadn't watched it in a few months (got kinda bored) but maybe I'll check it out.

In ALL the scenarios above those dudes are womanizers and just don't give a damn who, what, when, where, why, or how they f&ck. Trapped my ass!

The ONLY time I would say that a man was trapped is if he is in a committed relationship and the woman lies about being on BC KNOWING full well he doesn't want children. But If I were an athlete or 'made man,' I'd wear protection w/ anyone who wasn't my wife, period.

grown March 18, 2009 at 12:07 PM

Oh no.

Poor "Girl Melanie".

I was rooting for them too.

I swear if CW leaves cancels this series without finalizing the storyline, I will personally go to their headquarters and start slicing and dicing.

Untouched Jewel March 18, 2009 at 12:50 PM

This was a great post. These athletes are on some whole other shit right now. They on that liquid courage, and the minute a child or children come into play, they want to fuckin act like cowards. Grow a damn spine, will you?!
My oldest son's father isn't an athlete, and he left when I was pregnant with our son. He'll be 10 this summer. My son ain't seen his father ever in his life.
This goes to show you that not only athletes, but men who beat & skeet (period) need to get their shit together. Men make it sound like women climb on top of themselves and get pregnant. We aren't asexual. It takes two to make a baby. Jiggas need to stop the madness and own up to their dirt, plain and simple.

Bianca March 18, 2009 at 12:59 PM

After hearing about this and then hearing the rate of HIV/AIDS being higher than West Africa in DC I am ready for a chastity belt lol!

But for real, this situation is sick and sad! They act like noone else is going to be affected in these situations, but it's always the children - who did not ask to be brought into this world! who get neglected and become statistics!

That man should be ashamed, but ofcourse he isn't! ugh! just triflin!

Soulstress March 18, 2009 at 1:08 PM

I thnk u summed it up nicely..we've gotta do bettr. As women we need to be careful who we havin babies by and as men...man up and take care of ur responsibilities..and only providing a chek is not mannin up!

Super Dave Van Buren March 18, 2009 at 1:24 PM

i had no idea Dwight had a baby. Dude talked all the Christian crap when he came into the league. I thought for sure he would be the new A.C. Green.

Thoughts of a Southern gal March 18, 2009 at 2:53 PM

No such thing as being trapped into having a child. THE END!

Also I agree with TC. Who are chickenheads #3 - #11?

I'm a single mother and have learned my lesson. The next child will come into this world the right way.

ShellyShell March 18, 2009 at 3:14 PM

Ohh I didn't know they got back together. All I saw was they kissed in the parking lot of Toys R Us.

My ex's niece's mom has 9 children from 9 different men and she is only 32. She's a hot mess. I don't get why these dudes who know she has 7-8 kids would run up in her raw dog! As for the athletes...no damn excuse. If you're going to bone a different chick a night just wear a condom. How hard is that! I don't know why these chicks would let a dude go up in her raw anyway! Just nasty!

S. Cooper March 18, 2009 at 4:18 PM

You said it best! I have no sympathy for these guys. Chicks have most likely been checking them out since they were in high school. It's like a meat market out there. I went to college and used to date a guy that's in the NFL and to hear him tell the story of how his ex-GF got pregnant is nuts. I know Travis Henry wished he would've bought a lifetime supply of some damn condoms...he would have came out cheaper than $17,000/month per child! I just don't understand...Sex is good, but it's not worth all that money plus the prospect of getting STDS...no excuse!

Eb the Celeb March 18, 2009 at 4:43 PM

@Soultress- I completely agree that the women need to be held responsible as well but let's be real...these women aren't the least bit sad when they find out they're pregnant. They may not have intentionally got pregnant, but they weren't insisting that ol' boy put on a condom either, so ultimately that possibility was always in the back of their mind.

Which leads to @TC - I completely agree. Why would baby mama 5,6,7 sleep with this man raw? That says something about them as well and why they would even want to deal with a man that already has that many diff kids by diff women. Obviously something is wrong with the women in that situation as well.


@Super Dave - I don't think we should point fingers at Dwight just because he is christian. People put christians on a pedestal and view them as having to be perfect all the time. Yes we have a relationship with God but that doesn't make us incapable of making mistakes.

karencivil March 18, 2009 at 5:03 PM

Some of my best male friends play football, and I get see the "fuckary" they commit firsthand. A lot of players do NOT like to use comdoms, they perfer to feel them inside of you. Sad fact but a true fact. With kids comes diseases and everything else from their unprotected sex. It's not even about them being trapt, its about them thinking with their dicks and woman capitalizing off of it. {Insert his nmae) just had three kids in less than a span of three months, yes he got all three girls knocked up, and the hoy I have of being a godmothers to them. smh x 1,000

lex. March 18, 2009 at 6:28 PM

"71% of African American children are raised by a single mother" - damn that statistic hit home seeing that i AM the 71% percent. however, i'm fortunate enough to know my father and be able to communicate with him though he's in iraq..


but about the game; i LOVEE that show, and i watched it and kind of flipped. i don't even know if i want derwin and melanie to be together anymore. all i know is that this season should be really intense.


-- lexx.

i.can't.complain. March 18, 2009 at 6:50 PM

everything's pretty much been said, E.

i watched the same piece on espn.

11 kids w/9 babymoms...

his stuff must look like a nestle crunch bar.

-1-

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The Jaded NYer March 18, 2009 at 7:26 PM

I cannot even deal with that 8 babies by 8 baby mommas tomfoolery...

GIRL I want to hate The Game soooo much but DAMMIT I want Melanie and Derwin back together so bad it's killing me! Like I know them or something!! ugh!

Keith March 18, 2009 at 9:50 PM

I have heard young ladies tell me that their man refused to wear a condom. When I asked them then why did they give it up..they said something to the effect that if they didn't give it up, somebody else would and they weren't going for that. That's crazy talk..And it's not just the fact that they had kids..they also had STDs to boot..but they didn't want to lose that man. I told them that they have the power..that if I guy really wants some and you got him at that point..he would've put on the condom to get it..All they had to do was insist..but they are too afraid to "insist" so that's why they have 8 kids and 8 fathers..Their fear of losing that
"golden dick" (The Athlete..the Hot
Rapper or Singer of the momemnt.)
They just don't know. So glad you put it out there.

ToshaRenelle March 18, 2009 at 10:47 PM

I can't even comment on the 8 and possible 11 kids situation, LOL! Hot mess, period.

"Med School" and Derwin will always be my favorite couple. I don't like Janay, just because. LOL! Although I think the storyline is VERY realistic, I just don't like it.

Mimi March 19, 2009 at 10:35 AM

That video was so annoying to watch! UGH! Having 1 MAYBE 2 children out of wedlock, may be understandable. But once you start getting to 5, 6, 7 and so on...that's when it get ridamndiculous and inexcusable. These men really need to GET.IT.TOGETHER!

The F$%K it List March 19, 2009 at 11:11 AM

I'm just plain old disgusted by that video, 9 possibly 11 kids. that last chick get the dumb de dumb dumb award because she laid up and had twins that look less than 2 years old thinking what "Oh I'm gonna be alright" WTF is with these women, and who in their right ass mind goes raw with an athlete? I don't care who you are you know he has hoes in different area codes (thanks Luda)

The worst part of this situation is the kids. The Boys won't know any better and some of these little girls will fall victim to the same foolishness their moms did. SAD SAD SAD!

Now the Game, I knew this was going to happen, Melanie was going to finally see she was wrong, try and go back and he would be with the mother of his child. As much as I wanted Mel and Derwin to be together its time to move on

Video Vix[o]n March 19, 2009 at 11:44 AM

DAMN, DAMN, DAMN. There's really no words for it. I think it's these athletes superstar' statuses that make them feel they can lay the shaft everywhere and not take responsibility when the baby comes out.

And it's even worse how people could blame the mother for trying to ruin the dude's career when they're are not the ones at fault.

11 kids, 8 mothers... sounds like a bad Maury episode, but it's so true. 71% of single mothers is no excuse for us. We mos def can do better. Good post Eb

Ess.Dott March 23, 2009 at 3:29 PM

I hate Janay. But girl-Melanie effed up.

I agree with what you said about athletes and them being mostly ugly and not getting any play until they became ballers. But don't you think their mamas woulda warned them about this? I'm just sayin...Tasha Mack did. lol

alicia banks March 24, 2009 at 5:06 PM

ditto!


there is no excuse for any man, especiallly a rich and famous target of gold diggers, to be making unwanted babies...

none!

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Janelle March 27, 2009 at 4:30 PM

Okay I read this in the New York Times (I think), and I'll tell you the same thing that popped into my head then: while he was busy thinking with his d*ck, those chicks were thinking with their wallets. And I'm not lumping alll of his 9thousand 5hundred and eightytwo baby mommas into one category, but come on...HAVE YOU SEEN HIM???!!! lmao
No matter how many lectures and talks the league gives these players, they all think they same way "Nah, that's not gonna happen to me". And then it does.

xxxx March 29, 2009 at 5:59 PM

This is just sad and it is craziness. It is unfortunate that females out there actually put themselves out there but it is sad that these kids have to grow in situations like this. What happen to marriage, and two parent households.

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