I have a confession... I was caught on tape

Everyone has things they've done in their life that they regret. I am no different... and watching the following videos on WorldStarHipHop made me remember.

SMH @ the momma jumping in the fight because her daughter was getting her behind whooped.

Double SMH that one of the chicks had an Obama yes we can shirt on.


The second video was actually the situation to a T. There was a big crowd around us. It was March 2000. I had only been in college for 2 months because I took the first semester off. Moving down south and having a car with NYC plates... even the cops would pull me over for no reason, so it was inevitable that the chicks on campus would have a problem with me for no reason. Then it just so happened that these chicks also didn't like the group of people I chose to be friends with. This day in March I will never forget because it was a rare 90 something degrees. Everyone skipped class and was out on the yard all day. When its nice weather, chicks get bold. They had been poppin' off at the mouth for weeks but finally got the balls to step. We walked down to this alley behind campus with a crowd of at least 100 people following us (because we thought if we fought off campus we couldn't get in trouble... lol... funny how we wanted to fight, but still had sense to make sure we didn't get kicked out of school.) We fought... I rocked the chick head just like in the 2nd vid. So many people were taking pictures and videotaping around me. The only difference from the tape was that the chick that I was pounding on the ground, when the fight was over and I walked away because I heard the police coming, she ran behind me and cut me. My arm split open like a flower that was blooming. With all the adrenaline from the fight I didn't even know it. Some dude actually walked up to me and told me I was cut. I cussed him out because I didn't feel anything... my arm was completely numb. Then my homegirl said something and I started to freak out. I looked down at my arm and there was blood everywhere. They rushed me to the hospital. The cut was so deep they had to sew my tissue together with the dissolving kind first, and then sew the outside skin. I was so heated I wanted to whoop her arse again.

We had to go to this bootleg campus court. Chick tried to say she didn't cut me. That I must have fell on some glass when we were fighting. I wanted to come across the table and knock her arse out. How the hell did glass cut me when I was standing up and you were getting pounded on the ground and you didn't get cut. This story is never ending. One dude that was videotaping started charging people to come in his dorm room to watch the fight. It was craziness... everybody has a hustle in college. Another dude that was taping got caught with some weed on campus. Told officials that he had a tape of the fight and would hand it over if they didn't kick him out of school. Prosecutors finally got a hand on the tape when we went to real court because yes I pressed charges... and she was convicted. Was kicked out of school and had to pay my doctor bills.

The point of telling this story is for my young RBW's. I'm hoping that my readers that are my age, would have sense enough to not be involved with something like this. But I was 18 years old when this happened and seeing those videos made me pray that the video of me never resurfaces. Young RBW's, don't make the same mistakes I did. Know that you are destined for greatness and you don't want something like this to follow you around your entire life. Whether its fighting, or a sex tape, or anything that can jeopardize your integrity.

I honestly can't even believe I just told that story... but ya'll know I'm nothing but real here. No point in talking about your accomplishments all the time, if you can't share your faults that might keep someone else from making the same mistake.

So my fellow Renaissance People, have you ever been caught on tape?

30 comments

Anonymous April 7, 2009 at 9:35 AM

**knocking on wood** I've never been caught on tape. Thank you God! If only walls could talk. lol

Diva's Thoughts April 7, 2009 at 10:06 AM

What a wonderful post! Your honesty is awe-inspiring. We've all done crazy things when we are young. The key is learning from them.

The Jaded NYer April 7, 2009 at 10:18 AM

OK... I know this is wrong, but why was I cracking up at old boy in the 1st video standing around watching while he ate his bowl of cereal? Really? You just gonna come outside with your toastie-o's and watch a fight?

With regards to being caught on tape... there are definitely some less than favorable photos of me out there in the Universe, but nothing on video. Hopefully the pictures will never surface!

MzInspiredMind81 April 7, 2009 at 10:35 AM

Eb,
I am so glad you shared this story. This younger generation needs to realize that a lot of things that are idolized(like having a sex tape, etc) are not cool. It's good that someone like yourself ( a true RBW) can relate and attempt to prevent them from making the same mistakes we did when we were their age.

I've never been on tape but have to agree w/ Thoughts of a Southern gal...if walls could talk, I'd be dead right about now! Lol

Kingsmomma April 7, 2009 at 10:36 AM

I've definitely been caught on tape but not for fighting. I think when we're young we're a bit more stubborn and we allow our good sense to fall victim to our egos. I remember my very last fight was on the day i was inducted into the national honor society. I too thought having a fight away from school meant you couldn't be prosecuted. I ended up getting suspended and it turned out that my fellow fighter was the daughter of my 5th grade teacher- the only factor that kept me from gettin arrested that day. She went back and told my entire elementary school about the fight and i was morbidly embarressed since i still visited that school.

ChpterReads April 7, 2009 at 10:39 AM

For now I can say that I have never been caught on tape, add to that I have never and I mean NEVER been in a fight either. but reading this post reminded me of so many other fights that I witnessed and I wonder if the girls who were fighting feel the same way you do now?

I'm glad you want to bring this subject to light, because many of these young girls don't get it! I hope they take heed!

Anonymous April 7, 2009 at 10:57 AM

When you started off with "I was 18" I knew it was gone be some drama. Nothing to be ashamed about at this point. It was probably the drama following the fight that embarrased you the most.

However, I do agree that these young ladies need to know that you should conduct yourself in a manner that's pleasing to God and NoT to man. Because after all, who do you want to be rewarded by?

Peyso April 7, 2009 at 11:32 AM

I have been caught on tape fighting, I knocked a dude out in the lobby of my dorm, 2nd sem freshman yr. I didnt get in trouble, the blessings of being a football player.

Another thing is that I cant believe you got her kicked out of school and convicted when you agreed to fight, that aint right.

Eb the Celeb April 7, 2009 at 11:47 AM

@peyso - she didn't get kicked out of school for fighting... she got kicked out of school for having a concealed weapon... if her hand skills weren't as good as mine she should have took the beat down like a champ and learned to keep her mouth shut... but nooooo ... she wanted to pull out a knife and cut someone... that's why she was kicked out of school... and that's why I was able to press charges

Musique's Poetry April 7, 2009 at 12:25 PM

When you said going to college for 2 months, I knew something was about to go down. It is funny how hataz will step to you and don't even know you.

Britt April 7, 2009 at 12:30 PM

Thank GOD I always RAN when I saw a camera!! I'm sure I've done some crazy ish (sober and drunk) that would make for some big laughs on the internets!

Spesh April 7, 2009 at 12:47 PM

Oh dt chic sure gt what she deserved.
I hav never been caught on tape thankfully.
Thx 4 sharing.

L. Denise April 7, 2009 at 1:31 PM

No! (as far as I know, anyways...LOL)

Thanks for sharing your story. Hopefully, others will take heed to your story. Of course, you'll have some that will SWEAR that'll never happen to them tho.

Peyso April 7, 2009 at 1:53 PM

I thought all things were fair in fights. At least how it was when I was a youngin...

Jillian April 7, 2009 at 2:11 PM

i've never been caught on tape fighting but i have in my younger days sent sexual photos..no nudity or any shots of the privates...just pictures that looking back i hope never pop up...ugh...yes i was young, but still like you said..no one likes something that could show up later to make someone question your integrity..

thanks for sharing your story Eb! :)

Sha Boogie April 7, 2009 at 2:33 PM

Dang Eb!

Nope never caught on tape -- and thanks to me being 5'11 I ain't never got into a fight either. Heffa's take one look and don't want none, LOL!

Oluchi April 7, 2009 at 3:42 PM

I'm dying over here cuz this calm Erykah Badu song is playing n the background while this crazy fight is going on. I couldn't help myself.

A April 7, 2009 at 3:46 PM

Damn! lol Nah I havent...yet...and I'm trying to keep it that way lol good story! ;)

Keith April 7, 2009 at 8:22 PM

Far as I know, I've never been caught on tape doing anything like fighting or sexing. I plan to keep it that way if I can.

Those videos would have been funny if it wasn't for the fact that that type of thing is so pervasive and commonplace now of days. I can walk around the corner and see that
exact same scenario. It's really sad.

I'm glad you sent a powerful and timely message out there.

CC Solomon April 7, 2009 at 8:49 PM

Wow, how horrible you went through all that!But yeah, I always am on the look out for a camera and what not when I'm acting a fool b/c you never, know I might marry the next president (cause Lord knows I don't want the job) and I don't want to mess him up! hehe

ShellyShell April 7, 2009 at 9:18 PM

LOL! Never been caught on tape but I did have to go to court for stompin this beyatches azz! Another girl got arrested for the beat down and I felt bad so I went and turned myself in. We had to go to court and everything was dropped! But I still remember like it was yesterday beatin her azz!

Anonymous April 7, 2009 at 10:45 PM

I have never been caught on tape for fighting. My tape is actually on youtube I believe. I was young at the time and a little crazy.

Naomi April 8, 2009 at 1:04 AM

never been in a fight...i almost knocked this girl out though with the classroom chair, but the substitute teacher grabbed it from me before it descended on her head. i can't even believe i almost did that cuz now i'm on that "make love, not war" tip. lol

that first one was a mess Eb! only in Florida smh. and the 2nd was just sad and if that's what u did the ol' girl, then she was just sour which is why she did what she did.

She Draws April 8, 2009 at 12:37 PM

Wow,

That is one thing I can say. I was never a fighter in school, on the street or in clubs. When me and the girls went out there was never a " if I have a fight are you jumping in conversation" . Yeah Eb I hope that video never resurfaces as well.

Go.

The F_Uitlist April 8, 2009 at 11:04 PM

I've been lucky not having anything caught on tape. Thank God my fighting days were way before cellphones. Whooo cause there would be a story to tell.

Though my hubby will start telling those stories any time you ask. Damn him I thought weed was suppose to kill your brain cells HAHA

Rich Fitzgerald April 9, 2009 at 10:26 AM

Good advice to the young crowd. Not to long ago I saw this girl while waiting on the train and she looked to be about 16 or so and she had a long scar on her face. I imagined it came from a fight. I was saddened at the sight of it, because looking from the crowd she was with she was likely fingered because "she thought she was cute."

That's ignorant I know, but kids fight over dumb stuff like that all the time.

Amarie April 9, 2009 at 7:49 PM

Thank goodness, no! lol These females are just outta control.

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KIKI April 10, 2009 at 12:06 PM

Let me first start off by sayin...Why da hell the heffa in the first video gotta be named Kiki? Gives the rest of us Kiki's a bad name!

And have I ever been caught on tape? Not for fighting, but for...ummmmm...well...see what had happened was...yeah, lets just say the last thing on my mind was fighting while the tape was rollin.

Which reminds me...I need to make a phone call (find out what my ex did with that damn tape).

But yeah...good message Eb. Always be on your P's & Q's. 'Cause nothin disappears FOREVER in the digital age!

Stew April 10, 2009 at 3:08 PM

i have made some tapes, but i have no intention of puttin them out on the web. just made them for my own personal enjoyment.

i got my ass knocked out one time outside of a club trying to stop my homeboy from getting into a fight (bad idea) and i am so glad that no one was taping then.

i went down like a sack of potatoes

Abbi April 20, 2009 at 6:13 PM

That was hilarious...thx for sharing!!!

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