Thought to Ponder

Everybody's at war with different things...I'm at war with my own heart sometimes.

-Tupac Shakur

Sidebar : I have a crush on the saxophone player at my church and I don't even really know what he looks like. Never seen him up close because I sit about 3-5 rows from the back of the church. I am too embarrassed to look at him when I walk around for the offering and I never linger after the service but I really have a crush on him. Don't know if he's married (remember I haven't gotten close enough to see his face so I definitely haven't seen his hand.) At first it was a joke between me and my roommate, but after last Sunday when he got off the sax and sang a solo, and then the butterflies I got when he was playing during praise and worship today... I think I officially have a crush. I do not need any distractions when I am trying to go get the word... so please Lord take it away... rebuke that spirit that has me fantasizing about Mr. Sax when I should be praising you.


Fashion's Darling July 27, 2008 at 4:03 PM

haha thats happened to me plenty a times-just not at church lol

Andre July 27, 2008 at 4:47 PM

that's one of the many reasons I used to justify my MIA status from church.. I mean everytime I go I see beautiful women and I can't concentrate on the word, cause that lurst is a mutha!

clnmike July 27, 2008 at 5:05 PM

I got to agree with that my mind is not the lord, it's on Sister Lucy's behind.

IntrospectiveGoddess July 27, 2008 at 5:15 PM

LOL, I have a slight crush on the guy who plays the drums at my church....I used to go to high school with him....maybe it has to do with the fact he is auditioning for the dont know

Ms. Jones July 27, 2008 at 6:04 PM

It must be the music because I have a crush on the drummer at my church too, he's just FINE!...the Lord knows my heart :)

RealHustla July 27, 2008 at 6:54 PM

Just try to remember, you feel the same way about 20 other women in that church house do. Musicians are hot in any scene.

Mizrepresent July 27, 2008 at 7:25 PM

Yeah, i had the same problem with the bass guitar player...until a friend of mine told me he was married.

Regina July 27, 2008 at 7:49 PM

HaHa! Not you being shy! get close and look at that finger!
But actually I think it's just a musician thing. Women ALWAYS seem to have a crush on the music man!

Anonymous July 27, 2008 at 8:19 PM

Oh Eb.... BWAHAHaHAHahhAhahahahahaha I'm sorry girl but I'm cracking up thinking this is the WORST place to get cute in any way form or shape at

kayellejaye July 27, 2008 at 8:43 PM

Ain't nothing wrong with a church crush. Just more motivation to get out of bed on a Sunday morning. I've had plenty!

Shelia July 27, 2008 at 9:01 PM

lol...I hope you can still get your worship on inspite of the crush. Maybe get your friend to sneak a picture with their cell phone and then you can get a close up.

Trina July 27, 2008 at 9:48 PM

I can so relate to this...I once had a crush on the praise and worship leader at a church back home - of course he was married, too. If you are in the mood for a little love story, come by and visit me - tell me what you think...

FREEDOM July 27, 2008 at 10:13 PM

EB.... sometimes God puts us in the pathway of the one that might be the ONE that HE has for us. God is LOVE and praising him is LOVE in action.

He just might be showing you someone who WILL love you back how u want 2 B loved because this man loves HIM first!

i know u don't know him to know all that... but who knows you just might hit that marriage date by 30 after

Take Care


B July 27, 2008 at 10:30 PM

As long as those thoughts are pure while in the Lord's house....ain't nothin' wrong with that.

anonymousnupe July 27, 2008 at 11:20 PM

MAYBE...maybe...GOD IS...God is...TRYIN'...tryin'...TO TELL YOU SOMETHIN'...

Keli July 27, 2008 at 11:36 PM

I have been there...I caught my self lusting after a certain defensive back during Easter services last year...can't tell you anything about the service...but I can tell you how good *blank* looked.

But on the cool, he might be single, and it might be for you to look in his face and learn his name...

Keisha "Kitten" Isaacs July 27, 2008 at 11:56 PM

Hey Sistah!

You've done the right thing by asking God to help you stay focused while in church....Did the crush come from the sound of his music?......

Darius T. Williams July 28, 2008 at 8:03 AM

So funny! But um, if he's cute - then ain't nothing wrong with a little crush.

Super Dave Van Buren July 28, 2008 at 8:26 AM

lol.. you need to get a good look at him before you can have a crush. Maybe you need a nice choir boy

She W0rd Hustlez July 28, 2008 at 8:45 AM

Lol, oh no girl. Please hold it all together, loll.

Beautifully.Conjured.Up July 28, 2008 at 9:59 AM


...nothing wrong with crushing...

If I were you, I would find a way to make it to him, and make small talk just to check him out. Tell him you like his music or something...

The F$%K it List July 28, 2008 at 10:26 AM

LOL, I'm mad at never seen him up close (and aint been close enough to see his finger). Let me find out Eb is SHY.....

ok for real are you trying to hit up erykah, you and Jaded have me thinking a sister needs to make it happen.

Ticia July 28, 2008 at 11:00 AM

aww - I love crushes - go for it!

Anonymous July 28, 2008 at 11:07 AM

Ok, maybe I missed it...but Eb... can you tell us why u cut Semipro off? How did you come to the realization that it was time for him to exit? All I remember is that you cussed him out in your tipsy state of mind. Lol. Blog entry please? Lol.

Shy July 28, 2008 at 11:08 AM

I have a crush on the assistant minister at the church I go to while at school...He can't help but get attention from me. All eyes on him on the 2nd and 4th Sunday, lol.

Monique July 28, 2008 at 11:30 AM

Bless your heart! LOL. Just remember while you're there.

Anonymous July 28, 2008 at 11:31 AM

Well Go make conversation.. nobody said it had to be anything more but talking about the lord....

1/3 July 28, 2008 at 11:33 AM

lol crushes at church make it so hard to concentrate so I feel you.

I think if he's peeked your interest you can at least introduce yourself. No harm in that:-)

Anonymous July 28, 2008 at 11:50 AM

LMAO! Know you wrong sittin up in the church house having impure thoughts!! Lol.

Tony OH July 28, 2008 at 12:10 PM

Yeah, I'm truly going to be praying for you... I don't want Mr. Sax to become Mr.

Have fun!

Intimate Outings of Love

UnKnownDiva July 28, 2008 at 12:53 PM

talk about tell the truth and shame the devil, i'm not mad at u though cuz i've had plenty of crushes at church. praise the Lord cuz the Word of God always draws my attention while the pastor is preaching. afterward, i'm back to fantasizing again :)

The Jaded NYer July 28, 2008 at 1:02 PM

welcome aboard flight 666 straight to you-know-where!

would you like a warm towel?


Torrance Stephens - All-Mi-T July 28, 2008 at 1:31 PM

woman u got a dif crush every week
good thing is u admit it
have a great day folk

and i got them Vonbitch shirts for dogs LOL

faith July 28, 2008 at 2:51 PM

Eb-- this is too funny. i have a crush on our drummer so i know where you're coming from.

CapCity July 28, 2008 at 6:34 PM

***SIGH**** My security crush left -- i think he was re-assigned:-(. I really had a crush on his deep chocolate smooth voice: When that Brother said, "Good mornin', Sistah." I.Would. ABSOLUTELY. MELT!!!

blkbutterfly July 28, 2008 at 11:31 PM

at my old church, i always had a Sunday morning crush. granted, it was someone diff. each Sunday, but a crush all the same. lol... at my new church, i haven't had that same "problem." hmmm... that's probably a good thing.

Anonymous July 29, 2008 at 6:36 AM

og girl only you would be distracted from the word. but no worries. i officially began liking older men at church. i straight up fell in love with an elder when i was 11.

ps: blogrolling you

quarter-life-crisis July 29, 2008 at 11:19 PM

I too had a crush on the sax player at church!!! LOL! Then one day the preacher announce the arrival of his new child with his wife. Nevertheless it was a good thing, I was feeling guilty about crushing/lusting after a man in church! LOL

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