Downplaying a situation... we still doing that???


We've all had our own perceptions of what a situation was... no matter whether male or female... even though most times its us ladies that are putting up the notion that a dude is feeling us more than they say. Especially when you have the notions to believe statements like:

"No matter what a man SAYS, its what he DOES that's a TRUE reflection of his character!"

Is this really true???


A man can say he doesn't want to be in a relationship...yet he calls and comes by regularly
and does everything that makes you believe you are in one, just because they are wary of official titles.

Most times, because we are used to men playing games, we just go with the flow and don't press the issue. This one is cool and approaches the game a little different. We assume that he's just playing hard to get. We know he's talking to other chicks and that we aren't exclusive but you have a good time when you are with him so you don't really care about the other chicks.

Now for me... I'm not naive at all to how a situation with a man is. I believe solely what is brought in front of me. The reason I can have a healthy jump off situation. The reason I cant stand for someone I was talking to, to portray to someone that I was just a jump off. Nigga please! Don't try to downplay a situation with me. You only played ya self for the fool because I actually had respect for you. Now I gotta put you in the bucket with the couple of other idiots I gave the time of day. Now we can't be friends. Now all the good things I used to be able to say about you I can't because this is the ultimate disrespect. Indeed we were never serious, but to play it in front of the boys like you were big willie when I never even bussed... that just doesn't make sense. Why would I make a jump off situation with someone that isn't jumping me off? That just isn't smart. So to belittle me as if that's all it was. Especially when I could have put on blast how terrible you were in bed, cuz any chicken head would have but I'm a f*ckin' lady. How dare you put me in that box when you weren't laying the dick down? Especially when I tried to comfort you after your bad performance. Especially when I wanted you to disappear you didn't and came around plenty of times just to hang because you knew you weren't getting any. I mean isn't the jump off the chick you only call in the middle of the night?

Its more than obvious that I don't like you like you like you. Indeed I saw good qualities in you, the reason you lasted that long and tried to ignore just how terrible you were in bed. At times let the couple of good moments overshadow the fact that you were a prick more times than not. But hearing this is the icing on the cake.

My personal problem with myself is that it shouldn't have taken this long for me to completely remove you from my life. Why does it take someone to be blatantly disrespectful, to the point that you were done taking the high road and had to set their arse straight for you to finally shake them loose? So many times I've tried to just be done on a high note. Before it got to the point of destruction, so that we could still be cordial when we saw each other. But all of that is dead and gone now. I feel so free... like a giant weight has been lifted off my shoulders. I no longer have to play that sensitive chick role to a nig that was too big to have that many insecurities anyway, I no longer have to tiptoe around saying what's really on my mind as to not crush a part of his manhood. Now I can get back to being me. Being the Eb that isn't nice. I found out that being nice gets you nowhere. So I'll just be me, the bitch when I wanna be, the one that isn't going to take whatever inkling of affection that someone wants to give me, the me that usually filters out the weak ones before they even know my last name. That's where I went wrong with him, because if I was on top of my game, he wouldn't have even gotten to that point. Making excuses for him, and wasting time waiting on him. What the heck was wrong with me even thinking that cockiness was sexy knowing damn well I'm not one to deal with egos.

Again I'm mad at myself for us having to have a major pow wow for me to realize that I don't like you, like you like you. You see things in yourself that I don't see... and I saw things in you that I don't believe were ever there now that the fog has cleared. So many signs that other people saw, but because of things I didn't make known publicly I kept the faith that because they didn't know the entire situation, they couldn't comment.

Once was blind, but now I see...that you would NEVER be the man I needed you to be!

So back to Angry Eb I go. That was the nickname before Eb the Celeb came about... so we gonna convert back to her for a lil bit. Some might say being mean isn't the answer either but at least that me was happy, at least that me had a roster and didn't get caught up with wondering what only one dude that wasn't even worthy was doing. No better song for the moment but she's out of my life because in a years time he'll be singing this blues about me best believe. Especially since I did a post here on RBW about how many chicks would stay with a dude where everything was right except the sex and not many would stay around. You had one that tried to be understanding and you tried to play me for the fool... so kick rocks. Cue Music!

11 comments

Ms. Lovely July 27, 2009 at 7:35 PM

lmfao!!! I been MIA from the blog world but this post just showed me what I was missing! I'm baa-aack lol. You tell him Eb! How dare he try to throw on the ego mask knowing damn well he wasn't up to par. Wack peen ain't whats hot in the streets.

And I feel you on reverting back to Angry Eb because it seems like that's the only time they appreciate/respect you. It's a thin line but if you play it right you should be straight. I'm done biting my tongue, being stressed, pressed, and depressed over some faulty XY chromosome.

IntrospectiveGoddess July 27, 2009 at 9:42 PM

Girl are you talking about Semi Pro?? you probably wont say if it was him or not...but girl I sooo feel you on being the Angry girl now or just upping your standards and not making excuses for these fools.....Girl do you....

That shit is mad disrespectful but he fucked up a good thing cuz as you said most chicks aint gonna deal with WACK sex game and then on top of that you want to be an asshole too?? I can't go....

These niggas is really trippin these days!!!!

clnmike July 27, 2009 at 9:54 PM

Man thats lame right there putting some one down to make your self look good. Well now you know. It pays to be an the dick instead of the ass getting screwed by the dick.

♫Hershey's Kiss♫ July 28, 2009 at 12:46 AM

wow that is some punk mess he just pulled. He tried to make you look bad when he was the one that came up short. How he gonna get mad at you when you ain't say jack or disrespect him about his wack game. He just played himself.

Mr. B2B July 28, 2009 at 2:03 AM

That dude needs to be kicked to the curb, coz he gwan give guys like me a bad name... (excuse the selfishness)
But men need to open up and admit their dramtistikal insecurities and find a way to move forwards...
coz many of us don't know the drama the hunnies have to go through, but think it is all about US!!!

I hope you enjoyed kicking him to the curb...

Oh, write him a letter asking that he treats the next shawtie better...

and yeah, how do i get you number, i can do better than this chap!!

Mimi July 28, 2009 at 12:17 PM

Guys are so Fcuking lame!! Why do the guys with the wackest sex game insist on trying to put chicks out! UGH!

I hope he reads your blog, so that he can realize just how wack he really is.

THERAPY July 29, 2009 at 11:26 AM

WELL HELLO AND LONG TIME KNOW HERE FROM EB,

I FIRST MUST SAY THIS IS AN INTERESTING POST!!!! VERY INTERESTING!! I HAVE NO IDEA WHOM THIS IS THAT YOU CAN BE TALKING ABT OR IF YOU ARE SPEAKING ON BEHALF OF SOMEONE ELSE! CAUSE THIS CAN BE POSSIBLE! I HEAR YOUR ANGER AND SOMETIMES WE ALL NEED TO VENT!! LET IT OUT!! AND ITS SEEMS YOU HAVE DONE A GREAT JOB ON THAT! I ACTUALLY COMMEND YOU ON RELEASING THESE FEELINGS THAT YOU HAVE, SOMETIMES WE HAVE A HABIT OF RELEASING TO THE PERSON AND SOMETIMES DEPENDING ON THE CIRCUMSTANCES THAT CAN BECOME DANGEROUS. BUT A A PIECE OF ADVICE...!!

DONT LET THIS SITUATION CONSUME YOU. AS SOMEONE WHO LISTENS TO PEOPLE FOR A LIVING I OFTEN SEE PEOPLE LET A SITUATION CONSUME THEM. ALTHOUGH THAT DOES NOT SEEM TO BE THE ISSUE HERE YOU CAN NEVER TELL. I WISH YOU THE BEST AT MOVING ON FROM THIS SITUATION. I DONT WANT YOU TO STAY THE ANGRY EB! THAT PERON IS A PART OF YOU BUT KNOW ONE SHOULD BE ANGRY NOT ALL THE TIME!! THIS REMINDS OF STORY THAT I HEARD! GONNA SPARE YOU THE STORY AT THIS TIME. BUT THE MAIN THING IS DONT LET ANYONE TAKE YOUR POWER AWAY FROM YOU. NOT POWER IN THE SENSE OF WORLD DOMINATION BUT THE POWER TO BE THE PERSON THAT EVERYONE KNOWS AND LOVE!! LET IT GO BY ALL MEANS NECESSARY. SOMETIMES YOU HAVE TO GET RID OF THE CLUTTER TO HAVE A CLEAR MIND, HOME AND LIFE!! EVEN IF THATS MEANS GOING COLD TURKEY OR GRADUALLY!!

ThinkGoHard July 30, 2009 at 2:52 PM

ay you got a dope blog on your hands here fam. Might have to start checking more regularly...

Rondell July 31, 2009 at 3:10 PM

I once saw a flyer for a show for a DJ named LimpDyk. LOL!

-::brown sugar::- August 1, 2009 at 1:04 AM

OH! How I've missed your blog!!! <3 Totally feel you on this...keep it movin' girl..live for yourself...and no one else.

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