My sexual evolution...

So I don't talk about sex much. For some reason it has always been taboo to me. For the first couple years after I started having sex, I didn't even like it and would rather not even do it. I know my boyfriends back then hated my guts. I remember my boyfriend my senior year in high school, we didn't have sex until the night of my prom... and I didn't even want to do it then just did because I felt like we were suppose to. I swear we probably didn't have sex again until that fall. Yup went the entire summer without indulging again. He tried, oh did he try, but for the most part was a gentleman and thought something was wrong with him, but in actuality it just wasn't my thing.

Throughout college, I always dealt with guys that were into pornos. I thought it was the lamest thing ever! Really didn't experiment too much. Very simple, missionary, hit it from the back, and if you lucky I may ride you. Didn't partake in fellatio until I was 21 and can still count on my hands the number of times I have went there.

But since the latter part of 2006, I don't know what has come over me. For some reason I like watching porn, I have been experimenting with toys, been buying a lot of lingerie just to make myself feel sexy when I go to bed all alone (doesn't hurt that my mom has 40% off at Victoria Secret either) and I bought a couple things recently that hopefully me and Semipro can try out when he gets back in town.

Then I found out that NYC has a SEX Museum. OMG, when I saw it I honestly heard chimes. I have to go to this place. Me and Semipro have never been on a real date so maybe I'll get us some tix when he gets back in town. I am extremely intrigued by this place. I honestly have not been able to stop thinking about it since I found out about it. I may take myself on a date to go see one of the exhibits before Semipro gets back because I don't know if I can wait.

One of their current exhibits is called "Kink." After doing a little research, I've learned that Kink is the use of props, costumes and role play to enhance partner intimacy. Hhhmmm, sounds exhilerating. To learn more about the exhibit, the NY Times wrote an article about it. You can go here to read it.

If you would also like to partake you can go to their website for more info.


Smarty Jones May 7, 2008 at 11:49 AM

Evolution or revolution Eb? I think what happened is you prolly ran up on something you liked and you wanted that experience over and over and I ain't mad at cha.
I think one of two things happens when a chick has sex for the first time. Her first is either the guy she is totally convinced she will love for the rest of her life and it is a beautiful experience that she wants to have repeatedly. Or, it's a dude she kinda likes and the whole thing is like watching paint dry and she is not going through that anytime soon.
I co-sign on what Ludacris says, "Some say that sex is overrated, but they just ain't doing it right."
That's true, for women, sex is 90 percent mental. Like my mom told me in high school, "if he gets in your head, he gets in your bed."
So true, so true.

PrettyBlack May 7, 2008 at 12:06 PM

That's funny...You know I didn't start having sex until I met my hubby back when I was seventeen, but I ALWAYS liked it. Now I've had others but I can't remember 'em. Hubby has been putting it on me so long I'm whipped!

But with some people I don't think it's the fact that they don't like sex they just don't know what the fuck they're doing, or they're with someone who doesn't know what the fuck he's doing.

Either way I like that shit!

Monique May 7, 2008 at 12:12 PM

Interesting how we all go through a sexual wake up at some point. I think it has something to do with when we finally get some that's good and makes you realize that you've been missing out if you've already "popped" that thing. LOL I say embrace it and keep it moving. I would to check out that museum whenever I come up to NYC. Looks like it would be a fun place to take my untitled guy as well. LOL

Anonymous May 7, 2008 at 12:19 PM

I remember my first sexual encounter. I didn't have sex again for two years. I just didn't like it. Like you I wasn't into porn but now.... I think I started to really enjoy sex around the age of 20. I didn't start experimenting with toys til last year. Now that I'm hitting on 30, sex is always on the brain.

Charles May 7, 2008 at 12:23 PM

See...I was putting off sex for personal reasons. And then I was coerced when I was 19...and looking back I shouldn't have. Long story short, I told girl about my views on sex, and she won't buying it, but kept pushing...and I finally gave in. But she was already looking to other people for that...and she wondered why I had trust issues and refused to let her in. Anyways...I've been celibate by choice for more than a year...and I'm not taking that dive again until I'm sure I'm ready...cause I can't complicate things right now more than they already are.

Charles May 7, 2008 at 12:24 PM

BTW that Teedra Moses Take Me is my shit...okay...that is all...

Homer is My Co-pilot May 7, 2008 at 12:32 PM

They say women don't really like sex till they experience an orgasm. I don't know how true that is but I enjoyed it from the jump.

Seven May 7, 2008 at 12:53 PM

Oh hell yeah...I'm definitely making a trip to NY to take a look at that. I loved sex when I got to know my main man Jack. Too bad he died on me. Sike no! HmmmI think I really started getting into it when SA and I really started getting intimate. That was because I was in love with him. Now I'm a little nasty thing.

Pajnstl May 7, 2008 at 1:59 PM

As far as i can remember i've always been highly curious about sex. I've liked it ever since I started engaging. my 1st had what i like to call crack dick. lol i like to lost my mind! lol
anywhoo... i have to put the sex museum on my list of places to visit when i make to NYC

Divine Blackness May 7, 2008 at 2:38 PM

*add Sex Museum to list of place to visit* Definitely sounds like something I'm into. I got bombarded with the ideas of sex not too long ago too. I didn't start havin' it until I was 20. Opened all kinds of doors for me. And porn ain't bad. Sounds loco but celibacy really allows you to appreciative the majestics of sexual encounters.

Darius T. Williams May 7, 2008 at 3:05 PM

LOL - we never have this type of stuff in CHicago. Well good luck on your sex-capades.

MsPuddin May 7, 2008 at 3:05 PM

ok you just gave me another reason to move to NYC...

I think when you get older, as a woman, your libido changes right? thats why older women date younger men, so they re in tune.

Lina May 7, 2008 at 3:06 PM

Damn you New Yorkers...actually I should damn myself for living in the Bible belt. Anyway, that sounds like something I will have to do before my life is over. I have always been intrigued by sex and all of its facets, but I didnt start really getting in to it until about 2002. Now....I can't be stopped.

Anonymous May 7, 2008 at 3:13 PM

This is just a normal part of your personal growth. That museum does sound interesting...

Ms. Behaving May 7, 2008 at 3:21 PM

I can remember feeling a lot like you did when I first started having sex too.

The shyt was just waaaayyy overrated...

It's not until I met that one brotha that REALLY put it on me that made me start lookin' at sex in a whole nother light.

WOW @ that sex museum... [I had NO idea]
Interesting...very interesting....

Tha BossMack TopSoil May 7, 2008 at 3:29 PM

Blue Balls for an entire summer huh? You's a cold piece of work ;-)

12kyle May 7, 2008 at 3:37 PM

@ Eb
Very good post.

I think you are just developing like any other woman would. Sex is a part of it. Personally, I gotta have it! LOL. That hasn't changed...and aint gonna change, dammit! LOL. And I'm glad that wifey feels the same way.

*gotta hit that museum when I come to nyc this summer*

dessex May 7, 2008 at 4:19 PM

i need to check out that museum

soupasexy May 7, 2008 at 5:07 PM

lol, i didnt like it much either when i first started....i love it now it!

RealHustla May 7, 2008 at 6:30 PM

I've liked sex since that first make out session that mysteriously ended up wet down there (it wasn't me) when I was 13. I've lived several sets of celibacy, the longest one running about 5 years, and they were really hard. When I was 18 this Equidorian dude kept making me climax over and over. With him I learned to know thyself, cause that's what leads to real satisfaction.

Melody.Darlene May 7, 2008 at 6:56 PM

sex is rarely enjoyable in the beginning. but once u know where ur spot is and hot hit it.... ooouweee lemme stop!

KIKI May 7, 2008 at 8:07 PM

Iont know bout all this not liking it at first stuff ya'll talkin bout. first time was the mind blowin experience I thought it would be, but one man & year and a half later...the second time was the BOMB. I've been hooked every since.

I'm just glad you've reached the point in your life where you do enjoy it (I always feel sad fr people who say they dont); and know that you do, all I can say is...welcome to my world...and what a wonderful world it is!LOL

Ok going to check out website for sex museum now..mmmmm...kink...

1/3 of what I used to be May 7, 2008 at 8:08 PM

well I feel you on the not liking sex thing..I mean I really only like intimacy but this heat(summer) making me think about it more then I want to lol. I think you having a sexual wake up call is a part of you growing like the other commenters said.

That museum looks like it would have some very interesting exhibits. Knowing me I probably would laugh at them all lol

The Jaded NYer May 7, 2008 at 9:10 PM

and you didn't hear this from me, but right up the street from the museum is Le Trapeze... a swingers club... just in case you wanted to know LOL

Anonymous May 7, 2008 at 9:38 PM

This museum sounds verrrrry interesting. I may have to comeback just to visit!

Brittany May 7, 2008 at 10:15 PM

I've heard of the museum. Going there would not be exciting for me. I would be so embarrassed. Have fun!!! lol

karrie b. May 7, 2008 at 11:11 PM

never heard of it...have fun!


Anonymous May 8, 2008 at 12:30 AM

sex museum?....sounds like my kind of place....

CapCity May 8, 2008 at 12:36 AM

Sis, I'm glad u've evolved/been with someone who's made u enjoy it! Cuz GREAT SEX is da BALM-DIGGITY!!! LOL!

funny thang tho' i still don't like watching others have sex - nor see others naked so, enjoy the museum for me;-)

AND now, I see why she's Smarty, Cuz Sistah NEVAH LIED:
"I co-sign on what Ludacris says, "Some say that sex is overrated, but they just ain't doing it right."
That's true, for women, sex is 90 percent mental. Like my mom told me in high school, "if he gets in your head, he gets in your bed.""

allienicole May 8, 2008 at 1:36 AM

i caught that!!! @ jaded hahahaha

i agree with homer too..i didn't like it til i was with someone who actually had stroke i'm willing to try anything once!

and i deffffffff needa hit up that museum someday! good looks!

Afrodite May 8, 2008 at 2:03 AM

My friend from NY told me about this museum, I thought it was an urban myth!

JayBee May 8, 2008 at 5:41 AM

let us know what it's like. never heard of a sex museum, but stranger things have happened.

Ms. emmotions May 8, 2008 at 6:42 AM

first times, always leaves u with ' so wats the big deal about sex'
usually gets betta tho, usually dose

one soulful negro. May 8, 2008 at 11:49 AM

i've always been sexually curious, even at a very young age. before i could even comprehend what sex was. but as i've gotten older, the intensity, for sex has grown. but not just to get that nutt, but on a spiritual level. if that makes any sense. i've always seen sex as a spiritual thing, no matter the circumstances, it takes on a life and form of its own.

i am all about sexual revolutions and evolutions. its really a part of life.

Jadore.Tokeyo May 8, 2008 at 1:21 PM

that museum is a must now. i gotta take a trip up to the big apple!

kayellejaye May 8, 2008 at 2:04 PM

Looks like I'll be heading back to NY sooner than I thought.

Lady Cameleon May 8, 2008 at 2:22 PM

I prollly think about it almost atleast a few times a week fa reals......i guess that happens when you aint gettin it that often :(

aj.the.poet May 10, 2008 at 8:51 PM

something to keep in mind next time i slide thru NY

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