Letting your kid develop a personal style

Now I'm not a parent, but I hope to be one day... so I wondered at what age do you let your child experiment and develop their own style outside the house?

I remember we all dressed up and wore crazy things inside the house but when you were going out with my mom she made sure you weren't looking a mess. Vaseline on the face, clothes matching, hair done, etc.

We all know in many other cultures children are allowed to run free outside the house on the regular.
Here we have
Exhibit A. The latino girl
She is adorable in her ballroom dress. Now we can't see her feet though. Want to know why? Because you know she has sneakers on... mmm hmmm.

Exhibit B. The white girl
Even though she's rocking it kinda fly...white kids are always dressed in some rainbow colors. This chick in the center with the hearts and the stripes is blinding me. No way will my kid walk out with me looking like a skittle.

So at what age do you let them have their own style???

This question came about after seeing recent pictures of Will & Jada's kids Willow and Jaden.
Willow is 9 years old and they have let her shave the side of her head (a la Cassie) and Jaden is 11 and they have just let his hair have a mind of its own.
I am not feeling Jaden's hair at all and even though I can't imagine letting my daughter shave her head at age 9, this cut is super cute on her. I am loving this on so many levels lil Willow.

The cutest thing about this whole situation is that its more than evident she has her dad's ears.

So Question for the Day : At what age do you let your child develop their own style???
PS - Another cool Celeb kid that I think is probably the coolest kid ever is Rev Run's son Diggy.
I loved him the most on the show and he really have his own style... and recently released a mixtape.
 
Yeah I know what you're thinking, the kid is 14 and I'm not into the bubblegum rap but he's actually pretty good. Its definitely worth a listen. Click on the album cover to download.

6 comments

MzInspiredMind81 December 13, 2009 at 10:50 PM

I'm mom to a 7yr old and 5yr old. My 7yr old has definitely started to develop her own personal style. I could see traces of it in the first grade, and by the time school started this year, it was clearly evident. I allow Ryann to spread her lil wings when it comes to her style of dress(of course Momma has the ultimate say though)

Soulstress December 13, 2009 at 11:04 PM

i dont have kids but i agree with above comment that its ok to let a child have their own style but i wuld have the final say...idk bout shavin my daughter's head tho..smh

The Jaded NYer December 13, 2009 at 11:25 PM

A really good pediatrician told me once- pick your battles.

Basically as long as the clothes fit, match (somewhat), are clean and not ho-ish, my daughters can wear what they want.

Now hair is different. I need for hair to be age appropriate. My 14yr old wore pigtails for the longest because I'll be damned if I have them out there looking 5yrs older than they are. That shaved head mess on a 9yr old is just that- a MESS. But I don't go by what Hwood people do because they seem to operate by a whole different set of rules. CRAZY rules.

contagiouslyCRANKY December 15, 2009 at 4:50 PM

I too am not with Willow shaving her head. That's just a bit much. Especially when she begins to realize that the grow back stage isnt the prettiest and starts throwing tantrums because her hair isnt doing what the hell she wants it to do.

Tiffany December 19, 2009 at 11:07 PM

I think kids should develop their own personal style from a young age.

buttahflychronicles January 8, 2010 at 6:16 PM

I think it's important for kids to have their own sytle outside of the house right away. Why? Because they may very well feel pressured to conform to various uniforms as adults. i.e. uniforms, business attire, etc. Lady Gaga probly had to wear shcool uniforms all her life.

I do have guidelines however so that my children are sure to look well groomed. For example, if you want to wear a ball gown, you have to do the whole thing, no sneakers. No hard mohawks, fauxhawks only. I'm so adimant about this my barber has developed a method that nearly allows the hair to grow back evenly on my son, don't know how he does it he's amazing. Oh, and no torn clothing whatsoever.

So I guess I'm really taking it on a case by case basis, but I really want them to feel that self expression is welcome.

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