The thin line between sexual liberation & being loose
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RBW Perspective
As a female there is the constant stigma that if you take charge of your sex life that you are considered a hoe. I don't think this is always necessarily the case. In my eyes sexual liberation in stages does not make you a hoe. Sexual liberation as a lifestyle is what makes you a hoe.
Let me explain in examples.
A woman gets out of a 3 year long relationship. She's not looking to get into a new relationship but is ready to get out there and have fun. She's dating and has no apprehension that if a date is going well that she will take him home that night. She sleeps with 3 different men on a pretty regular basis for a 9month span and then is over it and goes back to her old self again choosing to only sleep with 1 man at a time and cuts 2 of them off.
Another woman just hasn't been getting much play from men as of late. It's been a year since she's had a date and 6months since she's had sex. Out of nowhere an old fling calls and because the loving was good and because she hasn't gotten any in a while she indulges. A week later her crush from college hits her on facebook that he's in town and would love to catch up. They go out for drinks and she wakes up the next morning in his hotel bed completely nude. She goes another 6 months before she sleeps with anyone again.
THESE ARE EXAMPLES OF BEING SEXUALLY LIBERATED. YOU MADE CONSCIOUS DECISIONS TO SLEEP WITH THESE MEN BECAUSE YOU WANTED TO AND SHOULDN'T BE JUDGED FOR DOING SO. THIS ISN'T SOMETHING THAT YOU DO 365 DAYS OF THE YEAR HOPPING FROM BED TO BED... BUT AT CERTAIN PERIODS OF YOUR LIFE YOU DECIDED THAT SEXUALLY YOUR GETTING YOURS.
That's all I could come up with last Friday and this here post just sat in my drafts because I didn't really know how to close it. I didn't want to call out examples of those that are considered hoes because the world has plenty of them. I struggled with whether to pose questions on where the line is drawn but in my head I had already come to that conclusion. There's also the option to include personality traits into the equation because merely sleeping with men cannot be the only characteristic of hoe-ism. Then today this discussion erupted on twitter courtesy of this tweet from @HelloMissJean
Many twitterers weighed in with their opinion of this very thin line and here are a couple that stood out to me:
But this right here....
Was the icing on the cake. I can't believe we're still having the #'s conversation. Didn't Eb hip y'all to game on this one a while back. Yup sure did... you can check it out HERE if you missed it.
Either way, is this one of those age old stigmas that is never going to die? Are men always and forever going to be THAT insecure with their package that they don't want to settle down with a woman that may have had their box unwrapped more times than they can count on their hands? Hit me in the comments!!!
Let me explain in examples.
A woman gets out of a 3 year long relationship. She's not looking to get into a new relationship but is ready to get out there and have fun. She's dating and has no apprehension that if a date is going well that she will take him home that night. She sleeps with 3 different men on a pretty regular basis for a 9month span and then is over it and goes back to her old self again choosing to only sleep with 1 man at a time and cuts 2 of them off.
Another woman just hasn't been getting much play from men as of late. It's been a year since she's had a date and 6months since she's had sex. Out of nowhere an old fling calls and because the loving was good and because she hasn't gotten any in a while she indulges. A week later her crush from college hits her on facebook that he's in town and would love to catch up. They go out for drinks and she wakes up the next morning in his hotel bed completely nude. She goes another 6 months before she sleeps with anyone again.
THESE ARE EXAMPLES OF BEING SEXUALLY LIBERATED. YOU MADE CONSCIOUS DECISIONS TO SLEEP WITH THESE MEN BECAUSE YOU WANTED TO AND SHOULDN'T BE JUDGED FOR DOING SO. THIS ISN'T SOMETHING THAT YOU DO 365 DAYS OF THE YEAR HOPPING FROM BED TO BED... BUT AT CERTAIN PERIODS OF YOUR LIFE YOU DECIDED THAT SEXUALLY YOUR GETTING YOURS.
That's all I could come up with last Friday and this here post just sat in my drafts because I didn't really know how to close it. I didn't want to call out examples of those that are considered hoes because the world has plenty of them. I struggled with whether to pose questions on where the line is drawn but in my head I had already come to that conclusion. There's also the option to include personality traits into the equation because merely sleeping with men cannot be the only characteristic of hoe-ism. Then today this discussion erupted on twitter courtesy of this tweet from @HelloMissJean
Many twitterers weighed in with their opinion of this very thin line and here are a couple that stood out to me:
Either way, is this one of those age old stigmas that is never going to die? Are men always and forever going to be THAT insecure with their package that they don't want to settle down with a woman that may have had their box unwrapped more times than they can count on their hands? Hit me in the comments!!!
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