Just because I'm already wet doesn't mean I don't want to be explored

OK, so this post might be a little TMI for some of my readers but its been on my mind lately and I gotta get it out.

OK so homegirl below my belly button is always wet. I mean I can walk down the street and she is having a field day by herself without even seeing a fine hunky sexy chocolate of a man pass by. This is both a blessing and a curse. Blessing because whenever I want to get down with the get down, she is always ready. A curse because when its time to get down with the get down, a brotha puts his hand down there and feels that she's ready to go and then feels the need to dive right in. Just because she is ready to go DOES NOT mean that I am aroused.

I've never really been a sexual person before the last year so never felt the need to really explain to a partner in particular what I wanted because I really didn't know what I wanted. I mean I know what I liked and didn't like, and what I would try and wouldn't try but mainly just went with the flow. Now I am at a point in my life where every time I want to get down I want to get mine, so how do I explain to a cut buddy without hurting his feelings that he isn't doing enough. I mean the whole purpose of you being a cut buddy is to give me the business and if you ain't doing it then maybe I need to take some applications for a new cut buddy.

It's crazy because the first time they always act like their in the Olympics going for the gold. They wanna give you something to talk about, and ensure they get some more. Then after that they just want to dive right in. I want to feel wanted, I want to be explored. So I wrote a little ditty about it. It's still a work in progress... don't even really completely like how it flows, but wanted to share anyway.

Explore Me

She's ready but I'm not
Please don't ignore my senses
Touch and taste, see hear smell
Take the time to explore me

See how sexy I look in my lingerie
Smell the sweet aroma of my freshly bathed skin
Touch every part of me where you find fancy
Taste the labia from which you want to penetrate
and listen to the pleasure sounds that brings
Rub, kiss, lick, bliss
Explore Me

You can submerge yourself in my sweet juices soon enough
I promise my walls will close so tight on your manpart
that you feel orgasmic claustrophobia
But for now just want the outer me
Tongue on the small of my back
Lips pressed gently against my neck

My nipples would like some attention too
Then take care of my belly button who tends to get jealous
Rub your subtly shaved chin across my bikini line
Ms. Clit will label you a tease
When that bottom lip grazes my inner thigh
You might not last 5 minutes when you enter my lagoon
Massage, bite, spank, excite

Explore Me

Be playful, I love to be picked up
Whisper things that make me smile
My body is your secret mission
and your the sergeant I want to conquer all
I love your tool and you get the job done
But strategy is how you earn the purple heart

Felicitous gestures genuinely make the water fall
Your fine but your presence isn't the reason I'm wet
So take the time to let my elixir flow because of you
Patience, attention, seduction, obsession
Explore Me

Copyright © 2008 by Jonesin' Enterprises All rights reserved worldwide. No part of this may be used or reproduced in any manner whatsoever without prior written permission.


Lina October 14, 2008 at 11:07 AM

Holy shitake mushrooms, Eb!!! That was hot!! And I agree with all of it, just cause we ain't makin love doesnt mean we can't fake it...whew chile. And I just hope that all that you want, you are willing to give...cause there is as much pleasure in giving as receiving. ;-)

MzInspiredMind81 October 14, 2008 at 11:23 AM

HOT DAM!!!! I need to call my manfriend and see what he's doing for lunch! Hopefully it will be me! *wink*

Anonymous October 14, 2008 at 11:26 AM


I couldn't even read the poem right now. I'm irritated than a mugg that I can't get any right now cuz I'm watchin this fool snore and knows that when he does wake up, we won't have time to get it in before he leave.

This so didn't help. Lol.

MP October 14, 2008 at 11:28 AM

SPEAK on it! Lucky for me I have had partners that know what foreplay means but when i don't get it a few consecutive times i start to feel just like this.

Keith October 14, 2008 at 11:31 AM

I love this post...and don't feel bad..I have always wanted to know what women really want and how they want it. A lot of them were just as you said- Either unknowing themselves or afraid of hurting someone's feelings. IT's a new day though. (BTW I have this artwork that you used..I love it.)
I think one of the artist's names is Merrill.The other is Kolongi. I love em both.)

MISS*Petite October 14, 2008 at 11:39 AM

lol! i can get with this...u kno wat u like so...who can knock that!!!

Anonymous October 14, 2008 at 11:48 AM

GO HEAD!!! I swear that I had this conversation with someone the other day so I completely feel where you're coming from. As far as letting him know what you want without hurting his feelings, don't use words. Guide him gently (hands, mouth, etc) to where you want him to go.

Anonymous October 14, 2008 at 12:28 PM

I agree to the fullest Eb!! As soon as they feel the juices, they think it means go for the goods.

Traycee October 14, 2008 at 12:36 PM

"Doesn't Mean I dont want to be explored"....You spoke on the behalf of a whole lot of women ..Girlfriend...

the.socialight October 14, 2008 at 12:41 PM

Well, as a well meaning, productive and progressive man, I will say you must communicate. In bed, on the sofa, on the kitchen counter, on the floor, washing machine, damn, the stairs...ok. wow. lol
Communicating what you want, what you need to fully experience your intimacy and hopefully a breath-taking orgasm, you must communicate. As you are inexperienced, some men are as well. So, just because you're wet (sweet jesus!) doesn't mean you're ready, explore communicating...(ie..no, eat me or no, suck here, or there) We as men, sometimes feel the wetness and get a little excited, yet a man who seeks to please you won't dive before you're ready. All in all, communicate what you enjoy, you know your body better than anyone!

The Wetter the Better. Remember this. lol

Pocahontaz October 14, 2008 at 12:42 PM

nasty girl!!!...I mean that in a good way..go head then...girl you done got something started..aint nothin wrong with getting yours..get it while the gettin is good!

Anonymous October 14, 2008 at 12:42 PM

Right on point Eb!!! (as always) Sometimes you have to be blunt though and just tell it like it is. "Boo you're not doing it for me. This is what I need.....Can you handle that?"

Anonymous October 14, 2008 at 12:42 PM

I loved that poem!

the.socialight October 14, 2008 at 12:43 PM

Also, people need to stop "fucking" and expecting the atmosphere to set itself. Set the atmosphere for what you really want. Communication again will alleviate a lot of this. Peace.

Ms. Jones October 14, 2008 at 12:52 PM

Alrighty then! Loved the poem and its so true...the art of exploration is becoming damn near extinct.

Eb the Celeb October 14, 2008 at 1:05 PM

@lina- yes more than willing to give as much as I receive but rarely get the chance to because there all gung ho about penetration, I usually end up doing the giving to get him up for a second round since he is dead limp and I aint done

@skinny- girl you lucky to be able to still have one laid up next to you that late in the morn... most of mine gotta be out at the crack of dawn to be to work

@the socialight - so much truth and coming from a man means so much more... my problem is when it comes to this type of ish, feelings, sex, emotions, and all... I am like a dude and would rather not talk about it. I get so uncomfortable and dont even know myself because I rarely get intimidated. So maybe I will just forward him this poem and see if he gets the hint before I result to a full on conversation

Beautifully.Conjured.Up October 14, 2008 at 1:22 PM

So in other words, foreplay is desired, required, and never gets tired...I heard that.

Jada October 14, 2008 at 1:26 PM

WOW! The title caught my attention! And girl you ain't said nothing but a word! You need to stay out of my head!

Liz October 14, 2008 at 1:27 PM

first of all to lina... Holy shitake mushrooms is hilarious...

ok now i am gonna have to read this at home... ha haa! good stuff

Monique October 14, 2008 at 1:29 PM

You need to him straight up so you're not wasting your time (or theirs!) and you're getting what you want.

Hot poem. I have a couple of those paintings.

Lovebabz October 14, 2008 at 1:38 PM

This is a PCHATS POST!

OOH and I am hoping it will repost there when it's finished with its tour here? LOL!

And Sister...AMEN!

the.socialight October 14, 2008 at 1:40 PM

Yea, EB send the poem. It's for him. Who better to take heed?

Ticia October 14, 2008 at 1:51 PM

This was great - I had the same feelings Friday night .....

RealHustla October 14, 2008 at 1:56 PM

Okay, here's my advise:

When you're on your dates, your movie, your art exhibit, your listener's party, where ever, fondle him. No, you don't gotta put your hands in his pants, but put them some place you wouldn't put on some guy you weren't dating. If he fights back, it doesn't matter, he'll get the point. You CAN do this without everyone noticing and causing a scandal.

He'll prolly start to fondle you back, and this will excite YOU more. By the time you get in the car he'll be trying to hide his hands under your clothes like they are fugitives.

I guess the point there was to don't expect to receive anything that you don't give. This goes for everything. It doesn't taste that bad. (How's that for a little TMI?)

Play truth or dare, and make the dares impossible to resist. Truth or dare "What's the highest balance you've ever had in your bank account. Tell me the truth or I dare you to stick your tongue as far inside me as you can."

You get the point, right?

Da Vinci The Verbal Arteest October 14, 2008 at 2:04 PM


whew at this post tho! I can't be readin RBW at my job anymore lol

Sexxy Luv October 14, 2008 at 2:09 PM

You my sex life is down the drain right now so what would make you post something to get me going! lol

The art work didn't help either!

princessdominique October 14, 2008 at 3:24 PM

Lovely post, my peeve is don't go through relationship collection tricks from former lovers and assume I'll love it too. Explore me and find out what I like. Excellent!

Demiera October 14, 2008 at 3:51 PM

Oh Jesus. I love this poem b/c I can identify...you speak the truth!!

On this note I think I need to get my boyfriend and tell him he's got some work to do... ;)

Queen of My Castle October 14, 2008 at 4:00 PM

Oddly enough it's both a gift and an curse to FINALLY know what you want in regards to carnal pleasure. Something about getting older that makes you bolder and more self aware. Loved this post, not for its erotic nature, but more for its grown woman I-know-what-I-want air.

G-Sweet October 14, 2008 at 4:06 PM

jus tell him he hasnt been satisfying you... i mean if u guys are having sex, the least u should be able to talk about is 'sex'... if he's not man enough to take constructive criticism then maybe u should start takin applications... *clearing throat* ;0)

at least u care some women would jus fire him and keep it movin...lol...

but ur just tranna' correct the problem...

dyin laffin at the "Olympics goin for the gold"... yes we do that shit!... its like insurance... hahaha... u feel me... but i sure as hell dont believe in one time service

any way the poem was official, keep up the work...


YoungBlackBeauty October 14, 2008 at 4:22 PM

OK. Maybe a lil TMI , LOL! But I feel you.

Nola.Divine October 14, 2008 at 4:31 PM

Okay that's it - Let's get crackin' on your spotlight. I love how real your poems are!

I'll email you about it this week!

CocaColaCutie October 14, 2008 at 4:38 PM

I have the same damn problem eb. This one dude used to call me splash, but he was pretty good about the foreplay.

clnmike October 14, 2008 at 4:40 PM

Jesus, I need a cold shower now.

Only thing I can say is that to take control if you want it done right,telling him in the right way will ensure that it will be done the right way.

Ms. Lovely October 14, 2008 at 5:01 PM

Sheesh! that is so true...I can't stand no bunny fucker!

Anonymous October 14, 2008 at 5:24 PM

Word up! Heyyyy! LOL

Chris October 14, 2008 at 6:12 PM

I'm glad I'm at the crib reading this...now I'm in need of a cold shower, real nice, LOL...

Square Biz, even if it just a physical thing, that's all the more reason for a dude to survey the lay of the land, if you will. As my spiritual advisor Katt Williams so eloquently says...

"If a woman should be so kind as to offer you some pussy, it is your obligation to fuck the shit out of her at every opportunity..."

Kryssy October 14, 2008 at 7:08 PM

EB... I effin' HATE you for this. I am so serious!
I'm boycotting your blog for 1 whole hour.
How is a girl supposed to stay celibate... when you posting -ish like this.
*throws hands up*

Mizrepresent October 14, 2008 at 7:29 PM

Gurl, go'on head and get your hotness on...but i hear you on the WET part...that's why i wear pantiliners! lol!

Pajnstl October 14, 2008 at 9:36 PM

ummm GREAT post eb!
Love the poetry!!

Ma'at October 14, 2008 at 9:49 PM

Eb am I rubbing off on you lol. Kidding, but this is a good post and so much the truth. I learned from jump that I had to speak up and if a man couldn't handle direction then I didn't need him. Oh yeah I posted about the hair again lol

Big Cheekz October 14, 2008 at 11:28 PM

gurl, that was da shyt! one of the reasons i love ur blog is bcs u keep it so real

Gorgeous Geek October 14, 2008 at 11:46 PM

Like seriously i'm was trying to study now i feel like making a trip elsewhere lol

ShellyShell October 14, 2008 at 11:58 PM

This was hot.. I loved it! Not a good look that I read it before bed!!

12kyle October 15, 2008 at 12:00 AM

tell us how you really feel sis?? lol

very well put. nuffin wrong with gettin it off your chest.

The Jaded NYer October 15, 2008 at 12:39 AM

what in the... nuh-uh... do you know there are nekkid people on your blog?

I gotta go.. my virgin eyes can't take it... lol

Ness October 15, 2008 at 1:12 AM

Tht's so true. I don't understand why some men just go in, like they don't need to show our bodies the attention it deserves. They want the attention right? They always want someone to pleasure them with head and to get their mojo going even if they're already rock hard.

I usually say how I feel, let em' know that she needs luv and reacts to the attention. This ain't a swimming pool, u can't dive in lol

Eb the Celeb October 15, 2008 at 1:26 AM

@lovebabz - you know I only drop the comedic sexy posts at pchats...lol, but maybe when I get a final draft I will post the poem over there

@ticia - girl are you sexin'?

@realhustla - you off the chain

@princess d - so true!

@queen - yeah I guess from that perspective is it too... its a lot easier to be sexing when you dont really know what you like or want

@g-sweet - not I wouldn't fire him for this... he is good... just not great... now if he was flat out terrible and if I hadn't got the business from him before then maybe, but its just been lately he just dives in and needs to get back to marathon status

bring it on Nola...lol

@Chris - Mad that Katt is your spiritual advisor but that was a good one

@kryssy - dang... I forgot you aint getting none... so sorry...lol

thx big cheekz... that's all I can do is be real and be me, trying to be something I'm not takes way too much time that quite frankly I don't have...

lmao @ jaded nyer... now you know... ha!

-::brown sugar::- October 15, 2008 at 1:44 AM

oh my my my!

I feel you girl...its like..they go for the GOLD! and next time around its like...'well i medaled already so let's go ahead and just do the do...'

uhhh no. but im likin' the flow. ^_^

Anonymous October 15, 2008 at 3:46 AM

i can't say anything to the above because i'm slightly ashamed to discuss things like this in public. all i can is that you've been listening to yung berg and that you need to be seduced.

Seduce Me

seduce me
write me a poem
tell me about the scent of musk at the nape of my neck
that you dream of spending sultry summer days between my breasts
that if you could taste me
it would be mangoes and tropical breezes on your tongue
keeping you up at 2am
for weeks
staring at black ceilings
legs entwined in sheets
wiping your brow
wondering when the next will be
seduce me
write me a poem
drop those weak pick up lines
and overwhelm me with quotes from Nerudas 100 love sonnets
tell me I walk in beauty like the night
trace the lines in the palm of my left hand
then read and whisper their meaning
to me
tell me my life line crosses your destiny
imprint your words on me like overnight scratchmarks
leave butterflies in my stomach
with honeysuckle syllables
that remind me of first kisses
and holding hands at recess
seduce me
write me a poem
that prays my name
and preaches our passion
chant a litany of our lovemaking to come
under your breath
with the faith of withered hands holding rosaries in cathedrals
until images of us entwined in each other
burn themselves inside our minds
like incense at mass
seduce me
write me a poem
with your eyes
lock glances for a moment
across a crowded room
soft smirk on full lips
and a slow deliberate blink followed by a flutter of eyelashes
that says
damn I wish...
seduce me
write me a poem
with your body
approach me with the certainty of the tide
move to me without doubt or question
make me your origin
and your destination
let music be the catalyst that lets our bodies meet
spin me in and out of conga rhythms
lead me into a Coltrane wail
grind me into the bass-line
of between the sheets...
then pull me close enough
to feel our hearts beat together
when we dance
seduce me
write me a poem
that speaks of our timelessness
remind me it was you I loved in a past life
on some faraway continent
tell me I carry you in my genes
that I can't forget you if I tried
that our memories are engraved into eternity
that time is just a theory to us
seduce me
write me a poem
that needs no words
compose a silent sonnet on soft bare skin
where your caress on exposed back
speaks that syllable I need to hear you
a poem
where melding bodies become
the book
where shallow breathing becomes prose
seduce me
inspire me to write you the poem
that shows you how to love me

by Mayda Del Valle

Eb the Celeb October 15, 2008 at 9:02 AM

@Emeritus - uuummm no... wont be listening to any yung berg... he doesn't like "dark butts" like me

Darius T. Williams October 15, 2008 at 9:29 AM

*reaches for a bible*

In Jesus name...AMEN!


THERAPY October 15, 2008 at 10:16 AM

Hey EB,
love your post may like to use it in one of my sessions one day.

as a therapist i here this topic all the time. abt the whole exploration of one body not quick fast in the rush get it while its hot poke or be poke sex.
but suprisly there are large number of men who visit me who complain abt their significant others lack of exploartion as well!
so i guess this is a two way street. it goes back to the big word.....COMMUNICATION!!
whether it be fuck buddies, in the cut girl/guy, the ex makes the sex spectacular, the youngin or old daddy.
if we dont explain what we like when we do realize whatr we like we will all ways remain in the same place. but hey discussion is also needed so that we can at least begin the process to opening the door to fullfillment or the attempt to fullfillment!!

again great post!!

PreciousGem-Refinement in Progress October 15, 2008 at 10:32 AM

I would love for my ex to read this entire post! How about how this issue becomes even more exaggerated when he knows he's packing, like that gives him a skip foreplay pass? I just got tired of hearing "but she's ready". LOL!

Eb the Celeb October 15, 2008 at 10:37 AM

@Therapy - Well thx for the free advice... free advice from a professional at this is a bonus... might have to stalk your blog now so I can figure out all my problems for free...lol

@preciousgem - girl yes.... that's why I had to mention the "tool" in the last stanza... yes I like what you have to offer... that is a blessing, but just because you are packing doesn't mean you don't have to do anything else bruh

Ms.Honey October 15, 2008 at 11:48 AM

I can def dig this some guy thought he was the BOMB just cause I was wet down there I was like boo she's always like a river lol you didnt do that lol

Anonymous October 15, 2008 at 12:57 PM

my bad. he just came out with that song "gimme the business" so i naturally thought... ah well. sorry eb!

Sha Boogie October 15, 2008 at 2:48 PM

You betta preach, preacher! Shewww...I know what you mean. Miss thang is never ready, so my boo knows the song: you got to lick it! before you stick it! LOL!

Gangstarr Girl October 15, 2008 at 3:12 PM

YES! At least you're learning what you want. It is hard to express that to your partner but at the end of the day, if he's not willing to satisfy then, NEXT.

NaturallyAlise October 15, 2008 at 4:51 PM

orgasmic claustrophobia, well alrighty, from one poet to another that is a hot line, andt I shall try to slide (pun intended) into conversation soon and very soon....bravo miss eb.

Eb the Celeb October 15, 2008 at 7:20 PM

@emeritus - its all good... loved the poem though

@sha boogie - I used to be like that too... but ever since I moved to NYC the juices just flow... maybe its the change of water...lol

@bougie negro - Well thank u much!

@natural elise - I like saying the felicitous gestures genuinely... its like a tongue twister.. and anytime your tongue is working its a good thing...hehehehehehe

K. Denise October 15, 2008 at 9:22 PM

Maaannn...talk about being able to relate lol.


The Girl From Park Heights October 17, 2008 at 4:30 PM

Wow, gotta say I'm jealous. I've always wondered what it felt like to always be ready.

The Girl From Park Heights October 17, 2008 at 4:30 PM

Wow, gotta say I'm jealous. I've always wondered what it felt like to always be ready.

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