I'm fed up... gotta put him on blast!

I know this post is going to make him so happy because he'll finally get the exposure that he's always wanted, and at this point I don't even care. To me I feel like its living next door to a woman that is being beaten every night by her husband and not calling the police at least once. If you call that first time and she goes back to him, there is nothing you can do to help her, but if you called that once, and she finally woke up and realized that she deserved better, then you know you did the right thing.

For the past 3 days I have been harassed via email, this blog, my shoutbox, and my youtube videos. I chose NOT to say who the person was because I didn't want to draw any attention to someone so ignorant. But now I don't give a f*ck. I feel like its my civil blog duty to put him on blast after finding out that I am NOT the only woman that he has been harassing. Several women in the blog world said that he is either harassing them as well, or has harassed them in the past. I won't put any of the ones who emailed me about it out there but it has even gone as far as him harassing some of them on the phone. I know its seems weird, but a couple bloggers have my phone number (simply because of the blog meet-ups) and you never think anything of it, but I'm glad I was smart enough not to ever give this fool my number and so glad he was not a blogger that I have ever met in person.

Some of you visited my page the day all this started so you may already know who it is and I apologize if you saw the comments and shoutbox remarks before I was able to remove them. For those that were lucky enough not to see them the bloggers' name is JAMES TUBMAN (and that's not even his real name) Please beware of him. He is psycho, bipolar, schizophrenic, mental patient that really needs to get some help. He will send you nice emails offline at first and you think nothing of it. Me and him even partnered up a while back and I let him guest blog here for a week. I have since taken those posts down. But just as fast as he befriends you, he turns into a mad man out of nowhere. So I just want to warn all my blog sisters out there to steer clear of this man. He has since made his blogs private but this is what he looks like.

So all the MD, DC bloggers (if that's even where he really is), if you ever see him in the street please run fast as hell because he is super psycho.

The emails I have received from this man in the last 48 hours have been so ridiculous that I had to laugh at them. I won't even give him the satisfaction of posting the 20 something new ones since I posted a couple of them a couple days ago, because all my intelligent readers won't even understand what they say because he's more than obviously illiterate. Who tells someone that they don't even know in real life that they miss them. That's when I knew I had to report this dude. Then 5 minutes later he would email me how ugly I am and that I need to kill myself. I guess since I never responded to the emails after the one I posted he went on a rampage from not getting any attention.


I know he will be reading this post because he has no life. So I have a special message for you:

The cyber police are coming to get your ass... won't disclose of the company I used (but if you are being harassed and want to report him to the agency as well... hit me offline.) They have all the emails you've sent me, and a copy of all the ignorant ish you left in my shoutbox, and the crazy message you left on my youtube video... Crazy your so tough via email but you made your blogs private when you went out harassing everyone that commented on my post the other day and they lashed back at your ass. Oh and don't even bother emailing me after you read this, because I know your crazy ass will, because I blocked your email. I can no longer receive any emails from tubmansolution@gmail.com so you will really just be wasting your time. So get a new hobby!

HAVE A GREAT WEEKEND EVERYBODY... sorry for the drama this week...
And sorry for having to result to comment moderation because of this fool.
I know its annoying !
Next week we will go back to the bubbly, fun-loving environment that RBW usually is!


The Jaded NYer November 7, 2008 at 11:06 AM

Well now...

you know, I am sooooo glad I only have a small following of readers.

If one day I start to get more than 20 comments a post I will just do like my girl Dooce and close comments. Simple as that.

Who can keep track of all those people?

But this cyber-hating, man, is just... dumb. Normally, I'm not a fan of even acknowledging the haters; I'm a huge supporter of rising above and living well, which is what upsets them even more.

I think the attention is what gets them off and we just shouldn't even give them the satisfaction


DAMN- he was harassing you like that? AND others? Then I guess you had to do what you had to do!

I'm glad you called the authorities... and I know that type of cyber-harassment is taken seriously these days, too, so good luck dude! lol

If I ever need that agency's name I'll drop you a line.

Hopefully, if the new Prez can make some sense of this health care mess, dude will get some help.

Opinionated Diva November 7, 2008 at 11:08 AM

I finally get around to catchin up on you and this is what I find today...totally floored.

And ugh...now you have comment moderation.

Smarty Jones November 7, 2008 at 11:09 AM

Wow, I had no idea it was this serious. Damn, I gotta hurry up and get a new computer so we can jump back on AIM! lol
Oh well, it looks like you handled it the way you should have. And remind me to never piss you off, cyber police?
Damn, Eb.

Lina November 7, 2008 at 11:13 AM

Wow, I didn't know he was psycho...even though he posted a comment that I found so off topic that I had to do a post about it. But that was just recently, he has always been rather nice and encouraging. Ahh well, if you a nutjob then gotdamnit you a nut job, aint nothing I can do. Glad you gave us the heads up.

Eb the Celeb November 7, 2008 at 11:18 AM

@jaded - I thought about closing comments too... but then I thought... RBW is like a family... I love to hear your opinions... I love for my blog to be more of a discussion board than me ranting...

and yes I know the attention is what gets him off... and that's why I didn't entertain it at first... but when I found out he had been harassing other women... I had to say something... so that new bloggers know that he is trouble

@smarty - that's what I chose to call them as to not put the agency on blast...lol

Organized Noise November 7, 2008 at 11:21 AM

No need to apologize. Do what you have to do and handle your business.

Have a good weekend.

dejanae November 7, 2008 at 11:34 AM

im always oblivious
why am i feelin a lil salty i aint get harassed?
i usuallyy attract the crazies
guess the repellant is working

well now we know

The Jaded NYer November 7, 2008 at 11:41 AM

I hear you; glad to have been warned although he's never stepped my way. Maybe my boy Jack scared him off? lol

Anonymous November 7, 2008 at 11:49 AM

Wow Eb.... it's too bad it had to go down like this, but hope you can get your piece of mind back knowing that this is being taken care of.

Shy November 7, 2008 at 11:50 AM

He ain't got to worry about me trying to get on his blog and say anything to him...I hope your post is all the attention he needs and that he moves the fuck on from harassing you. Makes no damn sense! You're grown, dude!! But Eb, you called it...dude is more than a lil bit crazy.

Ms. Behaving November 7, 2008 at 11:52 AM


Well...I certainly hope this post puts a stop to the harassment.

Have a great weekend Eb.

Chris November 7, 2008 at 11:52 AM

well damn...glad you're getting that taken care of in a reasonable manner.

Anonymous November 7, 2008 at 11:54 AM

This is absolutely insane.

It's kind of crazy, but this is why I don't get too personally involved with the Blog World. I trade an occasional email here and there but other than that, I like to keep it short. I love my readers to death, but you never really know...

Glad you nipped this shit in the bud though.

A.M. November 7, 2008 at 12:06 PM

Aww eb. Sorry this fool is ruining your blogging experience. Some people truly are crazy. Yea...he needed to be put on blast. Looking forward to the words of wisdom next week :)

Liz November 7, 2008 at 12:07 PM

wtf? this is soooo so so bizarre. he needs copious amounts of drugs... and maybe and exorcism. hoping for the best with this situation...

Anonymous November 7, 2008 at 12:12 PM

Wow! This is some craziness. Just goes to show that you never know who is on the other side of the screen. Hmmm, thinking about prolonging my blog break.

Glad it hasn't gone further than the internet for you.

Eb the Celeb November 7, 2008 at 12:14 PM

@Skinny - I don't get personally involved either... I respond to comments here... or if its something I don't want everyone to know, I will respond to a person's comments to them via their email but besides that and the occasional blog meet-up (which I only do with blog women) I have no personal involvement either... I'm really mad it had to get to this but when I found out it wasn't just me I had to say something

and I apologize now to all those that may continue to get harassed because of this post... I'm sure the women that he harassed that he feels made have confided in me, he is going to email them as well and for that reason alone I have regrets about this... but if it helps women that haven't been harassed yet be alerted of him, then my job is done.

@liz - Most definitely an EXORCISM... because he has an evil, devilish spirit inside of him... you wouldn't believe some of the things he emailed me. Comes straight from the pits of hell!

contagiouslyCRANKY November 7, 2008 at 12:24 PM

What a loser... how ridiculous is that? I hope somebody cyberSOCKS his ass right in the jaw!!

ShellyShell November 7, 2008 at 12:42 PM

Damn...wtf is wrong with dude?

Lovebabz November 7, 2008 at 12:54 PM

Good job Eb!

You will be surprised to know that he and that other fool may just be one and the same person...

Oh I have taken matters into my own hands when he came round to me with this foolishness.

You did nothing wrong. It is not unique to blogging. He would be equally deranged if he met you in a bar. He just used the internet as his M.O.

Perhaps his email will be flooded...I would hope *smile*

The True Urban Queen aka Sharon November 7, 2008 at 1:02 PM

This is so crazy. Or should I say he is so crazy.
There is always that one in the bunch.

I won't let your story discourage me from meeting some of the folks who I have met through my blog but, I know to be careful, public places, with a group, and bring my mace.

Andre November 7, 2008 at 1:14 PM

If john mccain was prez I don't think stuff like this would be happening!

(I actually here people saying that here at work SMH)

Anyways yeah, just seeing dude picture I can tell he's crazy...I mean look at him. Plus he's light skinned so yeah...

Ms. Bar B: November 7, 2008 at 1:57 PM

Work it!! Hope it all blows over soon and they catch up with his ass. I hate when people do something stupid with a good thing.

Enjoy your weekend knowing that he has lost the game.

James Tubman November 7, 2008 at 1:58 PM

fuck you you bully

you are the fucking psycho


im just getting started

MzInspiredMind81 November 7, 2008 at 2:03 PM

Everyone else has pretty much summed up my thoughts on this one. All I have to say is, I'm mad that a grown ass man has that much time on his hands to go around doing bafoonery like this.

Super Dave Van Buren November 7, 2008 at 2:05 PM

Why he gotta be from MD? Damn damn damn.. I promise all MD/DC/VA dudes not crazy like that. Internet thuggin is not whats good in the streets.

Eb the Celeb November 7, 2008 at 2:10 PM

He commented several times since this whole thing started and I chose to delete and/or reject them threw comment moderation but I chose to approve the one above just so everyone can see how demented this fool is

he has also since re-opened his blog so maybe this was just a stunt to get traffic... little does he know... my readers are too intelligent to read anything over at his spot

Sha Boogie November 7, 2008 at 2:37 PM

What in tarnations? Does Sha Boogie need to slap @ bytch? A mess! I don't blame you for putting him on blast, good for you!! Everyone needs to know what a psycho looks like. Hmph.

FemmeNouveau November 7, 2008 at 4:09 PM

Wow I am shocked..knowing I am new to the Blog World..that is beyond crazy. I guess even in the one place where one comes to release and express their creativity...an idiot lurks. Well happy to see that you took care of it and yes he is a celeb now...he is in the spotlight!!!


Anonymous November 7, 2008 at 4:35 PM

sorry to hear all this...

The F$%K it List November 7, 2008 at 4:57 PM

HMMM Well I already said what I needed to say to you about this fool.

I mean really, do people think there is no cause and effect in cyberspace. If you are reading this Mr. Stalkercrazyman you need to seek professional help and change your blog name, why should the name tubman be soiled with your foolishness.

Kool.Kid.Kris November 7, 2008 at 5:19 PM

What a freakin nut! I'm happy you put him on blast to warn others of his ruthless, childish, unstable antics. He's just been added to my prayer list! lol.

Kryssy November 7, 2008 at 5:46 PM

oh my goodness! That's bananas. Thank the WORLD I only have a few readers... lol
What a weirdo! Just laugh it off...

Keith November 7, 2008 at 6:20 PM

You be careful EB...I've actually
been to his blog a number of times
and thought that he wrote some very good stuff about relationships,although I never left a comment..I'm very surprised and kind of disapointed to hear that he's the one who is stalking you. He left a pretty strong message on 12Kyle's blog yesterday.
I was like..WTF is going on with my fam?
You and lOVEBABZ just be careful,
you hear? Use your delete button
more often, that's what I do.

Keli November 7, 2008 at 6:23 PM

Be careful...

I was being stalked by the guy that use to live next door to me, I know how scary it can be...I will pray for God to cover you and for this blogger to get some peace...and I know it's easier said than done, but just pray for him.

Skoolboi Krush November 7, 2008 at 7:23 PM

Wow, Eb...I'm sorry to hear that you had/have to go through this mess. Its kind of a wake up call to how many crazies there are reading this stuff online, hiding behind a keyboard. Karma is real though so he will get what he deserves.

brran1 November 7, 2008 at 8:02 PM

I second what Super Dave said.

Not all guys from the DMV are whackjobs.

I'm glad you're in the process of getting everything straightened out though.

da.mistress November 7, 2008 at 8:34 PM

wow...thats crazy...you never really know people!

Video Vix[o]n November 7, 2008 at 9:00 PM

are you serious? blogger stalkers like this dude are out there? somebody seems to need a life much? tragic. don't worry bout it eb; he ain't nothing but a bad antagonist to your good movie.

keep doing you Eb. tell em why you mad.

LMAO November 7, 2008 at 9:45 PM

man this is some crazy stuff! i'm glad you put him on blast! he needs to get a life for real!!!

K@LiENTe November 7, 2008 at 11:50 PM

I wanna LOL but this shyt is SAD!


STAY FAB EB cuz u know u are...

Wooooooooooooow I'm still like damn


Miss Mika November 8, 2008 at 1:12 AM

seriously dude... is it that serious?

What is up with my favorite bloggers getting stalked by loonies? First Charles, then Glo, now you... what is the cyberworld coming to? Can't we all just get a long?

And I would really like to know, how can you be a bully online? Please break it down to me like I'm in kindergarten.

Hey Shae! November 8, 2008 at 9:56 AM

Wow. I would have reported his crazy behind and let him continue sending stupid -ish so the evidence would pile up. Cyber bullying police are no joke. They'll get that ass. But I wouldn't have given him the satisfaction of making posts about him.

Girl, you know how serial killers like to see their names in the papers...

Anonymous November 8, 2008 at 12:58 PM

LOL Wow. It's some crazzzzyyy folk out here especially on the net. I'm glad I've never had any problems with anyone in the blogosphere and I'd like to keep it that way. It's sad we can't do our thing without somebody getting salty and jealous

ShonaVixen November 8, 2008 at 3:19 PM

LOL...damn he really is crazy and thanks for putting him on blast maybe that will get him to stop taunting women...how bored is he???smh

Bombchell November 8, 2008 at 7:14 PM

WOW thats just crazy!!!! i hope everything gets resolved babe, there's enough drama in the real world.

Xcentric Pryncess November 8, 2008 at 7:34 PM

omg - you remember the Rick James/Charlie Murphy slap?--gets to commencing--old crazy -- deranged muh fucka. Be safe sis!

James Tubman November 8, 2008 at 8:02 PM

this is too fun

and those bloggers that you are talking about inittiated contact with me first

its amazin that a black woman can say anything in the world she wants to to a black man but when a black man retalites he is the psycho

you are the one who called many males bitches all over your blog and you have done this consistenly

i have never called one woman a bitch on my blog

never will

but you deserve this

this is for alll of the brothers you've ever harassed

payback is indeed a bitch

James Tubman November 8, 2008 at 8:10 PM

and this proves how stupid you really are

i dont want to give you this much time and energy

you definately arent worth it

every time i come back to this site it make me wanna throw up lol

and that new picture still aint cuttin it

you look like a gilla monster

and as for your blogger friends who said i harased them on the phone

those women will tell you they are the ones who intitiated contact with me

but thats okay

i am going to pimp you now

you are going to make me a better person

because a lot of the anger tht i feel towards some black women out there im going to take all of that shit out on you

because unlike most black women you really deserve

i am doing a civic duty by paying the queen bitch back for all of the bile that she's spilled on mankind in her 27 years of living

you are a curse to men

by putting me on blast on your blog you have basically declared war on my image and now i must respond

see if you were a real independent woman then you would have handled this by yourself

independent women dont need others to corroborate their hatred

clnmike November 8, 2008 at 8:28 PM

Damn stalking bloggers?

Thats so lame, somebody is off their meds.

James Tubman November 8, 2008 at 8:34 PM

and another thing you look like a monkey with a dress lol

why dont you put down all of your pictures and just leave the ones with your gurlfriends up so i wont have to retch everytime i come over here lol

i think i spelled retch wrong

Anonymous November 8, 2008 at 9:05 PM

ah hell...don't fall for the okie doke ladies

Anonymous November 8, 2008 at 10:09 PM

I am not sure putting him on "blast" was the wisest thing to do.

For instance...
Let's say he is just going through something and is exercising his feelings through commentary on various blogs. Perhaps he is a lover scorned, perhaps he has been betrayed or perhaps he has just a depp seated hatred on independant free women who do as they please. The fact that you have posted his pictures and diagnosed him with a mental disorder could open you up to a lawsuit. i.e. slander/defamation of character. Whatever he said to you in the privacy of your e-mail exchanges are private matters and as such do not allow the reader of your blog the ability to determine if he is, in fact, disturbed or just angry. In addiition, you are perpetuating the same energy that fuels the fires of hatred and ignorance. JUST IGNORE HIM and let the cyber police do their jobs. However, if the cyber police see that you have further provoked the individual, I highly doubt they will be very concerned with your concerns.

Worse case scenario, the individual DOES have psychiatric issues. Your new post is like throwing gasoline on a burning building. Not a very good idea. You have NO IDEA where this individual lives, what he has access to or whether or not you have now pushed the button that will set him off. Unless you have 24 hour security (and I am not talking about God), I strongly urge you to pull the post. THINK. He knows where you live, where you hang, what you do, where you go, just by your postings and videos. THINK. Its ok to feel you are the baddest bitch out there and you can take just about anything...but no man, woman or child on earth has skin that is impenetrable to knives, guns or God knows what else. You are putting yourself in a dangerous position by not ignoring your harasser. If you were to file for an order of protection, by law YOU too are forbidden from contacting the individual by any means. Or provoking them at that.

I have seen my fair share of tragedies growing up in NYC. From the top of the Bronx, to East and West Harlem, all the way down to the projects in Chelsea. This situation has bad news written all over it...

While it may feel good to have the support of your "friends" in cyber space, will they rush to your aid if a person with mental issues rolls up on you in the street?

I have a daughter. I look at all females the same way I would look at my own daughter. I am concerned about your health and safety. You are a VALUABLE human being and possess enough intelligence to think before you act and NOT react.


I just want you to THINK.

We really do not need any more blood of women on the streets. This is what I fear most about this conflict between you and your harasser. Do not hand over your power to hateful people by reacting to their hatred.

And may God's angels walk with you always.


clnmike November 8, 2008 at 11:34 PM

Letting you know you have been tagged.


Anonymous November 9, 2008 at 3:49 AM

Wow. I've been gone for a while. But, I never would have thought, you'd encounter some B.S like this. I guess, the successful black woman, is never free from the haters.


Eb the Celeb November 9, 2008 at 4:11 AM

@Caspar - I hear what you are saying and actually thought about deleting the post when the weekend was over... give enough people time to view it first so that they can know how crazy he is...

1st and foremost... I fear NO man... NO MAN... only God... and tomorrow is not destined for anyone of us... so if he is that crazy... that he would try to hunt me down and do something to me... then I believe in my heart of hearts that it was my time to go.

With that said... this is NOT a private matter... he has not only sent me private emails... he has commented on my blog... which you can see above... very public... he has commented in my shoutbox... and went around the blog world commenting on other peoples blogs... so I'm not worried about any Slander or defamation of character suit because he is the one who started all this mess... How can I defame a character that he has already defamed himself?

I dont know if you are a new reader or NOT... but over at RBW... I do things MY way.. so your strong suggestion ... has no precedence here... if I decide to pull the post... it will be because I chose to NOT because of something you said... quite frankly... since this ordeal... I have lost all faith in the blog world and find no one genuine so you may very well be one of his friends trying to come over here and add fuel to the fire... Hell you might even be him who opened up another profile for all I know... since I have never received a comment from you before.

Either way... Eb is going to be Eb and Eb is going to do Eb...

From his comment above... this whole thing seems to have started when I banned him from my blog a while back when I did a man bitches post... he obviously seems to have a problem with the term man bitches... and like the comments on the post stated... I wasn't talking about black men... i was talking about Men in general who dont take care of their responsibilities... this person obviously likes to change things around to mean what he feels they mean instead of face value... he likes to start trouble in the blog world...

Someone had to bring this ish to light... again... I am NOT afraid... at all... because I know that I did nothing wrong... now if I have to go because I warned other blog women not to get involved with someone that will eventually turn on them... then so be it... at least I know it wasn't in vain.

DollFace November 9, 2008 at 9:45 AM

Outta control...I don't read for a few days and I come back to THIS?! My oh my...this is a f'ed up situation; it makes it difficult to be open in blogland.

And comment moderation...girl you get waaaay too many comments for THAT!!! LOL

Anonymous November 9, 2008 at 10:12 AM

I am who I am. A grown woman and mother of three children who has her own issues. Don't know the individual who is harassing you. Came here by way of Karrie b.'s blog after reading about her internet gangster situation.

I wasn't telling to you to be afraid. Read my comment again. I was telling you to think before you REACT to words. Words floating in cyberspace that could make you or break you depending upon how you REACT to them.

As I stated in my comment, I have a daughter and you can rest assured I am NOT raising her to be afraid. I am raising her to be smart. It has nothing to do with fear and everything to do with instinct and higher intelligence.

There is no righteous cause in this circumstance. It's all about ego and anger. Maybe my age is speaking...but you should certainly, without question, do as you please just as you have been for the past XX years. I was merely suggesting you THINK before you REACT. To words. I was also suggesting you ignore someone who you have declared mentally ill. Wouldnt you ignore a mental case on the subway? I would hope so. Most of us certainly would. Further,I provided two scenarios for you too understand where I was coming from. I am not sure how you pulled from my comment that I could be a friend of your harasser or that I was telling you to be afraid, be very afraid. I was suggesting you THINK before you REACT. (?).

Looks like you have this situation under control.

Best of luck to you.

Eb the Celeb November 9, 2008 at 11:30 AM

@Caspar - I did think... long and hard about this post... this has been going on all week... and the only reason I posted this was because of all the emails I received offline from women who were also being harassed by him... None of the other women have said anything or posted about it so not speaking on it is and was not stopping them from being harassed. Someone had to bring this to light.

I do welcome your advice and thanks for it... and this will be the last time I comment or blog about this matter. I have already blocked off forms of communication with him... the only place he can harass me is in my comments and I have been deleting all of them except the ones on this post... Women need to be warned... and I have no regret about making that my responsibility.

Bloggal November 10, 2008 at 12:03 AM

damn...what is going on with everybody and blog stalkers these days? i'm glad you've had it taken care of though. and don't sweat the moderation. do what you gotta do.

Monie November 10, 2008 at 2:03 PM

*smh* This is really sad...

Ticia November 10, 2008 at 2:25 PM

Girl.. I am in my office gagging - WTF -

Man.. I guess I am in the dark about things - I am sorry that is happening -

Man..... I am kinda speechless -


Just_Wondering November 10, 2008 at 6:24 PM

OMGOODNESSSSSSSSS Thank you so much for this heads up! Im sitting here in absoulte shock!!!!!! WOW

T.R.E.N.T. November 14, 2008 at 6:52 PM

haha... i just had to say that i really laughed out loud reading this.

RiPPa November 15, 2008 at 4:37 PM

Are you for real?

I never knew this type of thing existed on this side of cyberspace in the blogosphere. This type of thing (I thought) only happens on social networking sites.

Too bad you have to go thru this. But its been said that if you have no critics its unlikely that you have no success.

SIDENOTE: I've been lurking your blogs for a minute now, and I love what you do. Keep it up, and keep it coming.

Sincere November 15, 2008 at 11:26 PM

Damn.. I'm gonna hafta post about this to help spread the word. This is crazy! glad you straight though!

The Brown Blogger November 16, 2008 at 5:06 PM

I kinda sorta went thru something like this last year although I handled it privately and then publicly when ish went haywire.

I know that you have things under control sis.

The good thing here is that the rest of us are watching... Strength in numbers, right?

StandTall-The Activist December 29, 2008 at 4:51 AM

I am just seeing this post. James Tubman has since opened his blogs (I think he has 2)

I have being a regular reader of his blogs and recently, I am wondering a lot about him and his ideas

God help us and thanks for this insight

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