Women are D*cks...
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RBW Perspective
So I had a real juicy fact or fiction friday post all ready to go that I will now save for next week since some e-Feelings were hurt yesterday from my post. (Thx to my girl Muze for my new favorite blog word) All I have to say is this... if you saw a piece of yourself in my post yesterday, then don't get mad at me. Take it as a therapy session that you didn't have to pay thousands of dollars for and make changes in your life. It was an overall consensus the characteristics named were that of a Man B*tch so trust that I wasn't attacking anyone personally and that it is a worldwide problem. The post was not a roasting session on any ONE person and damn sure didn't have to do with anyone in the blog world. It was a culmination of lovers and friends in my life. For those that thought I may be bitter at the moment... my loyal readers know that I am not bitter and am having a great time kicking it with Semipro at the moment. I have not been in any relationship that has made me bitter about black men as a whole... I was simply speaking my mind. I LOVE BLACK MEN, and have stuck up for them many times in my blog.
Anyway, I am not one to only have 1 RBW perspective... So here we go with the counter post and as a real woman I can admit that I have succumb to some of this dick-like behavior in the past and am happy to say I have matured from most but am still working on one (or maybe 2...lol)... and hoping I can lift some of my RBW's with me and that my RBM's were stripped of their bitchassness after yesterday's post, although based on some of the comments its looking like that may take a while.
Anyway, I am not one to only have 1 RBW perspective... So here we go with the counter post and as a real woman I can admit that I have succumb to some of this dick-like behavior in the past and am happy to say I have matured from most but am still working on one (or maybe 2...lol)... and hoping I can lift some of my RBW's with me and that my RBM's were stripped of their bitchassness after yesterday's post, although based on some of the comments its looking like that may take a while.
Women you are a dicks when...
1. You wont let a man be a man and you always have to be in control. Men were made to be the head of the household so don't be so head strong that you don't give them a chance to excel at that role. If you end up with a man that makes less than you, live with it and don't throw that in his face or make him feel like less of a man because of it. If you are going to throw it in his face or not let him be a man than let him go because you already have a dick so what do you need him around for anyway.
2. You put your business on front street. The chicks on youtube putting men on blast, the chicks that take the time to post ex-boyfriends on that don't date him girl site, and more simply the ones who act a damn fool in public and want to argue with their man all loud in public. Keep that ish at home and in the house because ultimately, you are the one looking like boo boo the fool.
3. You use your kid(s) as a crutch to get back at the ex-man in your life. Just because he hurt you does NOT mean that you have the right to deny that man the right to see his kid(s) and be in their lives. Just as much as they will hate that man when they grow up for not fighting, they will hate you for depriving them of having their father in their lives.
4. You never have anything good to say about anyone. Remember the old skool phrase "if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all." It kills me all the looks that females give each other when they are on the train, in the club, or even if you see a chick on the arm of a man that you don't think she is worthy of. Stop acting ugly towards other sistas. Yes, at times people come out looking a hot ghetto mess, but you know most times we are just hating... and we really have to get that hateration out of our system.
5. You have mastered the term "stick & move." If you have slept with more men than years you have been born... there is a problem. That ish is NOT cute. Yes we can now be sexually independent and it is OK to experiment a little and be more sexual in this day in age. But that does not mean your pussy should be an open door mission. Own your pussy power and be selective with who you let indulge in one of your most prized possessions.
OK... I know I wasn't as hard on the women as I was on the men yesterday so feel free to add your situations of when women are dicks in the comments. Just didn't want any additional e-Feelings to get hurt and a dozen more emails flooding my inbox today, so I figured I would tiptoe around the issues at hand. Crazy when you have to do that on your own blog because people are so sensitive. SMH!
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Hey Ms. Eb the Celeb!
sad to say...
but i think i may be a bit of a dick...
(but at least im woman enuff to admit it so that has to count for something...lol)
i won't say which one of those applies to me...
hee hee
Okay I like this shit...First off don't sensor yourself on your own blog if a muthafucka don't like what you say they need not drop by. As for the Man-bitch post I'm wondering how anyone thought that just applied to Brothers? Anywho Dick made bitches huh?
1)How about the female that always seems to know someone your man has fucked with? Bitch get a life and...? I'm pretty sure his dick didn't just start working when I met him...
2)The chick that swear up and down you don't go out like you used to because your man got a problem with it...Bitch err umm hello I go to school full time and have a three year old, I don't go out as much cause I'm tired...and I got dick at home...I ain't on the prowl no more! haha!
I'm in agreeance with aj.the.poet if a chick don't have NOT ONE female friend stay away from old girl...she may be an ebony on players club...annie get your gun!
Love the post.
@Aj - I know and I'm sorry that I wasnt as hard on the women as I was on the men but people are sensitive as all hell and I didnt want to get anyone's panties in a bunch... love what you added to the list though... I agree with both... I am that girl that hangs out with a lot of guys... but I do have my girls too... we may not be as close as me and my guy friends are but I do have my girls.
@prettyblack - thx 4 the support and I wont censor myself... just aint in the mood to come off ass the angry black bitch at the moment since some seem to think I am bitter so figured I would take it easy on this post. Plus I kinda knew that if I did you would come and bring the realness for me anyway and I was right... hi-five at both you've added to the list
ha. you weren't playing about using e-feelings, huh? lol.
these are pretty mild, but i guess i've been a dick before.
number 1... whew. but i'm working on it. lol.
I cosign once again, especially to #4. Talking about people should be used sparingly, its tastier that way!
I think I'm a lil disturbed by that pic... lol
Anyway, why are people so sensitive? this is still just blog land right? everyone entitled to they opinion. Nobody should get hurt feelings off a post.
I didn't see the post being out of line, You spoke on truth both times!
say that ish girlfriend!
can we get a fact or fiction now??
lol
Girl, I feel you!
I couldn't agree more. Glad to say I don't think I'm guilty of most of these things. I do want to work harder on making sure the man I'm with feels like a man. I think that our generation of Black women have always been taught to be independent, and strong. We've been raised to take care of ourselves first, b/c the truth is- we may need to do it all alone. As great as this is, I think it may be the root of a lot of the issues in Black relationships.
@Dave - that's what the heck I was thinking too right but I guess not!
@Simply Complex - I totally agree that's why on the men's version of this post I had to state that they have to accept that there are independent women out there and basically get used to and comfortable with that phrase... but at the same time we still have to let our men be men. I can admit like Muze has that #1 is one that I am dealing with within myself and agree that both aspects of that are indeed the root of a lot of issues in black relationships.
girl this is your blog, if ppl get offended oh well they can leave. lol
great post, esp about giving out the poonan to everyone that comes along...thats just not cool.
I think another dick move is when a female who knows a guy is in a relationship still pursues or partakes in some kinda relations with homeboy. A man can't cheat by himself and karma is also a b-i-itch!
Well I had a sucky day yesterday so I missed the post but I am headed that way after I tell you the one you forgot. You for got that women are dicks when they intentionally try to get the police to take their men to jail. Now, I am not talking about domestic voilence issues. I am talking about the women who call us out because they want us to make there, "sometimes lives here" boyfriends to leave cause they mad.
Uh, no. We don't do that shit. "Ma'am this is not a police matter. If he doesn't want to leave I don't have the authority to make him do otherwise."
That's when they tell all the dirty.
"He doesn't pay rent here" (Okay, you allow him to get away with that. Texas is a common law State. I don't care if all he does is sits around the house and scratch his ass until you get home. You picked the bastard.)
"He a drug dealer." (Okay, is he dealing drugs now? From inside YOUR house? If not, there ain't nothing I can do.)
"You can probably find drugs and a gun in his car." (Okay, is he in his car? If not, there is no probable cause for me to search his car without a warrant and that ain't what you call me out her for.)
"He's a chronic masturbator." (Okay, remind me not to shake his hand.)
"He in violation of his probation and has outstanding warrants for his arrest!" (okay, now that we can work with.) *Click-Click* Off we go to the big house. See you good people next month when yall get back togehter for the same old bullshit.
The men who fall into this little trap with women. What the hell is wrong with you? You don't have to call the police on me but once. And you don't ever have to get my ass thrown in jail. Ya female dick!
Okay, sorry about the long comment, but it needed to be said. Now off to the one from yesterday.
That picture is crackin' me the hell up
I just have one item that kinda has a lot of different variables and parts to it, but it all ties together. Women, you know you're a dick when you can't tighten your bra strap, open your mouth and flat out tell a guy you have no interest in him at all.
Sometimes these guys become "friends" because you don't want to hurt their feelings. Trust me, the more direct the better. Hell, I'd love for a girl to tell me "not if you were the last man on Earth." At least I know where she stands, LOL
You don't have to spare people's feelings. Speak your mind and let your thoughts be free.
But on the real... I'm glad you got on both sides. I'm only thinking you didn't get at woman as hard because well... I won't state the obvious.
I like the flow though... Keep doing what you do how you do it.
Say it again sis.....
I can relate to #1 I may be a bit controlling now -
WHAT WHAT?? people were trippin over your post yesterday?? I can't... I'm sooo over this drama... I wish a muthaf*cka WOULD come over to my spot complaining!
See that "X" in the top right corner of the computer screen? Click there if you don't like what you read!!!
...fools making my damn pressure go up...
but back to THIS post: I can't think of anything to add that hasn't already been added. Luckily for me I haven't had too much drama with females in my life.
how ive missed u and your cynism.
-kb
LMAO @ that picture!!
There are things i would say....but i wont...lol...I think you about covered the bootsiness of men AND women!
@mikki - thx... glad you feel me
@keiya - Mizrep just did a post on karma... check it out... thats my peeps right there
G-Mo - some very very good ones... you making me want to take the glove off and do the post all over like Eb the Celeb would do if people werent all sensitive and ish with all they damn e-Feelings (**wink** at Muze, so as you can see I am about the wear the hell outta that word...lol)
@One man - daaaanng... tell em why you mad son... you sure you want to be a police officer... you been bashing them for real lately...lol
@chris - thank you so much... I am going to show your comment to my homies.. they are always telling me I am too mean when a guy approaches me but then they complain about all the guys they have calling and texting them on the regular that they dont want to talk to. I aint got time to be sending nigs to VM all day so they never get my number... but they just say I'm being mean... glad men like you to be straight up with em.. even if half of them do get mad after when they holla at you dont bite... but that was discussed in the Man bitch comments already...lol
Thx Urban thought and Lina - I've had Jeezy's I'ma do Me on heavy rotation today!
@jaded - yeah girl.. people that have been professing that they don't even read my blog but then think that I am referring to they ass... How is that you don't read my blog but you saw a post about man bitches and felt the need to email me asking me not to speak on you. Doesn't that whole scenario smell like man bitch...the fuckery!
The making my blood pressure go up too, on they own damn insecurities!
@karrie B... missed you too.. glad to see your back in action... must mean you have cancun pics up... heading over there right now!
1. Is it really up to a woman to let a man be a man? Isn't he a man inspite of her?
2. Agree...but I think a lot of men LIKE those crazy kinds of women. Those women are never single and always seem to have someone.
3 & 4. This I absolutely hate, so I agree.
5. This is funny. I mentioned how many men I slept with to another blogger and she flat out called me a liar...the number was low - in her opinion. Does this apply to women or just to men?
Going to see how hard you were on the men.
There's nothing more I can add because you and the posters above have said it all.
Thank you for this post. there are so many women that do these things and call it handling business and they just don't get it. I hope this message gets passed along throughout the ages!
Eb, i've already stated my opinion on the situation.
Now yes females can be dycks! # 3 and #4 is the truth. I hate bytches that try to find a flaw in a bytch! Real recongnize real and i know I have NO PROBLEM tellin a bytch she is pretty or i like her outfit..yano shyt like that.
-i hate bytches who act like they shyt don't stank!
-females who call other females phones starting shyt because they found YOUR number in they mans phone or wherever...BYTCH get mad at him
-Bytches that don't handle their business, and are worried about the next when they need to be focused on them!
-triflin azz babymommaz, like u said who use their kids to get back at the men...hate it! I would never keep my son from his father as long as he is a positive influence in his life.
-LMAO i hate women who go out to eat and embarrass you complainin about EVERYTHING tryna get a free meal!
that pic is hilarious!
And yes! this post and the previous were RIGHT on point!!!
@OD - I feel you... so maybe I should have phrased it a lil better like stop trying to be the man when you have a capable present...or something like that
as far as #5... I think if they truly respect themselves and value themselves then yes it applies to them but the fact of the matter is... they invented the term stick and move and dont think that is going to slow down anytime soon.
@k@liente - thx for all your input... both yesterday and today... all good ish that definitely make the list
smh @ the pic
interesting post
i do be actin a lil too hard sometimes
LOL@ the overly sensitive folks who need some emotinal babysitting.
If I may add...WOMEN are DIcks when:
...they go slashing and egging cars after dude has basically told you in verbally and in his actions that you just don't do it for him
...women are dicks when they call their friends and invite them to attend the slashing and egging festivities
...get all pissy with another female and want to go destroying stuff, getting in fights, or purposely try to hurt another chick all because your man is laying up with her. Uhhh leave that alone. Catching a charge over anyone that's not thinking about you like is not worth it.
...when they want to call other chicks phones and try to start a phone beef
...when they make an effort to find dirt on their men. Stop looking for a reason to dip. If you don't trust him, leave him alone
...they are at a party with a man that they are neither dating or exclusive with, stalking him around the club and trying to make other chicks feel uncomfortable because he's chillin with them
...they've been told by dude to move on but still calls to lay up with him. Then get mad after they've f*cked and he still doesn't take you seriously
...they've f*cked two men within a 5 hour period and wonders why dude doesn't take you seriously
...they've screwed him, his family, and friends and still expecting more
...they just run their mouths for no reason. It's okay to shut the hell up.
...they run around playing the victim knowing good and well they were the cause of much of the junk they allowed to happen
I'm on a roll...I'll hit you later if I come up with anythig else.
...lazy women are dicks too. Make that money, keep that body tight, and make sure your hygiene is on point (wax, shave, nair...musty pub hair after smell in public bathrooms is just not cool)
@ Seven - love how your new profile pic shows that you tell it like it is because you really just did
i agree with your post...but can I just tell you that the picture is quite disturbing!
The Man Bitch post was so thorough that I didn't think there was anything else that needed to be said. I'm just glad there's someone out there like you who has the energy to give a little 101 from time to time, cause the Man Bitches got me tired out fa sho.
That picture is PRICELESS....hahahahahahahahahahahahaha!
And yes....I can't believe I am actually saying this but I am a DICK. I like to run shit, because I am use to running things, but I know for a fact that a man should be head of house hold, so how can I try to run things if he's suppose to be in that position, it's not setting a good example for my son, there's is nothing wrong with having a strong man to head the home and a loving strong SUPPORTIVE woman to keep him on track. I was trying to wear the pants and it back fired:
He payed the bills, cooked, cleaned, took care of my son and worked, while I worked and sat on my ASS and tried to run shit, but what i realize is that when I let him lead, I was no longer stressed letting him decide when we should move, what school our son should go to, when we traveled, etc, I was so damn BOSSY and that's not attractive, now I treat my man like a KING literally, completely SPOILED and he deserves that, now I cook and clean he still pays the majority of the bills but he gets a healthy supply of "throat and kitty kat" as RDB would say LOL and I am feel very feminine and he loves me and he's happier so it all just works out for us!
Again that's for Female Dicks 103
hahahahahahaha
AMEN! lol
That was so needed. I mean, yeah it wasn't as harsh, but honestly, women like that need to step it up. All the other signs of crazy are usually more blatent so it wouldn't really be necessary to comment on it. All I know is, it seems like you have to keep your guard up; lots of women with stupid major issues floating around...and it's not because they are scarred, they are just too lazy/proud to work on themselves...
yo folk, u need a dog, i got the fly attire and free wine on fridays CAN U DIG IT
LMAO @ dollface...i agree with your list
I especially agree with the first one. Let a man be a man. I get the whole strong, independent woman thing but don't try to do every damn thing!
omg that pic is HILARIOUS! im sending that to all my co-workers right now!
I like my role as a women ...i like knowing that my man will never forget his role and a leader and he knows when im in control of somethings and he's in control of others
to bad I don't know where a guy like that is
Great post :)
lol, i don't know what to say but from your post above...shid, i'm not a dick, and that's on the real. Lived too long, birthed too many children (2). And have held it down for my man, to know i'm no DICK! Really, that's all i got to say...i loved your previous post, you said what you felt, and that's it, that's all, some folks may be sensitive, hell, i'n sensitive, but i do believe your blog, your opinions or whatever you want to put out there is yours, so do you. Ima do me!
Out!
great post
horrible pic
you've been on fiyah this week!
AMEN MAMA!
@dollface - all good ones... and you are just as bad as my roommate joy and my girl devin.. just got finished harassing me about not going out with them... i told them I am detoxing until June... so I only have 1 more day to go... will be back in action next week...lol
@realhustla - thx... it really feels good to be appreciated for bringing things to light rather than ridiculed by those that would rather show they ass than help to make a change
@CC - I think we all have been dicks and what point or another...our generation has been raised by strong women therefore we are going to be stronger... I just feel we have to find a happy medium so that we can have thriving relationship because black love truly is the most beautiful thing in the world
@Chris - So true... the first step is admitting our faults... that what I tried to do yesterday with the men... its amazing how men were more sensitive to the post yesterday than women were today... so I guess we were right when we said the roles have changed... so now that we have stated the problem... both sides need to work on themselves so we can do better as a whole
@Torrance - STOP reminding me... i want a dog soooo bad... but not while I'm in NYC...
@Smarty - I love your grandma...lol
@La - Yup.. thats the first step!
@Mizrep - I wanna be like you when I grow up!
@Kyle - Why you hating on my pic...lol
I think it's a compliment to call me a dick cuz I LUVS da DICK! LOL!!!
& that photo is CRAZY interesting that they came up with that!! whoa...
Wow!!!!!
so... Im not a dick by anybodys standards. But even if I was i probably wouldnt admit it lol.
Ok I had to look at that pic over and over again before I realized what it was... I'm so like a kid on the short yellow bus today.
Ok I have been a dick in my 17 year relationship and marriage (#1 specifically)I really thought I was going to change him and motivate him by being like that.But I've matured in my 33 years to know better now.
Yeah #5 is the truth.If you treat your body like the McD's drive through you are a dick. Add to that if you start bringing kids into the world from the multitudes of me. A girl I went to HS with is GUILTY of that and she don't take care of near one.
You are also a dick if you carry a child in your womb for 9 months and as soon as the baby is born you are leaving that child by your moms while you go out and shake a tail feather. That ain't right cause your mother already raised her damn kids RAISE YOURS!
And I say it again I didn't know the blog world was so sensitive, seems weird since we are all connected by technology.So 'eff what people think about your blog or the content, PEACE THEM OUT!
let the church say YAY-men!
(p.s., I just HAVE to steal that pick from your post. sorry.lol.)
I would add to this one You use your kid(s) as a crutch to get back at the ex-man in your life.
Don't let the fact that your ex has moved on and found another woman use the kids as a ploy either.
Girl #4 is my pet peeve! It's like grow the fuk up already.
i see this has sparked quite the controversy and debate on your blog.
interesting concepts i must say myself.
6) You listen to your girlfriends who dont even have a damn man to much.
8) Buying me some gift you know damn well I dont want.
9) You want sex when You want it!
10)"What do you me you owe me one?"
Other than that great list.
Oops, ladies' corner....
@rethots - not a ladies corner at all
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