FACT or Fiction : The reveal

First, I have to say thank you to everyone who think so highly of me and automatically thought it was completely fiction and out of character for me. In reality, that is the absolute truth, but we do all slip up sometimes and do things out of character when loves is involved.

With that said this was MY FACT.

Background story.

It was my senior year in college. Me and the BF had lived together for almost a year when he moved back to NYC with his mom. There was a month left in our lease when he left, and I couldn't afford to keep the apartment myself.

Me and the BF had broken up and gotten back together more times than the months we lived together. We were young, and stupid, and shouldn't have been living together in the first place. We were both too immature to handle it.

With that said, the reason I was so mad was because when he moved I wanted to break up, completely. I knew our past and knew the long distance thing wouldn't work. He insisted that we try to work it out, gave me the whole dance about loving me and me moving up there with him after I graduated (which was only 6 more months) and I bought it. Now that I am older I realize that whole thing was just to control me. He knew I would never cheat on him no matter how far away he lived, so he said he could commit just so I wouldn't be dating anyone else, knowing damn well he was going to be doing his thang in NY.

Either way I moved in with the new roommate when the lease was up. My BF was pissed, knowing that ol' boy had tried to holla at me before, but he knew my situation and that options were limited. Plus he trusted me, and had no reason not to.

Now let me clear up the sex part. He wasn't the smallest but he wasn't well endowed, a little smaller than average I suppose, so I really couldn't feel him. I think my body was starting to numb itself to all feeling anyway because I was so hurt, or maybe it just seemed like it was bad to me because that's when I started thinking in my head, "what the hell am I doing?" I do although feel he took advantage of me and was probably waiting for my BF to f*ck up so he could make his move. Even though I felt 10 times worse after, I don't regret that I did it at all.

Also I have to clear up the way I found out. That part of the story was a fib. He gave me a bullshit story about not being able to come down for Valentines Day so I checked his text message log online. We lived together so I knew all his passwords to everything. That's where I saw the messages from them back and forth that she was coming to visit and their plans. I just didn't feel like going into detail there because it would have taken to long so I gave the story about his phone calling me by mistake.

The next day I called BF and the other chick. He had been dating her off and on for a while too. Me and her had a pleasant conversation. It was funny because he knew we were talking and kept calling both of our phones while we were on the phone together. Hilarious now that I think back on it. He was panicking like crazy.

Sad part is, this wasn't the end between me and him. I thought I was completely done and hadn't talked to him since the incident and then he surprised me by showing up at my graduation. The drama picked up right back where it left off. I finally completely got over him in 2005, and we are still friends til this day. One thing about Eb is she never holds a grudge or is bitter about a situation no matter how bad it was. I am still friends with all my ex's. I may have to remove myself from the situation for a while, but they know if they need me they can always count on me.

Oh, and this was the first time I cried over a dude... had a couple more tears shed because of this same dude after that, but he still remains the only guy who has made me cry. Promised myself I wouldn't cry over a dude again unless they were happy tears.

Any questions?

38 comments

Homer is My Co-pilot June 9, 2008 at 8:15 AM

Was the 30 min crying game shower helpfull? I'm still laughing at what your roommate could have been thinking in the other room.

"Dude is she crying? maybe I should console her.. wait I already tried that, maybe I'll just sit this one out"

Eb the Celeb June 9, 2008 at 8:21 AM

Nah, not helpful at all. Crazy that even though his infidelity started the whole thing, I still felt like ish because that was so NOT me. But oh well... and I don't think ol' boy heard me crying in the shower. You stupid for that though...lol!

Pajnstl June 9, 2008 at 8:46 AM

lol i finally got one right!

Suite B June 9, 2008 at 10:13 AM

I forgot to take your email address with me (that's what happens when you change purses in the car). Although it was a short trip...I had a blast

Thoughts of a Southern gal June 9, 2008 at 10:39 AM

I didn't respond to the last post because my computer was acting up, but I thought FACT.

I've been in one situation where I thought "what the hell am I doing" during the "deed". Once that thought entered my mind, I was ready for it to be over.

YoungBlackBeauty June 9, 2008 at 11:08 AM

WOW. Interesting story. I wonder what your roommate was thinking when he felt sex would help ease your pain. Guys have some twisted ass logics. A hug could have worked just the same.

anonymousnupe June 9, 2008 at 11:44 AM

I didn't weigh in either, but I thought "fiction." I was like, "Naw, that vulnerability seduction only happens in the movies...to hapless white women." I know it didn't work for me, and I'm damn Anonymousupe!!

Smarty Jones June 9, 2008 at 12:04 PM

LMAO @ anonymousnupe. "Hapless white women," huh? No, that kinds ish has happened to the best of us.
Let me put you fellas up on some game. A lot of times with women, sex is about feeling closer to a man.
You need to feel desired, wanted, like somebody loves only you. What better way to do that than with sex?
You can't get any closer than skin on skin contact with the opposite sex. Sometimes, you just need that whether it's the truth or not.

anonymousnupe June 9, 2008 at 12:15 PM

Seriously, Smarty? Dang. I thought I was doin' alright, but I guess I missed out on a lot of high quality booty. I had a lot of "friends" who were hooked up with my frat brothers. So you know the chicks were gettin' dogged, right? Man, I coulda been slayin' that thang...more than I already was!

karrie b. June 9, 2008 at 12:21 PM

booooooooo i missed this.

-KB

Chris June 9, 2008 at 12:33 PM

Well damn, slap me with Star Jones' bra and call me Al. I figured this was fiction because it just seemed to wild to be fact. I was way wrong, LOL

Shelia June 9, 2008 at 1:43 PM

You mentioned something that I've talked about offline with friends. I'm not friends with all of my exes but one of my exes is a very good friend. He actually makes a much better friend than boyfriend.

Gotta Let it Out June 9, 2008 at 2:23 PM

I would have guessed fiction on this... you surprise us everyday Eb!

kayellejaye June 9, 2008 at 2:40 PM

I just knew this was FALSE...although it's pretty similar to something that ALMOST happened to me. Guys think they're slick. They're not.

My roommate tried to get some too when the ex and I had a falling out. I had a weak moment then I quickly snapped out of it.

kayellejaye June 9, 2008 at 2:42 PM

Whoops! I mean FICTION.

This is not a test...

Ms.Honey June 9, 2008 at 3:09 PM

No questions i just need to catch up LOL

Torrance Stephens bka All-Mi-T June 9, 2008 at 3:10 PM

well good for you
and him
least he never had to get
u too big

12kyle June 9, 2008 at 3:28 PM

bad trim. lmao!!! just kiddin. i didn't think this was true. good story, sis

RealHustla June 9, 2008 at 3:36 PM

See, I know real sadness when I feel it. Even with the little fib mixed in. Even the part about the little wee-wee made me sad. One disappointment on top of another.

Sha Boogie June 9, 2008 at 3:54 PM

Wow..I totally thought it was false too! That just goes to show you can never judge a book by its cover, lol.

Ms. Jones June 9, 2008 at 4:04 PM

Well looks like I was wrong, but in my defense it was the convenience of the whole cell phone situation that threw me off lol..its a wonderful quality and gift to be able to not hold grudges and be able to move on though

1/3 of what I used to be June 9, 2008 at 4:46 PM

yea i missed this one 1:-( um im mad he took advanatge of you like that. I'm glad you arent holding grudge against your ex tho. we have enough bitter women running around LOL j/k. that really does show maturity tho.

Charles June 9, 2008 at 4:56 PM

I'm mad ol boy did you dirty like that tho...

And ya'll are still friends?? Wow...I don't think I could do that...better than me

E. Christian Wallace June 9, 2008 at 6:06 PM

Interesting story...I guess I was partially wrong, but wrong nonetheless.

The Pew View June 9, 2008 at 8:55 PM

Hey baby. I needs your prayer so be sure to read the latest blog. Take care now.

Signed
Ruthie Annn

The F$%K it List June 9, 2008 at 9:43 PM

I'm mad I missed this AGAIN!

I ain't mad at you though, your instinct told you something was up so you went and got the evidence. And you are a bigger person than I because I will cut you off, no grudge just you become persona non grata.

DollFace June 9, 2008 at 9:53 PM

I knew it!

Only one guy has made you cry huh? I wonder how many women can say that?

The Flyyest June 10, 2008 at 3:22 AM

dammitt!!!!! i missed it...

edmo June 10, 2008 at 4:27 AM

Dammit too Eb...

But i am feeling your ish too...
Amazing how you think you know somuch, and then accept the part where you grow up after the hurt...

Amazing!

Thanks for passing by mine!

boo! coco June 10, 2008 at 4:31 PM

interesting concept.... but i give you all the props in the world for being able to forgive and still be friends with him aswell as talking (not cussing or harrasing) the other woman, me on the other hand....well lets just say sometimes i'm just not that rational and can get a little crazy *lorraina bobbit style* lol

Miss Foxxy June 10, 2008 at 10:10 PM

damn.. that's a crazy ass story, tho i don't blame you for what you did. but i do think your roommate took advantage of you, too..

isn't it funny when you're in a situation like that [i.e. unhealthy relationship] you can't see what everybody else been telling you.. but when now looking back, you see so much clearer? trust me, i been in that SAME situation.. not as bad as yours [with the cheating].. but it was unhealthy nonetheless.

Afrodite June 12, 2008 at 1:52 PM

I'm late...

But my first thought was that the story was fact. And a good story it was.

How old were you when it happened?

G-Sweet June 12, 2008 at 8:03 PM

HAHAHA... I COULDNT HAVE BEEN MORE WRONG... i hate this game now!... i quit... lmao!

G-Sweet June 12, 2008 at 8:09 PM

oh yea... did u ever tell ur EX about you and the roommate?

and was it awkward around the roommate after that? *im sure it was!*

www.fabvixen.blogspot.com June 13, 2008 at 2:50 AM

Interesting. Why don't you write a book?

Eb the Celeb June 13, 2008 at 9:58 AM

@ G-Sweet - Funny you ask that question... after we were completely done going back and forth and I was over the situation... I think it was late 2005 he came to me and was like someone told him that I slept with ol' boy. I have never been one to lie so I said yeah and told him the whole story. He was almost brought to tears because he was joking just to see what I would say and no one had ever told him anything. He was hurt... didnt talk to me for a while. Crazy how his infidelity was the reason for mine but he stopped talking to me. Proves that men love and hurt a lot harder than women its just that we show it more on the regular so it looks like we do.

Gary June 14, 2008 at 8:12 PM

thats why i dont even play like that... i learned my lesson bout askin questions i dont really wanna know the answer to!

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