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MAY 2007

Back in college at North Carolina A&T State University... AGGIE PRIDE! One of my professors handed out an article that the Editor-in-Chief of Essence Magazine, Ms. Susan L. Taylor wrote in August 1995. The article was called "What are your intentions?" After reading the article, the assignment was to write a Personal Goal Essay. I immediately thought about this assignment a couple months ago when I was trying to decide what I really wanted to do with my life. I have worked in radio, television, production, news, and now in sports and I was sort of feeling that at my age I should start focusing on one thing. But after speaking with Ms. Helen Little, (a guru in the Radio industry) at a NABFEME event, I realized that I dont have to focus on one thing, and that I can do it all, but the key to that is writing it all down first. Reflecting back on those goals, and making sure you are making steps towards achieving them. I regret that I cant find the paper I wrote back in college, to see if I am where I thought I was going to be at this time in my life. Nevertheless, I have done the assignment all over and I encourage all my other Renaissance Black Women out there to do the same.

What are your intentions?
What are your hopes for the future? What kind of life do you envision yourself living five to ten years from now? Do you see yourself as happy and whole? Are you striving or struggling? Do you have rich and satisfying relationships? Are you productive and contributing to our cause? One thing we can be sure of is that our lives will be different tomorrow from what they are today. Life moves forward, and change is guaranteed. If we think critically about the future we want, we can lay the foundation for it and do the work that will make our dreams real. We can make change an ally rather than an adversary. If we know where we want to go, we can create our map for getting there. But without a goal or a plan, we may wander aimlessly for years. Without something specific to act on, we react to everything, waste our time and frustrate ourselves. As our elders so wisely counsel: If you fail to plan, you plan to fail.

We all want a better life for ourselves. We all want to feel productive, prosperous, and secure. But often the energy we need to create the future we hope for is given to worthless pursuits, or to needless worry and fear. All the good things we desire are within our reach, though they may be sitting in the blind spots of our own bad habits and anxiety.

What are my intentions? This is the most important question we must ask and answer for ourselves. In order to feel valid, confidant, and at peace, we must live authentically. We must design a life that is in harmony with the truth of who we are. Often in my travels I hear folks say, "I hate my job, but it's a living." A job is more than a living: it's our life's work, what we give to God for the gift of our lives. Work is love made manifest. Whatever you love doing is the work you were created to do. God didn't create us to flounder in any situation that underutilizes our strengths and talents, but rather to take charge of our circumstances and encourage ourselves to grow.

Give a gift of love to yourself by scheduling quiet time alone - time to focus on where you're going, to make sure your intentions are in accord with who you are. You'll make yesterday's fantasies into tomorrow's reality by working toward set goals today. Know your intentions. Declare them! Your word is part of your plan. Speak it, if only to yourself, then follow it through to fruition.

For years I said I wanted to own my own home, but I didn't take the necessary steps - sitting down and figuring out why I had no savings, and making some hard but worthwhile decisions - to make my dream come true. Once I made my intention clear and reminded myself of it every day, I found it easier to forgo purchases of the trendy and expensive clothes I was addicted to. I cut up any charge cards that didnt demand full payment each month, ate more of my meals at home and brought my lunch to work. In a couple of years I had the deed to my new home in my hand.

Self-mastery begins with making your intentions clear and understanding that the only limitations are those we devise in our mind. There is always something we can do to change an undesirable situation, because God has given us the power to choose. And that, in large measure, is the miracle of life and what we are here to discover.

Write an essay on your personal goals, short and long range. Explain tasks you have performed, or will perform in order to achieve these goals. Define practical experience that will get you where you want to be. Explain your strategy for obtaining these goals.

All the best,


natural muze September 21, 2007 at 8:58 AM

oh this is completely awesome. mind if i actually do it? i may post it on my blog...then again i may not. but i will definitely link you if i do.

great blog by the way. and thanks for stopping by my site. i will be back for sure.

diary of a G October 24, 2007 at 6:06 PM

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Likes ur profile
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I have to agree with One Man. I gotta learn how to send music piping out of my blog.

Ebonne October 31, 2007 at 5:32 PM

Thanks guys... and gals...

mikirooy November 18, 2007 at 12:26 AM

Sweet post. One of my law school profs had us write a similar type of letter. Sometimes I wonder about the whole being authentic. It's a clash of generations, you know? Our parents made a greater sacrifice and it's hard to explain to them that because of their sacrifice we don't have to compromise and how eternally grateful we are to them for that... But anyway I'm rambling now. Happy blogging!

Ticia November 27, 2007 at 10:18 PM

Also post!!!! I am that woman :)

Onome November 28, 2007 at 2:34 AM

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Torrance Stephens bka All-Mi-T November 28, 2007 at 3:13 PM

whats the key for a man and would i qualify, don and Rich, yawlneed to write about this

Andrew The Asshole November 28, 2007 at 4:50 PM

I grew up in the NC, so its good to see a fellow blogger from the NC. More people should read that article and write out their intentions. A mentor made me do that at 15 and it has change the course of my life. Andrew is a character but the person behind the character will be leaving her job for good, under 30... all because i wrote my intentions down.

Sugar December 2, 2007 at 8:33 PM

Very nice. I've been meaning to write down my goals for THREE WEEKS....sad. Maybe I'll do it right now.

Anonymous December 3, 2007 at 9:53 PM

Thanks for the comment. I'm going to read that Susan Taylor article. I agree that you shouldn't just have a job, you should do what your passion's sad that a lot of people realize that really late in life. I love your blog. And you're right, we do seem to have a lot in common :)

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James Tubman December 6, 2007 at 7:58 AM

this is purpose of life, to live out our unique goals and contribute our specific talents to humanity

very well articulated

unfortunately, modern day advertising tells us that the goal of all of our acomplishments is to buy stuff

and many of us believe this

and the goals of black people should be to maintain our own race and all that we need so that we won't dependent on others for everything we need to survive

thanx for stoping by

Anonymous December 10, 2007 at 2:49 PM

Thats powerful.

Sha Boogie December 12, 2007 at 2:24 PM

That was so INSPIRING!!! OMG..loved it, simply loved it. Every word, every sentence, got my mind working right now! Thank you for that :)

TravelDiva December 13, 2007 at 10:32 AM

This is really thought-provoking. Thanks for the tips!

Femigog December 15, 2007 at 10:45 AM

This is my first visit here and this first post ensures that I will be a frequent visitor! Thanks for this!

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The [In]Urbane Goddess December 18, 2007 at 7:38 PM

What a wonderful post and a great assignment for us all and to share with others.

WrkNProgress December 23, 2007 at 8:45 PM

Thank for visiting my spot. Wishing you the seasons best!!!!

Love the post!!! Good stuff.

C-dell January 4, 2008 at 2:53 PM

Cool blog stopping by from UB's place.

maverick January 5, 2008 at 7:05 AM

hey...found ur blog thru another..awesome post...left a comment on the post below too ...happy new yr...cheers!!

Ms.Lady January 7, 2008 at 10:45 PM

awesome cousin went to A&T.

Christina January 9, 2008 at 10:25 AM

Thanks for the comment on my page...Very insightful post!

Seven January 9, 2008 at 7:04 PM

Yeah...I feel you. I'm struggling to get the finiancials straight.

The Jaded NYer January 11, 2008 at 9:37 AM

What a beautiful message! I'm totally inspired to write my own essay now...

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